Can you forgive a sister who slept with your husband?

I get why your parents are upset that you're not talking to your sister. You should talk to her BUT not now. The only other person you should be talking to is your husband. He of all people should know what you had to go through with her and he went and took advantage of the poor girl with the drunk past. I wish you didn't leave the house. I would have kicked my sister out and dealt with my husband. Your immediate family is what's more important. You sister for the moment is the lost cause. You fought for her to sober up. Fight for yourself and for your marriage now.

What a terrible thing to happen, To be betrayed by the two people you love most must be horrendous.These two people sound like scum to me, you deserve to be treated better than this. Their is no way I'd take your husband back, it sounds like he's got little or no respect for you. And as for your sister it sounds has if she was jealous of you and your lifestyle.I'd try to forget about her and have as little contact as possible. If I was you, I'd try anything to boost my ego. join a gym, do a night class things like that, go to places to meet new people, make new friends, show these two pieces of Sh#t that it's their life which is poorer for not having you in it. All the best and I hope you have a happy ending. Lots of good people out there who you haven't met yet.

It would take some time, and the trust would be fragile after that, but I would eventually forgive my sister. Its just the way I was raised that family means more than almost anything. The husband, however, I'd never forgive.

I feel very sorry for you ! . Even though I am a male and I have never faced any situtaion like urs . I can understand the pain . Your husband is also a culprit , if you are hating your sister , then you should also hate your husband ! If I was you ! , I would have divorced him and re-marry another person who may not be good looking but trustable !

That is a terrible thing to do. No wonder you are mad at her. Did she have no shame at all??? I can't imagine how you would feel. I don't think I will be able to speak to her ever, had I been in your situation. And your parents should be able to understand that, surely. I guess it's because they love you both that they want you and your sister be close again.

The bible says we must forgive. It may be one of the most difficult things in the world, but it is important that you forgive even if someone doesn't deserve it...even if they are not sorry. you cannot expect the Lord to forgive you if you cannot forgive someone else. I suggest you pray about it and ask God to give you the strength and wisdom to forgive.

No i cant say i would i would have a hard time forgiving either of them en less they both were wasted or drunk or preferably both.Even then i couldn't forgive them, probably you just don't do certain things to me and keep talking to me afterwords.

In my opinion, your parents are wrong. Instead of concerning themselves about why you don't talk to your sister, what they should be doing is putting the blame on her and they should be telling her how wrong she was to sleep with your husband. Your parents need to be showing you support and standing by you.

i think you're all set not to forgive your sister and that's understandable. the only thing that complicates your current, hard-earned peaceful situation are your parents. just because they are our parents doesn't mean they're always right. they're just doing their role as parents to both you and your sister. you have to do your own duty to yourself.

I would never speak to her again. You don"t need that kind of sister.

Hi Zuki just a question here; do you still love both your husband and your sister? Have you thought about not giving enough to both of them (except your sister of course) that your family falls apart? Well am just asking here, not a provocative question..I hope that you'll be strong to face this and find the ultimate solution that gives peace to your heart...

I am so sorry for what happened to you! I do love Jesus and I believe in Forgiveness but like you said that is easier said than done. I would NOT try to save my marriage OR talk to my sister again!! I think your parent's should realize the pain she put you through. I don't think there is enough blame going to your sis or your husband! Your husband was VERY wrong as well, try not to blame this ALL on your sister. I know she's blood so you probably hate her more right now but HE took the same vows you did...Remember that! I will pray for you and I hope things get better for you =)

I think eventually I would forgive my husband and sister...once I get over the hump of what happened it would probably be easier. Then at family functions I would just make a joke about it and watch them fester in their uncomfortableness.

I have to say that you should forgive her; but the truth is, even I do not know what to do if ever I'm forced to face a similar problem. Being betrayed by two of your most beloved persons is just so terrible. Of course, your parents will be upset--you two are STILL sisters no matter what happened. have you tried to talk to her about your problem? maybe she have reasons. let her explain though it will be truly difficult to accept.

I couldnt imagine what you had gone through. Im so sorry. How could people do that? Not to mention a sister and a husband?? Unbelievable! But you did the right thing. Stand up for yourself and your daughter. You dont deserve a man like that. And personally if that thing happen to me (knock on wood), i wouldnt even let my child go ever near him! Im sorry but he's so disgusting. And about forgiving, take your time. And i mean lots of time. Maybe years. I believe we are really capable of forgiving. The question there is when. But as ive said take all your time. Do whatever you think is right for you and your child.

wow, i'm sorry to hear that. that is probably an ultimate deception and betrayal, on the part of both sister and husband. i honestly dont know if i can forgive both of them even though the Bible tells me to forgive people. It will really take time I guess but still I am not sure if I can forgive. sure, people have to let go of the hurt and move on, but it's way easier said than done. it is really up to you, dear, and don't be pressured to prematurely forgive and be speaking terms with your sister. it might even turn out worse because the poison of bitterness and hurt is still there. i still hope things will turn out fine for all of you, but like i said, it may take time and people shouldn't pressure you. actually they should be more understanding. cheers and happy myLotting!

that's a terrible thing to experience. i probably would have moved out too. and they had the nerve to continue the relationship after you had left! so no remorse there. i don't know if i could forgive either of them.

your situation is so hard but i think it is not totally your sisters mistake but also your husband besides if he loves you no matter what your sister do he will refuse it. of course they will say because they are guy who can't refuse a woman if they are naked but still if he realize what he did, to think that they keep the relationship after you left. so for me don't blame your sister in full but also your husband. i can't say to forgive her but at least tell her how you felt about it..Godbless