Any suggestion to deal with this problem that i have?

Hi Ksherrie, Are you able to talk to your mom about this? I'm thinking that maybe that might be the place to start. If it were me, I'd tell my mom that she upset him by shouting at him and that he was only trying to help. Maybe she would be willing to apologize to him. Also your husband should understand that it is not entirely your mom's fault. I know if I were having a spat with my boyfriend or husband, I would not appreciate anyone putting their nose into it unless I asked for advise even if they were taking my side. Sometimes after a heated disagreement a person just needs to be left alone to cool down for a bit.

The reason why explaining to your husband about your mothers bad anger management, didn't work, is because that's not an excuse. "I have an anger problem" is not an excuse for having an anger problem. If I was your husband, I would never talk to that angry witch either. She might be your mother, but she's still a horrible person to yell at someone trying to help. There is only one way to solve this problem. You mother need to grow up, stop acting like a 2-year-old with a temper tantrum, and take responsibility for her actions. To start off she can apologize for being a screaming jerk. If she is too immature to do this, then you better get used to your husband not talking to her. I wouldn't.

I see, your husband was hurt by your mother. Is this happen the second time or many times already? Because I can see he no longer have patience and understanding when it comes to you mother. Or maybe he understands it all but he just remain quit to avoid any confrontation between him and your mom. I know you are hurt by your situation but for sure the respect of your husband will still be there for your mother even though they are not talking. Do not force things to happen now, there is always a right time for that. Try to talk to your mother and explain your husband’s side and still talk to your husband too. time will come and it will heals all the hurt they have inside.

Well, if your mom is one understanding person, maybe u can get her for help instead?? BUt if she's just like your husband, then i guess it needs more time.. After all like u said, nobody likes to be shouted at, for no particular reason.. And if your husband happens to be one petty person, all the more it will be worse.. However if your husband really loves u, he will be able to put down his pride and pretend nothing has happened.. Maybe u can tease him about it?? Telling him not to be so petty over the incident, etc? hehe ^_^ Maybe that will prompt him to be back to normal again..

I do understand how it is, my brother does not speak with my boyfriend too and this is really a bad situation where I got to be with both of them so that they do not feel rejected by me. So I think you should talk to your husband sometimes a very good conversation will make everything back to normal and please explain to your mother too that she is at fault and she should be asking for an apology. Man has a lot of pride and it is better not to play with that.

i can suggest little as its not as serious a case. if your mother hate to be greeted as well then your husband cannot greet her even though he wants and by it i mean he's doing as necessary. in the case that your mother do wanted to be greeted, try to say to him that your mother hates him for not greeting her and she complains for your husbands coldness. you can then add the magical question: will you do it for me?

No question in my mind - your mother lost her temper and was rude to your husband and presumably was also rude to your father. So your mother should apologise to both men and beg forgiveness for loosing her temper. There is no excuse for loosing your temper and glossing over it with modern phsycho-speak does no make it better. Loose your temper and you could loose your life. Maybe your mother could be made to remember that old and wise saying. Sorry to be blunt but you did ask for advice. I do hope the situation resolves itself and you can have a harmonious family again.

First thing, look at your language; "...she has bad anger management" you mean she is bad tempered and yes, she can control it, even after a row. You need to speak to your mother and get her to apologise to your husband, he is the injured party in this, not your mother all the best urban

Hi there K Sherrie! I totally understand how you feel. Of course, we all want to have harmony within our family including in-laws. I think that you should explain to him how people have different ways of handling their emotions. Maybe your mother was too hurt or too angry that she wasn't able to handle hers well and had let some of it out on your husband. I think maybe you should add how much your mother needs you and your husband to be very understanding on times like that and tell him that if ever the situation gets reversed, and your mother-in-law shouted at you in a similar situation, you won't take offense.

Hello friend!! I know you are in critical condition but it is time to stay calm for sometime. It is good part of your husband that he did not shout back on your mother. You can conclude from it that he was understanding the condition to some extent. You should not talk about your mother to him right now and keep him cool. Moreover, you should also respect your husband that he was silent instead of saying anything to your parents and was trying to help them. No one would like to listen anything this manner while they are helping and in return they face anger of others... So, I guess you should proud on your man. You are lucky one that you have got such a man. Now coming to issue. Keep yourself in his situation and how you would have reacted... may be you would have shouted back and if not then you would also be acting as he is acting so his action is valid... nothing surprising. Will you like that someone insult your husband... who so ever is... he is your life partner... soul mate... I agree parents are important as well but after marriage husband should be at first place and should not let their pride destroyed... He is not wrong at all... You can explain him the situation well or some incidents of past that she has never controlled her anger but he is understanding and he has done good job by being silent. Moreover, they are like your parents so do not they have right to get angry on you. Tell him that you know that it was mistake of your mother but what they are your parents so please try to understand how I feel while he act in such manner...Surely, he will understand by keeping himself in your situation... I hope everything will work well for you... Have nice friend!! Take care friend!! Happy myLotting!!

I think you will have to convince your mother to say sorry to your husband genuinely. No reasonable man would settle for anything less than that.

Just let it be, things will be ironed in the right time. I'm sure both of them are not in good mood to communicate yet but as days go by I know that they will patch up again.

i suggest to wait and let time heal because i believe that some people don't forget and forgive easily especially if it is family matters. it is so painful when we are hurt by someone that we love ,maybe that is why your husband was hurt so much because he loves your family.you can't take away your husband's pride but i am sure that he wants peace he is just too afraid to show it. if there is the right time and place, maybe your mother and husband will be united again.

Let them work it out. You can help by cooking dinner and telling him two or three days before hand shes coming for dinner, I need you guys to try to get along, after all we are all in this together! What do you say honey? If he says no. respect that and wait for about 1-3 months and ask again with the dinner included! Good luck, Kathy

yeah just tell your husband she was just pmsing.. and you are glad he didnt s hout back, but someone poeple do this at when they are going back and forth with others, i even do that i'll be yelling or upset at one person and then yell at someone else for no reason. or talk to your mom and ask her to say sorry to your husband when she's calm

Your mother needs to apologize to your husband.

Tempers are a part and parcel of life. Your husband and your mother should shake hands and even if your mother takes that initiative it is perfectly in order. These are incidents and not attitudes. It is the attitudes that one should be worried about as they are permanent features and need a lot of control.

Try to convince him that you know that my mother anger is bad and because of age also she just loose the temper or just give him a book women are from Venus and men are from Mars in that they show how to react or feelings of man and women both so may be he could understand from what situation she was going around on that time because on that particular time she want to sit alone without disturbance nd she was not liking anybody interference.

Hi! In my opinion, it's their pride that hinders them from forgiving each other. Your husband must be understand since your mother is much older than him, he has to understand that being old means having short temper sometimes, he needs to be patient. I think that they should talk about it because they can never resolve anything by not speaking to one another. You, the wife and the daughter should initiate it. You should be the bridge with the two of them.

It takes time to heal emotional hurt. I suggest giving both of them time and space to meditate on what they did, and you, as their only connection, make sure that you tell them good things about the other.