Children tend to be rebellious,why?
By liftyouup
@liftyouup (86)
Philippines
May 24, 2010 11:06pm CST
how do parent should treat their child in order to avoid such things(rebellious)..Thing are getting complicate;technology..etc parents can't coupe with their children,factor such that,hinder good parent-child relationship..should we have a school in teaching proper parenting?
7 responses
@supermay1977 (39)
• Philippines
26 May 10
Many parents nowadays are complaing about the attitudes of many children. Sometimes, other people thinks that the children are just being spoiled by the parent. They didn't know that technologies and the foods that are available now are a big contribute to the behavior of childrens.Yes, that is the fact.
@greenace (123)
• Philippines
25 May 10
i understand your point liftyouup but school for proper parenting, i don't think would be necessary. i think new parents may attend seminars that would meet specific problems instead. i believe that parenting styles depend on the situation new parents are facing. it's true that children of today learn not just from their parents but from significant others as well. add to this is the time spent in front of whatever technology the children maybe exposed for reasons that may or may not be beyond the controls of the parents. in such situations, parents then should be the most loving and understanding of their children bearing in mind that whatever the world may offer to their children cannot be compared with what they will get from their parents and children would almost always look after their parents for models when everything else around them conflicts with what they've been taught (intentionally or unintentionally) at home. remember that during the most significant years of the child (esp during the times they could not reason or don't have yet a well developed facility to do so, the child just acts as a recorder--receiving and recording everything. hence, when the right time comes, it is up to the parents to help the child give meaning (if necessary) to these pre-recordings. i believe that no regular school could ever teach that..experience, will then be one's best teacher for that matter.
@med889 (5941)
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25 May 10
Children are rebellious because I would say they lack attention from their parents, I have a friend who is psychologist and she told me that children are rebellious sometimes in front of others because they want to seek attention which they think they are not getting.
Now there is also the generation gap which may cause some complications, parents think their children are too spoiled whereas children think that their parents are not trying to understand them at all.
There need no such school to send them but only some time to give them, to talk to them, to come to a conclusion where both will find it just and fair.
Sending them to school might aggravate the situation as it will be a cage for them and they will think that their parents felt better by sending them away.
I would say communication with the children is a must everyday, and there should be good understanding too between the two.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
25 May 10
Parenting should be learned independently. At least that's what i know. But a parenting school would be nice. There are a lot of hindrances in good parenting but the parents should make their authority clear at the beginning so their children understand their authority.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
25 May 10
children are seeking for attention for their parents and also from others too. if they feel that no one cares for them. then the children tend to become rebellious.
parents should give their children the right care and nurture. to guide their children in every activity that they are participating. to talk with their children regularly.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 May 10
One of the reason why kids rebel against their parents is that it could be that there are a lot of demands from the parents. Some parents wanted their child to do all things that they want even if kids dont like doing it. Parents should be fair enough. But I think some parents cant do that. I think kids just need to understand things around them so they wont become a rebel. My parents were hard on me and on my siblings but none of us became a rebel.
@TheIceman33 (347)
• Philippines
25 May 10
I agree with that, but what makes it "stupid" is the law which prohibits parents/teachers punishes students.. i mean, no pain no gain.. modern generations as you have observed nowadays, do not have this discipline because they were not punished during their younger years. its not that teachers would enjoy punishing students but it is appropriate to impose on them the meaning of discipline. this is what had happen to the world today, undisciplined kids are increasing.