How to deal with envy
By clang3104
@clang3104 (86)
Philippines
May 30, 2010 7:52pm CST
good day mylotters! just wanna ask about your ways on dealing with envy/jealousy. this can be in any form.
8 responses
@chantalreanne (160)
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31 May 10
hi my star sign is scorpio and jealousy is in our nature. i'd say it was true, i am jealous of everything.. i'm jealous of girls my boyfriend speaks to, i'm jealous of people prettier, skinnier, richer than me i can get jealous of everything. jealousy is extremely difficult to control and i think theres not really a way of controlling it as it's just there in your mind
@clang3104 (86)
• Philippines
31 May 10
sometimes i also feel like the way you do. we can't really avoid it, especially if we don't have much to flaunt. comparisons with other people cannot be easily evaded.
@clang3104 (86)
• Philippines
31 May 10
yes that's right. it's easier said than done. even though we try to avoid the feeling, it's comes naturally. as they say, it's "human nature".
@chantalreanne (160)
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31 May 10
people can say 'just don't compare yourselves with them' but you can't help it, its in your head. you really can't change who you are or what you think till you mature into a different person which can't be forced.
@rhazebustamante (89)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Hi!!!
There are times when we get jealous with what others have or are capable to do and wish you are in her shoes. As for me, I deal envy in a positive way. Say making it a challenge for me or a healthy competition as may be termed. Striving hard to at least achieve or equal his or her capability.
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
31 May 10
I agree. Everyone experiences jealousy at one time another, especially romantic jealousy. That's the worst kind. 
What I would do to overcome it is figure out what makes you jealous of the other person and try to reach that standard. For example, if you're jealous of their talent to draw, start working on drawing yourself. Your mind is amazing. Good luck! 
What I would do to overcome it is figure out what makes you jealous of the other person and try to reach that standard. For example, if you're jealous of their talent to draw, start working on drawing yourself. Your mind is amazing. Good luck! @clang3104 (86)
• Philippines
31 May 10
i couldn't agree more. this is certainly what i do to overcome my envy with someone. i try to keep up with them. if they can't do it, why can't i?
@clang3104 (86)
• Philippines
31 May 10
i couldn't agree more. this is certainly what i do to overcome my envy with someone. i try to keep up with them. if they can do it, why can't i?
@cloud31 (5809)
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31 May 10
If you envy or jealous in some thing or someone, try not to compare yourself to them, or use the feeling to improve yourself,make use of what you feel as an inspiration to attain and reach of what you envying for.
Making use as inspiration is the best way to deal with it, meaning if they can,why can't you?
Happy myLotting!
@clang3104 (86)
• Philippines
31 May 10
yes. this is what i do sometimes. believing in yourself is key. i try to equal his/her capabilities, or do more than he/she can do. i get inspiration from them.
@ying_yang (56)
• Philippines
31 May 10
me, i deal with it by faith, i will always raise it to God whenever i feel something like that and then try hard not to think of that envy feeling again.
@clang3104 (86)
• Philippines
31 May 10
i also believe that only God will give us strength and the confidence to handle ourselves. only He can take away our negative feelings.
@nancy0618 (477)
• Philippines
31 May 10
maybe it would be better if you divert you attention to other things rather than focusing your attention to the one you're getting jealous/envy of. you have no other options but to ignore it.
@clang3104 (86)
• Philippines
31 May 10
most of the time, try as i might, i really can't get my thoughts off of what i envy because i'm thinking of silent competition, in a harmless way of course. but maybe your right. sometimes, we just have to ignore it to avoid hurting our ego.
@chirag2006 (123)
• China
31 May 10
the best way for envy and jealousy is ignore them and make u r enemy ur goodness in this way u might change u r enemy's mind they change their self and understand in this way u might do it
@clang3104 (86)
• Philippines
31 May 10
it's really hard to ignore the feeling but it's a good way to avoid hurting yourself. sometimes i do this. i keep my mind off of these thoughts to overcome the feeling. thanks!
@evepin (721)
• Philippines
31 May 10
when it comes to envy, i guess one should just stop comparing themselves with others and at the same time be happy with what they have got. now... about jealousy... when it comes to relationships, i.e. husband and wife, then constant reassurance and trust are key.
cheers and happy mtLotting!
@clang3104 (86)
• Philippines
31 May 10
yes. sometimes i also think of my capabilities when i envy someone. confidence and believing in yourself will keep you up. in relationships, trust is really important. add it to the fact that without it, bridges between people will be burned.
