When people have a big trouble

When I have a big problem, I seek the comfort of my husband. I don't really talk at first, I just cry it out. After that I talk to him about it.

Hi Cip, When I am big trouble I rant to anyone who will listen, normally via e-mails. I also like to yell in my apartment or glare at random things. This helps me to articulate what is going on so I can understand it better. Having ranted and yelled I will then think really hard about what has been happening (normally while on a walk because I think better in motion) and I will come up with a plan of action. Even if it is something small I always feel better knowing that I thought about something and tried to find a way out. I also tell myself it is an experience and try and make myself laugh at least a few times a day because I hate feeling trapped or angry ~ Cringes ~ It is no fun at all ~ Sighs ~ All the best, Dranz

cip116 Lets see, what do I do, accept that I have big trouble, solve it best I can, and live with the results. Smile, and laugh a bit, as anything else just leads to depression. Right now I am here not because I chose to be in a retirement center at all, but because it was here or wandering around on the sidewalks until time to get into a homeless shelter. Here means I have a place to sleep , a temporary home,and now i have my computer and monitor again I can mylot and forget my problems completely. I have learned to be content with what I do have and not moan for what I do not have.[

Hi cip: I usually want to be alone in those cases. I know that this is not the way most people respond to its trouble but it works for me. When I'm alone I think about the whole problem, my mistakes, etc, and I feel the level of peace I need. Then I try to solve my problems or I go talk with my friends or family and shared my fears to them. Thanks for asking me this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO.

I normally try to be calm and positive about my problems. If i cannot handle it anymore, i always have my mom to figure things out. TATA.

I just love what your friend did. I think there is a lot of truth in what your friend said and did. If it helped him/her it would also help many. I think if we believe and consistently do it we should find a way out of our troubles. I normally write down all my thoughts on how I should handle the situation and get out from it. And I would close my eyes and visualize myself doing it. It sounds easy but it's not. You have to practice a lot and believe it yourself. Above all you have to work for it.

When I face a problem I usually just stop from everything I'm doing....go somewhere, sit alone and think a lot at the whole problem. First I try to convince myself that is not such a big problem even though it is...then I just calm myself down and find the best solution, the one that's more in my advantage...If I can't do that(but usually I solve it by myself ) then I appeal to a friend that I think might help in that certain situation. But the get through of hard time also depends on the type of the problem we are dealing with...Sometimes I wish to be alone, sometimes with the one I love, sometimes with my friends, sometimes with my family etc

Whenever i feel like i'm in trouble i just sit back and relax. I try to breathe deeply. Some people just forgets how to breathe deeply. Whenever i breathe the heaviness just starts to go away and slowly i start to feel light.

I like the idea of the circle. Maybe I will try it. I don't like to talk of my problems though I am changing and talk a little more now. In this case I like to be alone and to isolate myself : I can disconnect the phone during days and don't give news to my best friends until I feel better.

When I'm having hard times I try to face it squarely. If I need to voice it out I would talk to a trusted friend, I don't immediately inform my husband about the situation, I only mention it to him if everything is okay. He works overseas and I don't want him to worry. But when he was with me and I experienced such, then I would openly tell him because I know he will help me solve this problem.

I prefer talking to people who can comfort me or people whom I can just simply share with. Sometimes also, when I'm in trouble I tried telling it to my parents for consultation since they're the best people who can give me a good opinion regarding complicated and troublesome things and because they might have experienced the same and somehow can help me correct my mistakes to solve my problems

when I'm in big trouble I usually think for a possible solution, well I guest I gain that attitude in scouting movement, but if there's a time that I can't think of a solution I try to change my mindset and think of positive things, or try to do something that make me forget about that problem.

well the logic is simple "after every night comes the morning" I don't remember the exact one! So everything that is happening in one's life is a vicious circle if today you are at the peak of happiness then a day will also come when the exact opposite will happen and vice-verse is applicable as well... so just remember that God does everything for your good and as we can't the see the future thus to us its just the phase of sorrow or depression but God can see the future as well, so have faith in God and good!! All these thoughts make me fight the situations, no matter how traumatic they are.

I usually talk problems over with my family and friends and listen to their ideas. Sometimes I write things down too, as I often find that helps too. But really I think anything is good if it helps someone to feel better :-)

Depends on the situation and what problems need to be solved. I can't answer the question fully without knowing what type of situations we are talking about. Big trouble could be mean many things. I could be lost at sea. I could have a health problem. I could have personal problems. All require different solutions.