Doing everything by myself plus more besides

I wonder what would we women be if Eve didn't eat the forbidden apple? We might not end up being the obedient servants and suffer in the hands of Adam's descendants.

Sweetie, i am the one who will tell you that is what women are for. But, i tend to get on my feet and start biting. Do that, it normally helps. And um, sell the chickens. TATA.

I hear you jugs. Now don't take me wrong, I love the puppies we have, but when we went to look at them, I didn't expect to get 2 of them.. Before we went, we agreed that since he has a job, I will take care of the dog and he will take care of the financial part. But it was his idea, (without talking to me before) to get 2 puppies because we couldn't agree on which one to get. So far he has taken care of the fee for getting them spayed, but last time we needed dog food, guess who bought it? (ME!) And the nail clippers? (actually these came from my daughter, but I was looking to buy them) and a couple other accessories we need because two take more than one I bought, not him..so what happened to the, "I will take care of the financial part???

Hi, jugsjugs. It would be nice if your husband helped you sort out the chickens. That way you won't have to much on yourself. I hope that he can help you take some of this load off of you.

jugsjugs I am so sorry that you are overwhelmed with so many things. I understand how annoying chickens can be, especially if you were not the one who wanted them to start with. Chickens are alot of responsibility. I would have a talk with my husband if I were in your shoes. He needs to help you out with this mess. If he does not improve and start helping sell them, give them away or just plain ole barbeque them! Lots of luck!

hi jugsjugs.. wish there was something i could say to make you feel better. sounds like you're going through quite a bit. but there must be a reason for you to have lasted so long. look around, maybe you just need to remind yourself of that reason of yours

I feel your pain Jugs. Self preservation is key for me so what I do is not to get into anything I know I hate doing. I love gardening and want nothing to do with rearing animals except a pet here and there. When anyone or something upsets my garden I get annoyed. I draw the line and make sure my two dogs know the boundary. The younger one is a handful but he learns. The nieghbours chicken is another story but she is going to learn to stay away. This may sound cliche but hubby needs a reality talk. For me that talk would be simple.... Take control or get rid of YOUR chickens.

i think you should have a sit down with the husband and tell him how yer feeling.. and if things dont change.. and you are still doing everything without any payback for yer efforts in this lil livestock business.. stop doing it.

That is typically a woman’s lot! My daughter and husband wanted an aquarium to go with the other four pets that we already had and guess who is cleaning out the tank and monitoring the water, cleaning out the decorations, filter etc? Me of course; it takes a long time to take care of everything and when it needs doing I turn around and I’m on my own. Talk to your husband about selling the chickens and if he says no, sell them anyway!

This is one of the disadvantage to marry I would say because even my partner does it to me very contently. I have to do everything myself and sometimes I am really tired which he does not seem to understand like human being do. He does not help and does everything for you to make you irritated sometimes I think they do it on purpose, I think I will take a long holiday without him and I will see how he will manage things out.

Hmm.. I think it is so common. Someone wants to keep a pet and the other has to take care of it.

kids need a garden,they must have somewhere to play,my kids wrecked my garden in the old house,but that's just kids being kids,they need toys and stuff,anything that keeps them occupied,i'd tell your husband to move the chickens so the kids have room to play,and if he won't move them,sell them all and make the garden nice for the kids

Sometimes we overlook something that we thought are simple things to do, but were wrong. Before when my sis was the one assigned to the household chores, I would always think that it was an easy job but now that I'm grown enough to take the households chores, its made realize how stressing it was plus the little children that I need to fed... Sometimes, I just want to scream out so loud!.. I never knew it can this hard... No time to fix yourself.

Gosh jugsjugs, time to have a talk with your husband. Tell him you are fed up with the chickens and then sell them. While you are at it, if he still insists on keeping the chickens, tell him he would have to take care of them himself. Or that he would have to sleep with the chickens....

I can understand how you feel. We live on a farm and we have chickens, horses, pigs, ducks, and rabbits. I enjoy the animals, but instead of one or two of each, he will buy 20-30 and then complain that they are so much work. Well, I didn't tellyou to buy so many and I am not taking care of all by myself. He is really good about taking care of them and I try to help a lot as long as he is working at it too.

Hi jugs, Stories like yours make me glad that I got a divorce and raised my 4 kids on my own. At least I didn't have chickens and another person to take care of.

I hate to say this but you have become an enabler. I am too tho. WE allow certain treatments of ourselves and therefore that gives those who don't do a darn thing the lee way to do as they please because you are doing it all. I did the same with horses, not any more. But you are going to have to quit and let hubby do it...........he's not going to like it. But you now have a choice since you've started all this. Do it or face the consequences. He'll be mad. You'll catch all kinds of h **l and if it's worth the effort continue doing only your jobs and make it clear to him he has his jobs too. Good luck.

really? you have to do it all? what exactly do you have to do?

Hello my tired friend . House work really make you fed up my friend and from your story do you mean you have chicken farm at home (if I don't take it wrongly). If it too heavy for you maybe you can share your house hold job with older kids so you don't have to get every thing done by your self. Thats what happen in our house we all have job, I had to cook, my sister do the dishes and laundry, my mom cleaning the house, my brother and father do washing motorcycle and repair thing, remove heavy object.

Open up your feeling with regards to those to your husband in a very calm and nice way. Communication is good.