What is it going to take to get these people off my back?

Since you have had such a long relationship with them I know it hurts even worse. Are they exhibiting other signs that might indicate dementia? That might explain the issues.

Thank you for the hugs and love. It does help so much. They are showing signs of dementia, they have been for quite a few years. Plus the wife has had quite a few strokes. She was hospitalized just after Labor Day last year because of one of the more severe strokes she had. Unfortunately in this case I can't just let them keep going on the path they're going. They are trying to get even for a perceived wrong that didn't happen. I can't keep letting them spread slander and harass me the way they are. A huge part of the problem is that they fully expected that the judge would rule in their favor because they are "old". They were counting that $4000 that they were suing for. As I have said many times, Money is that couple's God. We couldn't go to dinner at their home without their constantly talking money- how much they had, how much they spent for dinner out, the cost of her diamonds and more. Shoot, if I were so dishonest as they claim, how come I didn't take a couple of her diamond rings? Oh well somethings are better not contemplated. Anyhow, if they keep at their present course, I will file suit against them. I won't be driven from my home or be harassed to the point of being this sick. I have lived a peaceful life and have worked hard to keep it that way. I won't have this couple ruin what I have worked so hard to obtained.

YOU GO GIRL!!!

I am planning to take them to court if they don't back off. I am sure that I will have plenty of witnesses to the slander, without a bit of problem. People are very fed up with the couple and their constant nastiness. In fact, I just spoke to one of the other neighbors and I am thrilled and amazed at the amount of support that I am receiving. There is a group of people going through the files to find any information that might help me out. That is so incredible and I am sitting here with tears in my eyes from the wonderful feeling from the talk and the huge emotional hug I just received. I am going to the president of our association and explain the entire situation to him. The couple is claiming that they won the suit (which is no skin of my nose, if claiming that they won makes them happy, so be it!) and that I had to pay them $400. Too bad that they are so stupid that they don't realize that the money was to buy the machine that they already owned. Anyhow the neighbor told me that the couple has dropped in everyone's eyes. The consensus of opinion is that is was pretty $hitty for them to sue me when Bill and I had been there for them when no one else would go near the couple. I am going to do a discussion about the talk as soon as I am done with this response. Needless to say I am feeling much better than I did a few days ago.

I am a loving giving person. I have given these people so much love and support along with gifting them and making sure they had things they enjoyed. When Bill and I went to their home for dinner I would make sure that I helped out as much as I could so that the wife wouldn't work herself into the ground fixing the meal. I would cook Thanksgiving dinner for all of us, and I would even clear the table, put the left overs in the fridge and do the dishes. Bill and I were there when the couple had their emergencies. I contacted the president of the home owner's association so that Bill and I can meet with him and fill him in on what is going on with that stupid sewing machine. It's funny, I am considering getting her a Bernina from Ebay to shut up her up. But even if I were to do that, she still wouldn't be happy. What's even funnier is that there is evidence that she used the sewing machine before they stored it for the past 8 years. Thank you so very very much for reminding me of the love that I receive at the Lot.

I thought the case was settled in court. The judge ruled in my favor and accepted my offer of three hundred dollars to buy the machine. I figured that the couple would buzz off about the stupid thing, but I was wrong. Watching them at the barbecue last weekend I don't think either of them will be around too much longer. They have lost a lot of mobility and neither looks well. I am happy to have the machine, it is in excellent condition and does not only the fine sewing but also computerized embroidery. It had been my Mother's before I had to sell it for some extra cash. That's how the neighbor lady ended up with it. I am just about to the point of going to court to file charges against the couple of them for harassment and slander. I hate the thought, but I need my peace and quiet back.

I have about come to the decision that I will sue, especially if the husband pulls what I think he's going to pull at our homeowners association meeting in June. I have people that will report back to me about what went on. If he is going there to tell them that I lied and stole the sewing machine from them, I am immediately getting an attorney. I will sue for harassment and slander and I am fairly sure I can get the letter that they presented at the small claims trial the beginning of the month. It was decided that I hadn't done what they accused me of doing, so the law is in my favor. It does make me feel a bit better that I was warned by a neighbor that cares enough about me to tell me that old fart wants to speak at the next board meeting. The people in my neighborhood do like me, although they don't know me very well as I stay at home and inside while most of them are here. I don't break the rules, I am very quiet and respect the other neighbor's rights and property. And I make sure that the animals I have are quiet at all times. Plus I do work for the association doing various projects and have set a recycling program in place. Bill and I patrol the area at least twice a day making sure that there are no intruders, water problems, fires or any other kind of problems with the various homes. (This is more of a vacation home area than a residential area.) Both Bill and I have made many friends and have shown everyone total respect for their status as a human and as a neighbor. This has the area buzzing like crazy...and I have been doing a lot of filling people in. I think a lot of the problem on the old couple's part is that they didn't get what they wanted, which was $4000 for a used sewing machine. Money is their God, we couldn't go to their house for dinner and NOT get through the evening without hearing about money,money, money. The husband has filed at least 15 lawsuits in the past 25 years. That says something about the pair. As I said in another post, I am kind of like a rattle snake. If you see a rattle snake laying on a rock quiet, you don't go up and start poking it. If you start poking it and keep poking it it's going to get pi$$ed and sooner or later you're going to get bit...and I am getting close to the biting point, and it is going to cost the couple big!

I can't believe that I am going through all this because of a sewing machine. I figured that because they are in their late 80's and supposedly adults, that I could approach them in a sane manner and discuss the problem with them. But unfortunately that isn't the case. Fortunately I have a doctor's appointment on Wednesday, if my chest doesn't feel better by then it might be a trip to the ER! I have been trying to ignore the couple, and fortunately I live far enough away from them that I don't have to even look at them. I did email the head of the homeowner's association so that Bill and I can talk to him and fill him in on the truth of the matter. Thank you for your kind words, it does help a LOT in this horrible time.

I am very glad that I see the doctor on Wednesday. I have been having serious chest pain from the stress. I know it isn't a heart attack as I have had these symptoms before. But it still doesn't help much having the pain... I know for a fact that they hadn't used the machine in 8 years. It took the wife a good ten minutes to move the stuff from in front of the shelf that the machine was on. It is horrible that your children have to live the way they are because of a horrible nasty old man. It kind of reminds me of an art class my daughter and I took. There were a bunch of snotty old women who were really stuck up in the class. It was fiendish for three of us who were fun loving and loved art and crafts for the sake of being creative. When we complained at the last class the snot brigade told us that we shouldn't have taken the class if we couldn't take the criticism. It was also an on line class that we posted to the discussion group. The snot brigade posted really nasty comments about the three of us who complained. My daughter, bless her heart, posted the following "You're all a bunch of frigid old windbags that need to get laid". I was so proud of my daughter for having the guts to post that. As much as I hate to think of it, I may end up having to take the couple to court and sue their socks off for harassment and slander.

We went to small claims court on March 3. The judgment handed down was that I didn't steal and sell the machine. They don't care. They will maintain to the day that they die that I stole the machine and sold it for $4000 on ebay. They want the money...as I have said previously, money is their God and all they talk about is money. I hate saying this, but the couple is in such bad shape that I don't think they will last too much longer...except that it could be that God doesn't want them and the devil is scared of them!! I watched them at the barbecue and neither of them was doing too well. Plus things that they usually deal with right away have sat for three days. What is going to be sad is if they both go at the same time, no one is going to notice that they have passed. It's a sad way to go. And this is even a sadder way to live, not wanting someone to explain things and believing that even when you're wrong you're right.

From the way that you explained it, I guess people don't really give importance to what they say. So, I guess it's just fair that you just ignore the foolishness and just let the words pass from one ear to the other. It's not worth feeling bad about. Besides, they cannot do something about kicking you out because you have a written something from the small court showing that their claims are baseless. Anyone of the homeowners listening to them is bound to be humiliated as well.

I erroneously thought that the wife would mind her manners in public...Boy was I wrong!!! But I am glad that Bill and I went to the barbecue, that is how I found out about the husband going to the board meeting. I was also trying to avoid them at the barbecue and she searched me out to torment me. I don't want to get ugly, but with my temperament I let the crap build up to the point that I take action, and the people being the bullies are extremely sorry. I am to the point of suing their socks off. I was judged innocent of what they claimed, so they feel that they need to get even for my working my a$$ off to prove them wrong. (they're the kind that even when they're wrong they're right...no matter what) I am glad that I go to the doctor on Wednesday. The chest pain had eased off, but it is back even worse than before. I know that it is from the stress. I know that they can't cause me to lose my home, but it's the fact that they are even thinking of being that rotten.

I'm glad you are feeling better loverbear. I'm sure she is just throwing out empty threats, I know people like that, I live with people like that and it can stress you out..My suggestion is if you can stay away from them until you see your doctor Wednesday, and then explain to your doctor what is going on and how it stresses you out so much it causes you pain..Maybe he can help you with a solution, you never know..

I discovered two things that are really "funny". (Funny odd, not funny ha ha) The first one was when I checked out the file from the trial. The judge didn't include the two page letter to the court in the file. When the clerk called the judge he informed her of two things. First it didn't show any evidence that I had done what they accused and secondly it was so horrible in both the way it was written and how nasty and accusing towards me that he shredded it. WOW!!! The other thing is that the documents didn't show a cut and dried judgment in favor of the old farts that started the whole mess. It wasn't a judgment, it was an offer to me to buy the machine, and the court accepted it for the couple. I am meeting with the head of our home owners association before the next board meeting. I am going to fill him in on what happened in court. The whole community is up in arms at what is happening to me. I have informed the people that I know will spread the information correctly what had happened at court, and that I am on the verge of suing the couple for harassment and slander. I would love it if the couple would have a copy of the letter and submit it to the board. It would make my year! I want to live in my home in peace. It's a simple request. I went to court, I was judged innocent, and I bought a sewing machine. The couple needs to get a new hobby, because I'm not going to be a hobby for them any more. As I have said, its like a rattle snake sleeping on a rock. If you're walking by, you might get to poke it once and if you're lucky you get to poke it twice, but watch out because the sucker is going to get PI$$ED and bite you. Of course you would think that the normal person would have enough intelligence to NOT poke the snake in the first place. This couple doesn't happen to have that kind of thought process. And they are going to suffer from it. Especially since I discovered how rattled I really was from the whole mess. I missed appointments, paying bills, deadlines and more. I have also suffered physically from the stress and long nights of preparing for the trial. I think I earned the opportunity to sue the socks off that couple. The area I live in doesn't have a mayor per se. I don't think the mayor could help me because I am rural. But the neighbors are fully behind me, and they are in awe because Bill and I were the only local friends that they had. People are rethinking even going near them. Especially since they are bragging about winning the suit against me...everyone knows how loving and caring I was for the couple. Oh well, I've been crapped on before, and I didn't take it then and now that I came out of the shock I am NOT going to take it now. I'll find a sleazy lawyer who will work on contingency and file suit. And as I told Bill tonight, when I win I will throw a huge party for the club and invite the old farts to see how I am spending their money!!! Thanks for the suggestions and support. It is like a huge hug with a warm soft fuzzy blanket to know that I have such love and support from the wonderful people I have met on the Lot. Love and hugs back to you.

I am seriously considering suing for harassment and slander. I'm waiting for the homeowners association board meeting to get a report on what the husband pulls. I was judged not guilty of selling the machine on ebay, and the couple are really pi$$ed off. First because they are the type that even if they are wrong they are right. Second is because money is their God. Every time we had dinner with them they would talk money through the meal. I have reached the point that just because they are my "elders" they don't deserve my respect and consideration. I really don't give a fig about their illnesses even though I was so very close to them. I just want them to back off. I'm kind of like a rattle snake. If it is laying there quiet and sleeping, you don't go up and poke it. If you keep poking it you're going to PI$$ it off and it's going to bite you. Unfortunately these people think that I am a wimp because I don't get into hot battle at the instant that something happens. I sit back and watch. I won't do anything illegal, but they will be sorry if they keep poking this snake. I figure that the husband is going to the meeting to tell the board that I am a liar and a thief and that's when I file suit. I hate law suits, I had a workman's comp suit that lasted 12 years! But in this case I can't take having my home and life disrupted by these horrible people. Right now my big concern is getting my pain levels back down to a tolerable level. My chest pain has been increasing and my pain medication isn't helping too much. Fortunately I know that it isn't a heart attack, it is from stress (I've had it before) but I still need to do something about it. I see the doctor on Wednesday so maybe he can prescribe something to help. I do have to add a funny. When we would go to the barbecues, we would sit with the couple. They would always bring down a card table and chairs for us to sit at. We would bring up the table and chairs to their house after the barbecue. This time, for the past three days, the table and chairs have sat at the barbecue area.

I have a question for you. If the husband goes to the board meeting and starts insisting that I be removed from my home, can this be used as harassment? I am thinking it will be substantial enough for a law suit, but I just want to be sure...actually prepared. I figure he doesn't really have a leg to stand on because I own my home, am totally disabled, and have obeyed the association rules...but you never know what they will come up with in lies. Thank you so much in advance.

First~ Disclaimer "I a not an attorney, and am not being paid for this endorsement, oops I mean statement!" They can't do a thing to have you thrown out of your home! This whole thing is a joke (well, not really), but it was a "Small Claims Lawsuit" not a Federal Lawsuit"! And they are harrassing you and slandering you! And if he does this at the board meeting, the good part is it will me noted in the "Minutes of the Board Meeting" which is "more proof" that they are committing Harrassment, Libel and Slander! In other words, it would "help" you if you want to take them to Court! So, not only would you have "witnesses, but written proof of what they are trying to do, meaning get you thrown out of your home! The Judge would have this thrown out of Court for them wasting the Courts time or grant you the money! Don't you watch Judge Judy? She would have a field day with this case! Stop letting them upset you! They can't legally hurt you in any way and if you let them make you sick the THEY ARE WINNING! I keep telling my girlfriend next door the same thing! We have a "neighbor from beyond HELL! If you think you have trouble, I have been living next door to this beotch for 30 years and she tortures everyone who lives underneath her and has gotten 4 tenants to move out because of her! She is diagnal to me and I can hear all her crap~another story for another time or my chest will also start to hurt! Opal2626@yahoo.com If you want to continue.....Love and Hugs, Leslie

I can't afford to move to town. I get under a thousand dollars a month and rent in town is over $1500. Besides the fact that the places in town don't allow pets. This couple won't settle down in a couple of months. When something gets under their skin they are the kind to be angry for years and years. Besides, I am not going to let them chase me out of my home! I have lived here for 25 years and I am not going to let them bully me into moving. My next step is going to be legal. I may end up suing for harassment and slander.

I just had a doubt - how much would it cost you to fight something like that! I dont think they have enough monies to compensate you for slander, and harassment. If they dont does it really make sense, considering it would be drain on your resources. Wouldnt it be cheaper to move elsewhere?

I wasn't embarrassed. In fact I stared the old bat down, until Bill (my boyfriend) took my arm and lead me away. The woman is doing a good job of embarrassing herself. I am seriously considering suing, the report that I will get from the homeowners association board meeting will decide it for me. If the husband goes in demanding that I get thrown out because they think I am a thief, then I get an attorney. I was proven innocent and the machine that I had in court was actually the machine that I had borrowed. I don't care how old the couple are, they have NO right to do what they are doing.

I own my home, and with the real estate market there is no way that I could get sufficient out of my home to pay for a move and a new place to live. Plus I am on disability and if I sold my home I would lose the disability. Also, my boyfriend lives across the street and two doors up from me. It would tear him apart if I were to leave the area. I did email the president of our homeowners association and asked to set up a meeting with him so that Bill and I can fill him in on the situation. Hopefully there is something that he can do.

I am looking at suing the couple. I am so tired of the slander and harassment. They are telling everyone that they won the lawsuit, which isn't true. What has the whole association in awe is that the couple had the guts to sue me. I don't feel guilty, I didn't do anything wrong. I didn't sell their machine, I didn't steal from them even though I could have many times over if I were so inclined, which I assure you I am NOT that kind of person. Right now, it is getting my pain under control and waiting for them to pull their next stunt at the homeowners board meeting in June. It ought to be interesting as there are a lot of people on my side. I will admit you're right that I am falling into their trap. Unfortunately I have taught myself to internalize my feelings and anger. It's kind of like a rattle snake. I'll take the poking with a stick for only so long then I will get very angry and take care of things. (Legally of course) Thank you so much for your support and wisdom. You have made me think a lot.

I have already been to court, on May 3. It was proven in court that I didn't do what the couple claimed that I did. They are being vindictive because they lost and didn't get the $4000 that they had counted on. Money is their God, and they do nothing but talk about money. Since I was proven innocent in court, I don't need to really worry about paying them. It's the couple, who have nothing to do but think about how to try to get even with me for something I didn't do. We proved without a shadow of a doubt that the sewing machine that I returned to them was the machine that I borrowed. But they refuse to believe it. As I said before, they are the kind of people that even if they are wrong they're right and will be nasty to the person in the right. My next option is to file charges against them and sue. I don't want to do that, but it might be necessary to get them off my back.

Thank you so much for your moral support. I finally feel good enough to read the responses and reply to them. I still am having the chest pain, but I see the doctor on Wednesday and hopefully he can do something to help. I have decided that if they continue to harass and slander me it is time to find a attorney. I don't like to sue, but sometimes it is necessary. I'm kind of like a rattle snake sleeping on a rock. If you're smart you don't poke at the snake. The stupid people will poke at the snake and keep poking at it. They are surprised when the snake gets angry and bites them. They are still poking me, but I am at the point of striking back...legally...and they won't like it. Simply because it's going to hit them where they hurt, in their bank account. Money is their God, and they can't visit with anyone without talking about money constantly. That's why they are so upset that they didn't win the case, they were counting on receiving $4000 for a 25 year old used sewing machine. Humm, doesn't it make you wonder about their powers of reasoning?

I have turned it over to God. He is in command and I get the feeling I won't have too many problems with the couple soon. Neither of them are in good health, and all they have to do each day is sit and think of ways to be nasty to people. I do stay calm in "battle" situations. It is something that I learned when I was a kid. Unfortunately people don't realize that when you have a person that doesn't lose it and get mad immediately is someone that you need to look out for and not keep pursuing a matter. I am very slow to anger, and if they couple doesn't settle down soon they are going to find themselves in court for harassment and slander charges. I won't have my life and home disrupted like they are doing now.