What is the meaning of Friendship?

That's very well said Agrant! When the world seems to leave you and give up on a you. You know that a true friend will always be there to support you all throughout the hardship...(^^,)

Amen

Indeed, to have someone patiently listening to your ups and downs, is very important. And a friend that is a great listener would be very cherished. It helps you a lot even if they say nothing, but the more if they say everything too. Thank you for your response Neildc! (^^,)

Hi GardenGerty! I think too, you are a great friend. I always love when my friends are concerned with me, with food, with love life, studies...etc...It really shows that the person cars for you. Because if he/she didn't, he/she wouldn't even be checking the food labels fro allergen or sodium content. They would just grab something and not care. But a true friends, read, notice and pay attention to everything. And is always there to make sure that their friends are safe and healthy. Thank you GardenGerty for sharing your story with your friend. She is very lucky.(^^,)

Thank you Bunnybon! I agree with you a friend is always there to support and never puts you down. Sometimes, we think that our friends put us down because they tend to not agree on everything we say or do. But in that way, they are also showing that they are supporting you, because they care for you. They don't want you to do something wrong. (^^,)

just sitting together and knowing that you're together, even without uttering a word but feeling comfort, is having a friend. I love that part. That's so true. Sometimes, you just need someone besides you. Who without words makes you feel supported and loved. Someone just to lean on, a shoulder to cry on, a rub in the back, or even a hug just to warm you up...No words, no explanations, just pure love and understanding. (^^,)

Hi my friend! Yes, I agree with you. We have a lot of types of friends here in our country. We have also the drinking friends, who always wait for the booze to be bought, but don't spend even a peso. We also have the friends by "utang na loob". Which is sometimes too much here in our country. That you have to repay everything in kinds or money. But not all are that bad. and in a way, they become the balancing act in our life. And I also agree that friends shared a own world. Sometimes you can't penetrate that easily, because that bond is so strong. I hope you have rested well, my friend. And thank you for your response even if you were working the past 36 hours. Don't work too much....(^^,)

well, just sent the final batch of pages for a magazine supplement i did for a london-based magazine... had a few hours sleep... cooked some vermicelli soup with vegetables and spanish sardines... and i am back... drinking friends, i used to have a lot -- especially those who know i have a lot of imported scotch whiskey and brandy because i get a regular supply from my ship officer friends -- but when i threw all the bottles out into the thrash and informed these friends i won't drink a drop of the spirits the rest of my life, nobody seems to visit me anymore on weekends and after-office hours... as to utang na loob... i don't borrow because i hate borrowing... money and others... i just give away, whenever i have extra, but those are rare times because i work to live a simple life and i don't work to fill the piggy bank... friendship, on the other hand, is being able to share, more on the intellectual and emotional side than the material one... just being there is enough... a friend need not bring a fat purse when called because of an emergency... just sitting together and knowing that you're together, even without uttering a word but feeling comfort, is having a friend... friendship also invokes love... not just the physical kind... but being part of one's existence with a shared relationship and a common fulfillment... other aspects, of course, are not for words to describe...

Hi Portisray! That's a very scary situation. And it was very wise to stop your friend. It would be too dangerous, especially that you were ebrieted. But yes, truly, he is a real friend. It remains me of my college years. We were riding the bus back home. I had a group of friends back then. College students that travel everyday from Manila to Bulacan. So we sticked together especially if we had late classes. We always went home together. And to our surprise, someone trowed a plastic bag of garbage into our bus. And one our girl friend got hit onto her face. You can imagined how the bus stopped just for us. Because we really wanted to see who did that. Some of our guy friends wanted to jump off the bus before it even stopped. It was scary, like in what happened to you and your friends. But you can feel how much they were concern for us. And how vengeful they could get, when a friend has been hurt. That's what real friends are for and will do for friends. By the way, I was inspired to start this discussion, because I finally went to my High school reunion, last Saturday night. If you remember I mentioned it before. I must say, not all were close and friendly. But, the event was a success. Everyone was very happy to see everyone. Even though, we still had groups just back in high school. We had a blast. And we are even planning to have a part two. And even two of our former teachers got to attend. It was great. Thanks for the support by the way. That's what also friends do, even if they haven't seen each other yet. Because I think friendship like love is a universal and nationwide language. Have a great day Portisray! Thank you for responding and for sharing your story. (^^,)

That's so true Portisray. I would have not know if I didn't went to the reunion. And I wouldn't have sang a duet with my high school crush. I even forgot I got a crush on him before..hahaha.. For your second part of your friendship story. It is unfortunate. But I think most of us have those type of friends in our circle. But yet, in a way, we can't cast them off. Unless, we are on a boat and we have to throw someone out for us not to sink. My bet, she or he will be the first to go.. He/she is lucky to have friends like you, like us, because despite their wrongdoings we still accept them as our friends. But I, sometimes, tell them bluntly what they are doing is wrong. Especially if it is to the expense of another friend. What online job are you doing? Maybe I can join too? LOL.. Thank you for your response ha. (^^,)

Aha! That's good that you attended your high school reunion! You won't know if you all going to have a blast if your not going to attend... Anyway, I'm still not finish to my story.... lol... If there's a good side of having a friend..there's also the bad side.... This not happened to me but to one of my 2 friends... Do you think you can withstand a friend who will spat in front of you whenever you had a misunderstanding? A friend who will back stab you even if you didn't do anything wrong? A friend who has the money to other people but for you he doesn't have any? I asked my friend how can you consider that as a friend? And he told me that he still considers him as a friend no matter what because someday, somehow, that friend will realize what he is doing and will feel the same way he feels... Oh! I must start my online job right now... It took me 20 minutes to think of how am i going to deliver my message here...hehe.... Well, then have a good day too Aphroditei!!!

Hi Haddowz! Well, I think a true friend is someone who isn't afraid to tell you the truth, whether it is bad or good. And it is reciprocal. Friendship can't flow in a one way stream. So if he/she has a comment or an opinion that may upset or hurt you. As a friend, you have to review yourself too; like why, how, and what purpose is that comment for. Because, friends also acts like mirrors. We may not see our bad traits, but they see and observe that everyday. And if, you don't agree with them. Discussions may sprang, but true friends will grow with that discussion and will become better friends from that experience. You may have fights, get hurt etc..But the path of true friendship is always in the same direction and not so far away. (^^,)

Very well said Dawnald! I agree (^^,)

Hi Psychogurl! Yes, a friend is someone who will never leave you in the storm. Who will stand by you no matter what. And you will do the same for him/her. Thank you for your response Psychogurl! (^^,) Hi Ronna! I always think also that my friends, especially my bestfriend, not only as a sister or brother, but almost as an extension of your soul. Because when you become so close. You can even communicate without talking. We just exchange a smile, a blink of an eye. And then we know. Friends somehow bring balance to our lives. That's so true. I don't think that we can be happy without a friend or friends. That would be quite difficult. Thank you too for your response Ronna! Happy Mylotting! (^^,)

For me friendship is accepting the person regardless of age, race color or gender. Having a real friend is like having a brother or a sister. A real good friend is like an extension of your personality. Friends somehow bring balance to our lives. They give us joy when we are sad. They laugh and cry with us.

Very well said Chendaimi! Thank you for sharing. (^^,)

It's like the song..."That's what friends are for"...They are always at our side in good and bad times. Always there to support and even critic. But nevertheless, they're always present. Thank you for your response Saranggola! (^^,)

Hi Debsgw! It is always a joy to get in touch with friends, and to see that despite the years. It always seems like yesterday. That's very special indeed. And yes, we always have a special place, a little space for our friends. Thank you for your response Debsgw! (^^,)

Remains me of my Logic class...(^^,)

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People say "Money is the source of all evil" if I am right. But I believe that in between true friends, Money would never be an issue. And if it were in business, everything should all be fair and clear, like in real business. It is not because the person is your friend, the responsibility you and him/her have about the financial aspect of the relationship should be waived. And a true friend would never demand to waived them. He/she would be fair in his/her dealings. And as much as possible, because of the friendship and the value of it, they both won't do something to ruin or destroy it. In relation, to financial mishaps, as a friend, weighing and analyzing the pros and cons before judging and giving any punishments; is a friend's duty and it comes naturally to a friend to seek for the truth in any situations. Thank you for your response Alejasite. Welcome to Mylot! Feel free to add more of your insights! (^^,)

Hi Kun! That's a good point. We might have some bad friends, who's always out to take advantage of us etc, but without them, how do we learn how to handle such situations again?? haha =D And yes, indeed we have some bad friends. But we learn a lot from them, especially from their mishap or faults. And sometimes, they bring us some equilibrium in life. (^^,)

Hi Paula! I like your quote, [i]"A friend is one who walks in when others walk out" -Walter Winchell[/i] That's so true. A friend is always there. No matter how much people walks in and out of your life. There will always be that special someone, who accompanies you trough life. You will cheer you when you are down. Who will scold you when you do something wrong. Almost like a right path checker too or keeper... I have also a bestfriend that I have met since I started studying again for my second degree. And ever since we met, we can't get enough time to catch up on things. Even if we see each other everyday. And like last year, I had to stop for a while. Even after months, it's like I have just saw her yesterday... And we compliment each other. When she is sad, I tend to be happy. When I am crying she is there to support me. What our life will be without our friends? I can't imagine it. (^^,)

That's so true Monkeylong. I can't imagine my daily life without my friends. Even if we are not constantly together. It is always a plus that you feel secure and supported in your daily endeavor. Friends are indeed very important in one's life. Thank you for your response Monkeylong! (^^,)

my best friend doesn't belittled my efforts even though he disagrees with me on some issues,and he doesn't embarrass me in public even I do something stupid. Hi Zerrywang! That's so true. A friend would pick you up when you stumble and not laugh at you. He/she may disagree, but they won't get you embarrass or ashame of your decisions or goals. Friends supports each other no matter what. no man is the whole of himself,his friends are the rest of him. I like what you said here. Indeed, I believe that friends are an extension of our souls. That's why we feel so complete when they are around us. Thank you for your response Zerrywang! (^^,)

Hi Ronz! That's so true. If your friendship is based only on one's status in society or bank account. That friendship will not last long if those material things are gone. Because you were friends with that person for the wrong reason. the true meaning of friendship, that no matter what the person has you still accept him because it's not the things that she/he have that you love but it's the personality of the person.. That's very well said. It is accepting his/her whole being whoever or whatever he is or has. Thank you for your response Ronz! Happy Mylotting! (^^,)

Hi Jan! Welcome to Mylot! I have a cherished friend who is just that person...and I try to be that type of friend to others as well. I agree with you on that. Sometimes, people likes to have friends around and forgets to be a friend too to them. They rejoice in that inner circle where they feel safe. But they don't know how much harm and selfishness maybe they exert in keeping that circle. Like restricting their friends to have other friends or to go out of the standards set by the group. A good friend, would also love to see their friends grow, flourished and spread their wings. We have to be good friends in order to have good friends too. Thank you for your response Jan! (^^,)