how do you keep yourself calm when you can't take it anymore?

I hope I can do that. U hope I can just fool myself and say I like when she's obviously unlikable. She is actually a young kid, adopted and mean... The reason why I hate her is that she is treated very special like a fragile whatever. I am not like this to kids really but the thought of her being so bad and mean... well she is not really bad but she is so sensitive and spoiled, and she treated differently from anyone else.. Like yesterday she got so pissed while playing with her cousins, she threw the glass shes holding and it broke into pieces, and then she cried... She was immediately reprimanded by her older brother and she was so dramatic she didnt stop crying. She went into her room while her cousins cleaned the place for her... that started their whole family panic like there was some kind of emergency. They interchangeably started kissing her and oowing her like they have done a big mistake making her feel upset. They were calling her mother on the phone to have her to talk to her and another" begging their adopted child not to be upset anymore because she was scolded because she broke the glass intentionally when she got pissed off." Uggh!!!! That is so not normal right? When they see other children do that, they are like the first people to react.They always say I don't like that girls attitude but they can't see how their spoiling that KID.... There is nothing bad with adopted children the prob is you have to treat them like just a normal biological child. This is only one of those incidence that she is really treated abnormally. And because of that I really hate her but I have to deal with her because she is my husband's adopted sister...

YES TRUE ITS VERY DIFFICULT WITH CHILDRESN THAN WITH ADULTS, i was having a problem in surrounding of our house whenever they come i just smile and go if they talk i just shake my head rather than thinking abut them

Its hard to be calm, especially when you are so internalized about the situation. I think I just have to divert myself to other things. There's a lot of things that is so hard to confront. Especially when you know its not going to do anything and will just make everything worst.

yes Id have to agree with you. It's hard but If you just calm down and wait for the right time before doing anything that would make everything worst. I'd proven the effectiveness of that just recently when I had a fight with my brother in the text.

thank you

yes I am actually doing that also...But there are just times that you can't take it anymore.. I am the type of person that as long as you are good to me I will also pay it back.. But if you attack me for some reason Im not aware of. I prefer them telling it to my face than backfight me. That is just so cowardly. If we talk about it, then we can fix everything right away, or even though not right away at least both parties can speak up and defend themselves. Not, accuse of something that your not and spread it to everyone else that will give you a bad reputation and seems like the other person is enjoying it.

Yah I know, it really is.. I am actually planning on going somewhere where I can be alone and by myself only. I am gradually becoming somebody I dont know anymore. Thanks for that.