Meeting A Stranger From The Internet In Person

In my opinion there are good points and bad points to meeting someone online. The internet has made possible so many things and in today's society it would seem fair that it would also help improve our love lives. I think the only downside is people have to be smart about it. A simulated relationship online via emails, messages, and webcam is just that... simulated. You want to talk about all the deep things and not so much the everyday fluff. It's just another avenue to meet someone great or shady! I say be open to it but always meet in a public place. Don't make promises and feel that you owe the other person a relationship when you haven't had a real one. Get to know a person by going out on dates with them in real life. Really get to know who they are and if they want the same things in life as you. I met my boyfriend online and went through many duds and great guys before him! It's all on how you approach it!! Happy hunting everyone!

Hi rosie230, I think it's as safe (or as dangerous) as meeting someone offline. There are a lot of crazy people out there, not just on the internet. I actually met my boyfriend online, and I was uneasy with that at first, but we decided to meet in a public spot (shopping mall) and we went for a movie and 5 months later, I can honestly tell you I'm deeply in love with him, I've met all of his friends and family, and we're very happy together. So I guess it's just luck, both online or offline. You just have to be careful. Happy mylotting!

I have been "meeting" people on-line for MANY years now - since the mid '90's. I've met quite a few of them in person also! I think the first time I met on-line friends was when a group of us planned a get-together in Las Vegas. I ended up rooming with a girl I had not talked with often and had met for the first time when I opened the hotel room door! We had a BLAST! I'm still pretty close with her, went to her wedding and everything - even though I've known her husband more than her. That was such a great time. I have met many other people too. I make sure that it's in a public place and that my family/friends know where I'm going, who I'm meeting and all that. It's a bit safer with cell phones - I didn't have a cell phone the fist time I met on-line friends. You do have to be careful, but if you do it right it can work out great! I wish your brother lots of luck - I know quite a few people who have met on-line and had very happy lives together.

Some people are for it, some are against it, I feel if you go about it the right way (SAFELY) then why not?? In this day and age we are hooked on the web. It's where most of us spend our days..and some even their nights. Myspace has turned us on to Facebook- which for me has turned me on to social dating networks such as Plentyoffish.com. Now do I recommend you meet every Tom, Rich (of course mylot won't let me use the word d*ck- even as a name..smh), or Harry online- NO. But I have met a few people and have actually made a few very good friends with only meeting online. When I do decide to meet up with someone I make sure it is in a very public place so that I feel more secure. I recently met a man on plentyoffish.com. We spoke online and on the phone for about 2 weeks before we decided to meet for dinner. He came to my home town and met me at a local restaurant. We had a GREAT first meeting and I actually have plans with him again TONIGHT. I say don't knock it if you haven't tried it. So many people are judgmental because you don't' know the people. But in reality...everyone is a stranger besides your parents, siblings & family at one point or another....

Hi Rosie, I have personally met 5 people in total from having met on the internet and four of them have been fellow myLotters and the 5th from Facebook. On each occassion they have all been wonderful people who I still remain in contact with today. Only one was a date type thing and he booked into a B&B in my local area and I met him in a piblic place, lovely guy but not for me but we remain friends. The other four were mylotters and one came and stayed with me for a few days, lovely lady who my son adores, two I met together with another myLotter who I met with his wife, again in a piblic place but wonderful people. All we ever hear in the media are the horror stories rather than the successes. The internet is just another social means of meeting people amd the majority are good guys. I am always aware that some of these people aren't who they say they are but having lived a bit of life and being a woman tend to go with my gut feeling and if there is a niggle anywhere I decline and don't meet up with. I wish your brother well in his new relationship. Huggles. Ellie :D

I have met quite a lot people from the internet. I have met two of my best friends online. We started as online friends and after some time we decided to arrange a meeting. The first girl visited me in my town and we got along really, really well right from the start. It was just supposed to be a short meeting, but we talked for many hours and today (10 years later) we are still close friends. The other online friend and I met in her town and we drank coffee in cafe. We talked a lot and we didn't feel like ending the meeting so we decided to have lunch together as well. Today we have been friends for 6 years. 5 years ago I was a member of a social networking site and I decided to start a local group from my area. Some of us decided to meet. I think that we were 5 or 6 people. We had coffee together, and afterwards we had dinner. The meeting went well so we decided to arrange a new meeting the next month. Today the group no longer exist, but I still talk to some of the members every once in a while. I have been on a couple of dates with men that I met on the internet. The first couple of dates didn't go that well, but the third time I met my husband and in May we have been married for 4 years. I am not afraid of meeting people from the internet, but I always arrange the first meeting at a public place like a cafe or a restaurant. I wouldn't invite a stranger into my home and I wouldn't accept an invitation to visit a stranger in their home.

Its really scary to meet people in the internet. Ive heard so many stories about people meeting from the internet and then something happened. If im correct one mylotter here shared a story about a girl from australia (if im correct. When she had an eyeball with this guy she meet online and then when they meet he killed and raped the girl. I suggest we need to be very careful in meeting new people. Before meeting someone we should make sure that we know the person very well.

Hello rosie, He got lucky or simply it was destiny to have this girl. why did i said so, because most people end up being disappointed or simply just plain wrong idea. do you know that some people or women get raped or killed for meeting with pretenders online, now that's the scary part. well, keep observing your brother, and be on guard to his girlfriend, not every one seemed the same the way she is in the internet.

Yes, I have met someone that I chatted with on yahoo Messenger once. It was just coincidence that I chatted with someone who lives nearby and so after much fooling around, and he said he seriously wants to see me, I agreed and we met on a public place. After that meeting, he seemed such a nice guy and we never arranged a meeting after that because we are both busy with our own lives and we never had a chance to be such good friends in real life. We still chat sometimes though. That was a nice experience by the way especially because he is practically a neighbor as he frequents our street to watch the local basketball league, it was just my luck that I met a good person like him, and not an opportunist.

Most people online are liar. They are lying because it is too easy to lie here. And you'll not got caught that easy. So beware of meeting strangers online. They might be hiding something from you.

Making friends on internet is the same dangerous than in normal live. The only difference between meeting someone personally and someone on internet is that it seems easier for many people to open mind and heart and to start a conversation. What I really want to say is that having a person in front of you sometimes we might get shy and don't express everything what we really want to say. But, sitting in front of our PC, we sometimes don't realize that we talk to someone as we cannot see his or her face (if you don't use the webcam, of course). In my case, I also knew people through internet several years ago and it was easy for me. As I was working, I had no time to know new people in the area I live because I had no time. It was always the same: from home to work, afterwards shopping and back home again to cook, cleaning, and so on. In my free time, I switched on my computer and there I started to chat with people. Some of them I met personally as several people lived near to me. But thanks to internet, I met my actual husband ten years ago and who came over from another country and since then, we never get seperated. In my case, it was luck, because I already saw many abuse and wrong behaviour in internet. So people have to be very carefull!

Making friends on internet is the same dangerous than in normal live. The only difference between meeting someone personally and someone on internet is that it seems easier for many people to open mind and heart and to start a conversation. What I really want to say is that having a person in front of you sometimes we might get shy and don't express everything what we really want to say. But, sitting in front of our PC, we sometimes don't realize that we talk to someone as we cannot see his or her face (if you don't use the webcam, of course). In my case, I also knew people through internet several years ago and it was easy for me. As I was working, I had no time to know new people in the area I live because I had no time. It was always the same: from home to work, afterwards shopping and back home again to cook, cleaning, and so on. In my free time, I switched on my computer and there I started to chat with people. Some of them I met personally as several people lived near to me. But thanks to internet, I met my actual husband ten years ago and who came over from another country and since then, we never get seperated. In my case, it was luck, because I already saw many abuse and wrong behaviour in internet. So people have to be very carefull!

I have met quite a few people that I befriend with on the internet. Some of them, we lost touch again - probably because we haven't had much in common. And some of them, we stay good friends. I agree with most of the responses. It is as much a risk as meeting someone offline. You never know what kind of person until you know them better. One of my husband's best friends met his last three girlfriends on the internet. He is with the third one at the moment.

in all this I think that you are right. it never happened to me, but I heard all kind of bad things happening. I mean is nice to have friends over the internet to chat and change thoughts, but to meet them is something different. if they are bad persons? I can never do that. Maybe I am paranoic, but I think that better we watch out. I mean if the person is nice, it's ok, but if he or she is a killer or something...OMG! I better stay away.everybody says to stay away from strangers. if we talk over the internet it means that we know that person? I do not think so. they are stii strangers to us, so...why in the world we want meeting them?

Well I have met a couple from online, they play cards in the same room as I do, and was going to one's brother's house in a state below me. They was passing on the Interstate, just a few miles from my house and mentioned it to me, that they could stop by and meet me. But they kept insisting, so I said ok. I didn't want to seem rude or unfriendly. Well like you I am leary of people that want to stop by that are from another place and I don't know, but they seemed ok. But to make sure, I had other people here when they arrived, so it wasn't just us against them. He kept talking about what was I going to cook, they was returning home from their trip when they stopped and it was a good ways from where they left to my house. So I spent all morning cooking a meal for them. Of which they barely touched. And I can cook, people call and ask me to make this or that for them to take to some party, so it wasnt' the cooking that they didn't like. After they was here for awhile I got the idea, that they was after gossip about the others in the card lobby. Well I don't talk gossip about people where I play cards. They stayed aobut 4 hours, when they got home and signed into this game lobby. They said horrible things about their visit to my house, the food was bad, the house was dirty, (excuse me, my husband cleaned for 2 days everything he could find a spot on) we was rude to them. I guess when they couldnt' get any gossip out of me, it made them mad so they trashed me when they got home. I am sure thre is a lot of nice people out there, but you have to be careful. I think your brother has it one sided as to being in love with someone. It is hard to have a relatonship with someone states away from you, he went and visited, but does that mean she will not see other people once he is gone. I would assume she would write that she is in a relationship also if it was true on her part or maybe she just isnt' ready to commit yet, maybe she is also being causious. Only time will tell what will happen to them. I wish him all the luck in the world, but like I said you have to be really leary of who you let visit you from off the net.

You have a point there to be wary as there are a lot of bad things happening because of online chatting. However, you said yourself that your brother is 34 years old so I'm sure he is also aware of the situation he is going through. I will just have to say that for men there is a little risk as compared to women. We women, should be more careful about having relationships online. There are a lot of crimes happened based on that. But we couldn't discount the fact that there are also a lot of successful relationships which started from online relationship. I guess in whatever kind of relationship either offline or online there is simply no guarantee.

For me if you don't have a referral to that person it is not safe many are now a days been killed because they meet someone that is not good it is a bad person are.

I have never met anyone online yet in person. But I do have a constant online friend who's nice, and she's also here in Mylot. She seems to be a very genuine person, and we live in the same province. I think you can at least tell whether the person is genuine or not. You just know it. There have been many cases here in our country where the girl has been raped by the guy that she first met through text messaging, and the same thing happens to those who first met online. You cannot trust a person especially when she/he seems suspicious.

I have met a few people in real life that I have known online. Most are good people. One I stupidly dated. But I made a friend or two who don't live very far away. I guess it depends on what you are meeting them for, and where. If it's a date, a very public place is the best bet, and have friends call to check up on you.

I've met a couple people offline and they've all been great. It's just about getting a feel for someone. Actually the person I'm dating now, I met 2 and a half years ago online through another online friend. Talking online turned to texting which turned to talking on the phone and eventually we met and fell in love.