Secrets or no secrets

I personally feel that there should be no secrets in a relationship, thats how you build the trust in someone from all your heart. Thats the beauty of relationship :)

well past is past, but still for me I need to know my partner 100%, I also don't like having a secret with my partner, Just like in my relationship now, we already told each other about our secrets in life, but even we do that we still argue everyday well I guess its because of me, I'm so impatient to her.

Well, for me, I believe that there should be no secrets in a relationship in order to gain trust. Honesty is the best policy as many people say. How can you to establish a strong relationship when you are keeping a secret to each other right? It is important in a relationship that you have to accept each other no matter what the other may have in the past. It is more important that you understand and trust each other, too

Secret are meant to be kept so if you cannot keep a secret then better do not use it too. When you get into a serious relationship, secrets should not be kept because it can affect the relation afterwards when the secret will be out. When we get together, then the present counts not the past.

careguarden, I believed even lovers are allowed to keep secrets from one another. But if the secrets relates and is about your lover, you shouldn't try to hide it. Being in a relationship with someone of dark history/past is a bad thing. The person with the history should open up and let the other lover knows of his/her past life or there will be future problems. I know this because I didn't open up my background story to my boyfriend and that was my downfall. End Story: They love you for who you are, don't be scare to share any bad/good past stories of yourselves to them. :)

i think that somehow there should be some privacy. i don't have to tell him everything, it's not like we're married. but it depends with the situation and if he is involved then i would tell him. because that secret may cause some problems or conflict in our relationship

Keeping secrets in any relationship is usually not a good practice. Secrets have a way of coming out when you least expect it. It csn cause more harm to your life and relationships when secrets are betrayed. It is better to be upfront and honest. Nobody wants to be haunted by their past.

being in a relationship comes with numerous perks, and one of those is keeping your own little secrets, it's ok to keep few harmless and significants secrets, sometimes we all want to keep an aura of mystery to ourselves that keeps your partner guessing and getting interested in you..

well i think that there shouldn't be secrets between partners and honesty is the key! these days people hide things from their partners cause they know they would not like what they do. but i think its always better to tell what ever it is and then reassure them that no problem would come out of it and re assure how much that person loves his partner! :) in the long run, if the partner finds out that you are lying or hiding things from them then they would obviously feel hurt and might feel betrayed. even worse never trust you completely even for the very minor issues!