if someone hurt you much, will you go to the extent of destroying his/her life?

well i am guessing that this friend is saying all this bitter things in anger and she might take steps towards her revenge too but surely she'l regret later on or never have the heart to take revenge if she really liked/loved her friend! i've people who have hurt me but then i guess i take a lot of time but do forgive them! i don't prefer revenge and all those sort of things! instead of wasting my time in hurting her, i would do something for myself or the people i love!! :)

Hi Kenchiprincess, No, I would never go that far at all. I've been deeply hurt by someone I love many times so I really do know I would not react in that way. Sometimes we say things when we are really upset that we'd never ever carry through on. Do you suppose that could be the case with your friends' friend? I do know that some people actually do go on a mission to destroy the other person and it is so sad. My brother's ex wife was like that. She was, I have to admit, pretty successful. They had a child together and she used that child as a weapon. She did it for years...until the kid turned 16. She did succeed in making my brother's life a nightmare but I have to say that because she was such a bitter angry person she also made their son's life a nightmare and her own as well. You can't possibly be happy when harboring all that anger and bitterness so who really wins in these situations? It's a lot of wasted energy and time that you'll never get back in your life so why even go there. Hopefully she was just running her mouth.

Hi kenchiprincess, I am very sorry for your friend as she does not know God at all and will only succeed in making her own life miserable. God does not want to destroy anyone's life no matter what they have done. Hopefully she will understand someday and be able to forgive. Then she will be able to move on with her life. Blessings.

Am sure God is not sending anybody to destroy other people. Only Satan is doing that. So, I would say, this person who want to destroy and let somebody suffer in his whole life making her miserable or order to get even is not sent by God. God is a God of love. Only the devil has an evil thought. God is a forgiving God. If our heart is full of bitterness and revenge against our fellowmen, we are agents of t he dark. We must have a forgiving heart because that is what God wants us to have.

No I won't be able to do that, no matter how pain she/he it cause me,I won't be able to revenge at all! The pain is done and no matter what I'm going to do to revenge it won't make sense anymore and it will bring more pain to you looking back what he/she did to you if in the sense that you won't succeed in revenging. And beside there is always a corner of forgiveness in my heart,no matter how pain that was,time will heal and It will make up by its own.Life is sometimes hurt us intentional and unintentional we need to accept that life is like a game, to play no matters what it brings to us. God is fair he will do the rest for me.That's my opinion.Good day!

No I wont, instead I would win the battle with love and make that person realize about this love, trust and hope. Otherwise what's the difference between you two as you going to do the same?

Hi, friend. Hope you won't think me mean, but I can totally understand her anger and will not blame her for revenging on that person. It's hard to accept the fact that the person who hurts me badly still lives a good and happy life afterwards as if nothing had ever happened, whereas I have to live miserably. So why should I just forgive him? A person who doesn't feel guilty in conscience deserves to be revenged.

I am sorry to hear that your friend is feeling so bitter and it is only herself that she will hurt in the long run. If somebody falls out of love with somebody else, it is just life, and a lesson for each of us to learn. Life doesn't set out to hurt us, but it doesn't set out to make us happy either. That is up to us!.

I know it's not easy to forgive someone when they hurt us so deeply. But destroying a person never goes in my mind. Besides,God never teach us to do bad things in return to people who had hurt us. God even told us to love our enemies,to give them food when they're hungry and give them water to drink. So,how can your friend says that,she is a God sent to destroy someone's life? Well,Satan also called himself god of darkness. Kindly asks your friend what kind of god sent her. Coz,the one and true GOD i've known is a GOD of Love.

No, I won't. Yet at first because of anger I would probably cry. Then I will tell our friends what he has done. Let him know what he has done. Maybe I will avoid that person to get over the hurt feelings.

No, I won't. I'd always leave everything to GOD because I believe that every person who despise or belittles another person will be answerable for his/her actions. Time will come that this person will also experience the same thing or even more pain. The best thing to do is to ask God's help to get you out from the pain caused to you and be able to move on.

if that question had been asked a year ago, i would probably readily answer with a NO.. and say that there is always room for forgiveness in your heart for those who hurt us intentionally or unintentionally. but things have happened to me lately, which made me think that it is not always easy to forgive and forget, especially if the person has hurt you, not ONCE but FOUR times. yOU see, i believed in the saying that FORGIVING IS NOT THE ART herFORGETTING THE PAIN. IT IS THE RENEWAL OF ONE'S WILLINGNESS TO BE HURT AGAIN. And so, when my ex-friend had hurt me, publicly humiliated me because he thought i wwas the one who is turning my back on her, i still forgave her. and when another storm came upon our friendship, wherein she practically made up stories about me and disseminated such lies in our company, i was still able to forgive her. However, i came to a point just two months ago when could not bring myself to just forgive and forget. Whereas before, it was all personal ( i was able to forgave her coz all she said were lies anyway and nobody believe her and if they do believe her, i didn't care)this time, she made the mistake of wreaking havoc in my work environment. She betrayed me in a sense that would have destroyed my career had i not discovered what she has done. Now, i don't speak to her anymore and the mere sight of her makes my blood boil. I planned on making her life miserable to take revenge but i dont want to waste any effort on her anymore. i'm done with her and her hurtful and fake friendship. oh, i pray that what she has done to me be paid back to her 10x more by someone she considers a friend..but me? i don't think i will waste any time on her.

i can't go to such an extent to destroy somebody's life ....i think your friend should not try to do this...he will be punished by god himself...i experienced this once someone has spread bad rumours about me i was very much hurted that i cried for long time but within a year that person was in such a loss of a lifetime..which he can never recover...at that time i was very happy....this happens to me 2-3 times when somebody hurts me and it hurts me deeply he got punished in some way or other so not to worry he will be punished for what he has done why u spoil ur life

Can't help but be amused of how your friend lost control of her person.. Would it make her happy if she succeed? and lastly, god doesn't even involved himself in things like that..

Hi, kenchiprincess. No, I would not seek revenge on someone that has done me wrong. I would just let this person go about their business. I would not try to get back at them. They are not worth it. I will let the Lord handle them. Your friend is hurting very badly. Just pray for her. She must know that God does not ever give or grant a person permission to destroy someone. It is true that he uses the devil to test a person out.

If someone has hurt me then no matter how much I will suffer I will never go to the extent of destroying his/her life because I cannot be like the person,if I do the same as he/she has done to me then what will be the difference between us!

Hello kenchi, I would have understand her anger with this person who hurt her feelings but i wish she didn't include GOD in her anger, i don't think GOD sent people who have Hatred with they're hearts.revenge won't heal her pain although it will satisfy her hunger for vengeance. things just happen i hope she can just move on.

Maybe your friend is still in bitterness that's why she's saying all the bad words she can think of. At first it will be hard to move on, of course, but there are no pains that time cannot heal. I was once hurt by the person I loved the most, but I never tried to destroy that person, even in my own thoughts. As for the question, I will definitely not go to the extent of revenge if someone hurt me so badly because I will just hurt myself more. We should not waste our time and emotions on people who don't care about what we feel. Learn to forgive and let go.

Hello kenchiprincess! well i think i cannot do it. I mean destroying someone's life if she/he hurt me so much. I also got this experience of too much destruction caused by one person but i still managed to have my composure and let this person say lots of bad words against me, i just knew that im different from what he said so in the end he asked for my forgiveness. A lot of times, reverse psychology really works snd i can prove that myself. Just be there for your friend and let her hear your advice because too much anger could really awaken our innermost defense mechanism. Good luck!

Definitely no. Even though a person had hurt me, I will not exert effort to get even. I believe that someday, that person will receive his/her karma. It is sufficient that you are guilt free and you have done no wrong to others. I believe in Confucius' saying "Do not do unto others what you do not want to be done unto you". As what a popular declamation says, "Vengeance is not ours. It's God's". We don't put justice on our hands. Let justice or God get its way. If we also hurt other people, wouldn't we seek forgiveness? It is just right to forgive and be forgiven.