Don't become so consumed in a relationship that you forget who you are.
By trinee
@trinee (514)
Trinidad And Tobago
May 21, 2010 11:17am CST
Being in a relationship can be wonderful and fulfilling. However, some people get so caught up in it that they lose their identity. They stop doing many things that made them happy, to be available whenever their mate needs it. Goals and dreams are forgotten. When you are involved with someone and the relationship is serious some changes occur but not to the point where you forget the person you were before the relationship. I think you have to learn to balance things as to have a healthy relationship and still pursue things that mean something to you. How do you feel about this?
2 responses
@med889 (5941)
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21 May 10
This is truly said, It is a vital factor to consider upon, when loving someone it does not mean to forget yourself completely and pay attention only to your partner or the relationship, one has to maintain a profile and work for it everyday. There should be also a selfish part of saying that you can think of yourself too.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
21 May 10
Well that is the tricky part; learning to strike that balance and give of yourself and to yourself as well. Knowing when to give, is what will make the difference and your partner has to know, understand and respect that while you both support each other in a loving way. You also need to give it to him in return. Thank you.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 May 10
You're right. Relationships change us to someone else who, if the relationship ends, we will blame in the future. That's why we hear others saying 'why was i such a fool' bla bla bla.. It's a good point to stop and look back to who we were before we go on with our relationship.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
21 May 10
Indeed. I have had to learn how to balance things in my life and you are right in that when we lose sight of who we are, we end up blaming the other person. To love someone is great but I don't think that it is healthy when you lose yourself in a relationship and forget about those positive things that define you has a person. Thanks for the comment and have a great day.
