Is the anger a solution to every conflict?
By mtvmtv
@mtvmtv (600)
India
15 responses
@blindmoongoddess (426)
• Philippines
30 May 10
Anger is a healthy emotion. No human being is exempt from being angry. However, anger should be managed well. If you feel like hurting somebody because you are angry, you should get away from that person. Try to channel anger in a healthy way. You can either exercise vigorously or you punch your pillows. Never hurt anyone verbally or physically. Remember, emotions becloud one's judgment. Do not talk to the person you are angry with because you are apt to say things that you do not really mean. A heat argument never solves anything. It's better to talk things over when you and the person that you have issues with are both calm and collected.
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
31 May 10
I agree that no human being is exempted from anger. It is very common thing to hear
people says that they are good to those who are good to them but when someone do bad
things to them, they become worse compare with the person that hurt them.It is human
nature to revenge every time we feel that we are beaten, cheated or hurt. There are
only few people who will stay quiet when they received words which hurts their ego.I
had read from a book that although anger is an emotion which is difficult to handle,
there are ways on how to control it. One way is by controlling the tone of a voice.
We know that an angry person always raise his voice when he is anger. However, if
we will respond to a lower voice, we can avoid worse scenarios and it can make the
angry person lowers his voice as well.
@dodo19 (47341)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
31 May 10
I don't always think that anger is the solution to every conflict. I'm not saying that we shouldn't get angry or something, but I don't think that it solves all conflicts or arguments or fights. There are just those fights that maybe anger should be expressed. However, I do think that there are other ways, not say better ways, of solving a conflict, such as talking about it calmly.
@chdsandeep (397)
• India
31 May 10
Hello friend!!
I was a person who used to get angry very soon.. on very silly things but now I have changed to some extent but still anger is there.
No doubt, anger is never solution to any problem. One can make their problem more intense with anger. Someone may lose their partner or friend due to conflicts in anger... I also realize it after the conflict or the anger that what I was doing which one should not do... but while being angry we becomes the animals who do not know what they are doing and on whom they are shouting or hitting.
Problems can be solved with talk being calm instead of being angry... I have often done that as well... and none of my problem is solved with anger...
Be cool and calm!
Happy myLotting!!
@mtvmtv (600)
• India
31 May 10
Hi friend,
Nice to see you here.You are absolutely right that a problem may become intense with anger and hence to solve it calmly is the best way to get better result.
That also is very nice that you have changed your self prefer discussion rather than a fight.
Thanks and nice time.
@rosie230 (1704)
•
30 May 10
I hate getting angry, but sometimes I know that it just cant be helped, but it depend on the situation and how frustrated I can get, if the other person won't respond to me... I much prefer to sort things through in a calm manner, as I think it helps get things sorted quicker, and without the stress, as there is no need for raised voices, and such anger.
@davenhearst (327)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
anger is a common human emotion which has a negative impact on one's life. Generally anger arises due to unfulfilled desires or expectations you become aggressive. A small amount of anger is healthy and essential for survival however excess anger can harm the body as well the mental state
@ritsuizero (140)
• Philippines
30 May 10
I don't think anger is the solution to every conflict. I don't even think it's the solution to any conflict. I am not saying a person should not get angry, sometimes it cannot be help but it probably won't solve anything. It's after you get angry and you mellow down is when you can think of a solution.
@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
31 May 10
I agree with ritsuizero. Anger won't help in resolving conflicts. In fact, it makes
the situation worse. We all know that angry person opens his mouth but closes his
eyes. With that, we can say that when a person is angry his thinking become narrow.
At the moment of his anger, he sees only himself and how he can release his
emotion. He knows that the only right person is him and nothing but him.When a
person have this intense anger, his being human ceases and he became more of an
animal with his behaviour. It is undeniable that some people can murder another
person just because of anger. To sum up, anger cannot do anything good to a bad
situation. We can only solve a conflict if we have calm mind. For it is with the
calm mind that a person can teach in a justifiable way.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
I admit I am not the most patience person in this planet earth. But I do acknowledge that anger can never provide solution to every conflict or problems.
Anger is an explosive feelings that if you can't control it, will destroy friendships and relationships along the way.
Anger can make you spit some insult and hurtful words that is hard to mend and sometimes other people will never forgive you.
The better thing to do when you are angry is to be silent and think things over before saying anything. And if you can control your mouth or action then go somewhere to make things clearer.
@tuyakiki (3016)
• India
30 May 10
In case of the family matters,I try to solve it through discussions.I try to remain as calm as possible if I am talking to elders.. That's because I believe in home sweet home.When dealing with others,if I can't take it anymore, its impossible to keep myself calm. I think I could never be calm when things go crazy. Just like my situation in my company, I cant take the management anymore so I decided to quit. I just think that there's no reason for me to deal with things if I cant take them anymore because I will not be able to think rational if I am already fed up.
@May2k8 (18403)
• Indonesia
30 May 10
If the causal connection between anger and the cause of angry was clearly, then what appears is just a choice, would continue to rage or stop angry? This is where the mind back to take the role. If you want to stop mad, leave this feeling. And you're no longer angry. That's an example in the framework of self-control.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
30 May 10
Me and my parents often have opposing views. I prefer not talking back because I do not want to prove my points at all. By staying quiet I do not make them mad at me and even though the problem remain, at least we are not having any argument.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
1 Jun 10
Certainly not, as human being we have difference of opinion and conflits with spouse with kids, but anger is not the solution it makes the thing worse, but solving it with cool mind helps...
Thanks for sharing.
Welcome always. 
Cheers.
Prof
Cheers.
Prof
@parulbidani (138)
• India
2 Jun 10
most of the time i react angrily ,but i think i should solve it calmly...anger is not the solution of any thing...
@mac_mac1221 (478)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
First, I react angrily. I really struggle hard to maintain my calmness. But then all of sudden I realize my voice is getting louder and louder and my face is turning red. Haha... But then, I take deep breaths and keep my mouth shut for a moment. Clear my mind, make my voice softer, and there talk.:D
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
30 May 10
HI,
I am a very patient person... I would listen to what they try to tell me first... and before I respond back, then I have to think fast and try to find a good word to tell or say them. If I argue with someone... I want to know what I am angry about and what is the point? if that is not bother me much then I should let it goes... because I dont want to stress out myself over something that I can let go
