Do you care what other people think of you?

@Absinto (2385)
Portugal
May 27, 2010 2:46pm CST
Do you care if people talk bad about you, how you dress, what you do or even how you speak. I dont, i just say their jeleous of me. So tell me..Do you care or not. Why?
12 responses
• Philippines
27 May 10
Everyone cares about what others think of them. I find it hard to believe you when you say you don't care about what others think of you. I'm sure you do and it bothers you.
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
27 May 10
I dont. I am who i am. I know what i do and why i do it. They can say whatever they want because it wont affect me. People come to say that sometimes i am cold hearted.
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
30 May 10
Everybody has there own principals. Not my fault you dont have any man.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
28 May 10
"frontvisions101" I totally agree with you. "NO MAN (or woman) IS AN ISLAND". I don't know what Absinto's problem is but he must be a very lonely person. To not listen,evaluate or even want to listen to another person's opinion of you is really isolating yourself from society in my opinion. I know he is going to say I'm "JEALOUS" when he sees this. I am really not; I just feel sorry for him and anyone like that.
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
27 May 10
yes i do care, how others think. Even due to this approach, i am not in the state to do any thing which i want to do. Even most people care for others. As why they wear good clothes. Why they buy branded clothes which are costlier. They can wear the normal also. But they buy even they wear them to satiate other’s eyes. I think every body cares almost.
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
27 May 10
I think that those who care, are those that want to be noticed. If i cared about what people think i guess i would have never... - got drunk and slept in front of a court house, - go to school with a pair of pants that only had one side with the leg... - I wouldnt have lived and i wouldnt be living my life the way i want it.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
29 May 10
One question; why do you care?
• United States
27 May 10
Not at all. Too many people have their own good or bad thoughts about you which lead to gossip and they don't even know you. I go through that everyday at work and some of my co-workers will tell me what someone said, and I just reply back with a smile and say "wow, I did not realize I was so popular". And you are right, they are either jealous of you or just a bully. They need a life or maybe have a look at their own. I will do, speak, dress and eat what I want and where I want. This is my life, not theirs.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
29 May 10
For the most part I agree with you; especially your response.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
29 May 10
It could also be some percieved wrong or mis-understood statement you may have made.
• Philippines
27 May 10
I sometimes care specially when I know it's for my own good but if people just say something just to put me down well it does not bother me at all. It's hard to please everyone since nobody is perfect.
• Philippines
29 May 10
Yes, I'm really optimistic when it comes to life and it helps me a lot to keep moving forward to reach for my goals.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
29 May 10
Outstanding answer! It seems you have a very positive outlook on life.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
28 May 10
It all depends on the people who call themselves judging me. Some people whom I respect the answer is "yes" I care. For those I have no respect for I would have to say "no" I don't care what they think. What about your closest friends and assocites, do you think they too are jealous of you when they say something about you that you think is "bad"? Did it ever occur to you they may being trying to help you improve yourself? I don't always agree with my friends when they say something "I" consider bad about me. If they are really a friend I tend to listen more closely and try to heed what they are saying. If it is something I think they are wrong about I discuss it with them and if we still don't come to an understanding I simply say it's their opinion which they are entitled to. After all their comments are usually something that they feel will help me in some way even if I don't like it. The friendship continues as usual. When it is a stranger or simply a person I have no history or dealings with I just ignore them and feel sorry for their ignorance to talk badly about someone they do not even know. Why do you think they are jealous of you? Does that apply to all who talk badly about you?
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
28 May 10
Well its like this, i am known as the one who dresses weird, and does alot of stupid stuff, and i do know that they are jealous of be because of one day, i went to school with a pair of pants that didnt have one side of the legs. Everybody talking bad, not like i care, and one girl from my class turned up to me and said : I wish i could be like you, and be able to wear whatever i wanted without that thing of caring about what other people think. No, to my friends and close, close family it doesnt, but even if they dont talk bad and try to warn me, i am a stubburn person, i just say, why do you care about what they say about me more than i do.
• India
28 May 10
just dont care abt the people wat they think about u for any matter of urs.. just live life king size.. ;)
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
28 May 10
Exactly :)
@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Before I used not to care a lot. Well I could say even up to this point I don't really care that much. However, at this time I guess I am trying to be more responsible with my actions, with the way I speak when I am in public. I guess it comes with age. . With the dressing I try to dress comfortably and appropriately as much as possible. I can show some skin even a little fat but not to the extent that I would look funny. As much as I would like to dress something very sexy when I don't really look nice on it I don't. But I don't talk pr move only in accordance to what other people think it's right. You can still be yourself you will just have to be responsible with the actions.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
29 May 10
I agree. That was well stated.
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
28 May 10
No, I don't. I love to be my self. But sure I have to keep my attitude or take care of my self. I mean, as long as we doing something normal, something good, I think no body would like to think bad about you. But if I heard someone tell something about me, if it is not true, I don't care but maybe it just be information for me to be better.
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
27 May 10
yes, somehow they do. I don't care though. I mean a lot of people will really hate you for something or comment about you regarding your way of life and all that. They make me cry, angry, hurt, stressed and all the negative feelings, but the bottom line is I don't do anything to please them because I know myself better and I know who I really am. As long as I know I havent done anyhting wrong then I don't chnage anything about me. I just let it pass and then eventually I just move on.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
29 May 10
You too are a very wise person. Where I live is a very small apartment block and everyone knows everyone's business or tries to. I am somewhat a private person. Since I am the oldest one in the complex, they all have an idea of how I am supposed to live. I am on a fixed income and everyone has their own idea about how I should live and spend my money. I live in Thailand and I must say that in Thai culture elders are really treated well to the point of being "spoiled' like a baby. Well, I really like staying in my flat watching tv or playing video games or now, being here at MyLot. Everyone thinks I need to get out and about more often. What they don't understand is "I LIKE MY FLAT"! I go out but when I want to depending on my funds . Soooo, I get talked about everyday. Bottom line is I do what I want and those who understand root me on. Those who don't I simply say, "IT'S UP TO ME".
@zralte (4178)
• India
27 May 10
I don't care about what people think about the way I dress, what I do or how I speak. Everyone is entitles to their opinion, that does not mean I should follow every one's opinion. For every person that thinks I don't dress well, there is another one who thinks I look good. So, I go with the positive one, and dress the way I like and comfortable with.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
29 May 10
That's a good attitude to have. What I understand you saying is you "EVALUATE" the opinion and if you think it's valid you "MIGHT" agree or not. Way to go, Sounds like you're a really positive person.
@takie23 (142)
27 May 10
I normally dress the way I see fit with whatever occasions I might have, and I always watch what I do or say without losing sight of the very person I am. With that, I could say I've try my best. If there's anyone that would pick something bad out of what I do at all, I would say the same thing you've said, THEY ARE JUST BEING JEALOUS and their opinions got nothing to do with me and does not effect me in any way. ;) I don't live by opinions of others, and because of that fact, I try my best not to rely on anyone so that whatever they think of me have no power whatsoever over me.
• United States
27 May 10
You can never be mad about what other people think about you, Its none of your business. You cant always please everyone because the world needs a**holes. So don't worry about other people because they are not worried about you.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
28 May 10
AMEN BROTHER! I totally agree.