Are you really happily married?

I understand how u feel and ive been questioning myself too for 5 years now. AM i happy in my marriage?? And i would be honest to say im not. Feels like girls always end up taking care of the relationship instead of both of you. I always say that my marriage is a sole proprietorship than partnership. But then again i would always try to find better things in my marriage. I would always try to see "MY" mistakes and shortcomings instead. Got to make it work in marriage right?? And for someone to have a happy marriage boils down to the question of "do you still love each other?" If you do love each other you would find a way to be happy. If you do love each other thats enough reason to be happy. No ones perfect, and no one is even close to it. We get sick and tired of things sometimes but thats part of being in a marriage. I think thats what we meant when we made our vows "for better or for worst".

Let me ask you this question first, Are you are a christian momathome? Do you believe that Jesus is Lord and Savior of you life? The only thing that could make our marriage life successful is that we need to acknowledge the Lordship of Jesus in our lives. If we have HIM in our heart, then we can understand our partner, we can humble our selves and have patience enough to handle some family problem. My advice is this... pray for your husband that God will change him, lay your hands to him in prayer while he is sleeping. Ask God to give you patience to handle your husband and bring him to the feet of Jesus. If you will do this, God is going to perform miracle in your marriage life.

I guess we all had a choice being happily married or not. I agree, it's a whole loy of different story after we signed the paper. Your partner and my partner were very much alike but I will say, I'm still happy. I used to pray that God will change him to what I am asking so that we could have a better life and relationship. But things might not work the way we want it to be. I accepted my husband with his lapses and our indifferences. I accepted the fact that he is not perfect and though before we tied the knot he is the total opposite of what he become. I strted to understand him and he started to appreciate me. We would start a conversation and not yell at each other. But fights and arguments will still be present from time to time. That just mean that we have a healthy relationship. In 1st 5 years of your marriage, that is normal. usually we grew strong or fall down. That's the stage in getting to know each other in one roof. If both of you will be succesfull, you will both spend the rest of your days together for a lifetime but if not, eventually, the relationship will stumble.

i a newbie in marriage just married 2 years plus only.haha.Sor far it got its up and down.Marriage i guess teach me about sharing,patience,helpful and be encouraging to the other half. ALso teach me to listen and sometime a listening ear is better than a mouthful from me.Haha.Sometime wifey is distress talk a lot , better just listen until she calm down.For bathing,honestly i don like to bath also,but my wife join me in the bathtub so it ok!. For clothes, i usually throw at one corner of the room,my wife will do the rest,sometime she not in good mood and ask me to throw away to clothes in the dustbin,as usually don argue and i put inside the washing machine haha.I know marriage sometime is it hard not all are rosey sweet and cute.Some crap flies around,but i guess one side need to calm down. When things goes out of hand , i usually walk off to smoke and such.She know i got bad temper, and going out for awhile to steam off is ok.

Sounds a lot like my own. I've been married for 11 yrs, and still believe that the only way to be happy is by being single. If I cant be happy now in my marriage then I won't be ever. I guess it's all depends on how much longer I want to torture my own life. My children is the only thing that kept me strong, so I won't complain for now.

I'm happily married and I'm proud of it. My husband and I are like friends. We share sentiments, thoughts, ideas and work together as a team. Respect each other. As much as possible do not talk to each other when your anger is heightened because it will increase the risk of dispute. Try also a reverse psychology method by being nicer to him so that in return, he will realize how good you are to him and for him to appreciate the care you are extending to him.

For me it is happy your married if you both be humble and accept the thing's you discuss so that you feel to show the feelings in no secretly shown so your happy both.

Yeah, As far as I am concerned, I am here. I may say that it is our true life. If we are not so rich in life, I think we can not just want a life that is so confortable, so tidy, so clean. I think the most that we can do is that we can try our best to make a comfortable life.A marriage is a happy life if you think that its your own life.You have responsibility to keep it a comfort and a tidy or some more one.It needs both of you two pay into it. In that way, I think you two can enjoy the happy moment between you. Have a nice day !!

I've been happily married for 19 yrs now and contented. Ups and downs come across the way but through an open communication it resolved. We're christian and we put God centered to us and to my family. Any difficulties arises we've talked and met some agreements to be done coz we're not perfect so give and take is always needed.

Hi momathome, I have been married for 18 years. And we are happy. If anything problem comes then we both try to solve it. Mainly in couples problems will get through misunderstanding. If it is not there, then they are happy couple. There should be good understanding, love, forgiveness, friendly, intimacy, if any of these are missing then you will get problems. We too get little problems but i will over view it.

yes, i get what you mean. i am married for almost 4 years now and i can say that things are not as rosy as i thought it would be... yes i was that idealistic hahaha. maybe i cannot say that i'm 100% happily married the whole time. sometimes i feel like giving up as well, especially if i notice that we seem to be arguing and can't see eye to eye. and yes, you see that the way i/you are being treated is different from before. familiarity does breed contempt, so they say haha. BUT... at the end of the day, no matter how hurt i feel or how angry/sad/depressed, what lifts me up is the fact that i am married to the one i love. for better or for worse, i always remind myself. and even after those seemingly endless arguments, i am still in love with my husband, and he's still in love with me. at the end of the day, we look for each other for comfort. so, can we honestly say we are really happily married? don't know... maybe yes, maybe no. cheers and happy myLotting!

a happy marriage is a matter of choice. if you both choose to be happy and maintain the essence of your marriage then it will be despite of any challenges that might come thru. to have a happy marriage both of you must work on it,communication is the best tool. talking even every little things between you and your partner would help for you to know more because even you are already married there still something that you might not know about your partner and by communicating you will build trust with each other.

This marriage thing depends on both the two of you. I want you to understand that marriage is not an overnight thing you need to be very careful before entering it because it is a longtime issue. For me i am happily married for 4 years now and there is no regret at all because i married the right person. Why most people marriage fail is because they do not plan well, they do not really know know each other very well before concluding into marriage. For example if you ask some newly couples how many months did they use to court some will tell you two months or even a month which is not good, the right time for courting should almost two years by then you will be able to to know his/her good qualities and also their bad qualities. After that you may now decide weather you can cope with him or her before arriving at marriage

there is a need of strong base for a marriage. during initial days of ur relationship u ppl need to understand each other n come to same wavelength. this makes relationship to go on & on.... now also u ppl sit togethr & counsell among yourself .... this will lead u to a new high..

Happy Marriage will be there as long as there is a understanding between the two people the day the understanding is compromised the happy marriage will just be a marriage and nothing else , i am very happy with my marriage and hope will it will stay the same the whole of my life

you both have to work hard to have a happy marriage. no you cannot change a person; the person has to want to change himself/herself and take measures to do so. if you love someone then you will be willing to accept the person as is. if the love has gone then maybe you should start asking yourself if you really want to spend the rest of your life with this person because you signed a piece of paper.

I am not yet married but i am very happy with my relationship with my boyfriend for 7 years.