thank you and please... do you still say these?
@kenchiprincess (5296)
Philippines
May 31, 2010 4:09am CST
when i was small, i was told that saying thank you and please are magic words. it would make a lot of difference if we use these words in our daily dealings. it just like you appreciate even the little things that was done to you by others. lately i scarcely hear people say these words especially the younger generation or even us adults. do we say these words when we ask someone to do something for us in the grocery or the department store or anywhere we are at? do we teach our children to use these words at all times?
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@kheigh (215)
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31 May 10
i still do. i feel so rude when i don't. maybe it's not really rude but you should at least show appreciation when someone did something for you. that's what i want so that's what i do. it's like doing the things you want to be done for you to others so that others may do it to you as well.
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@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
31 May 10
thanks for sharing kheigh. this reminds me of the golden rule that is do unto others so that others may do it with you as well. nice thoughts.
@titaniumpen (676)
• Hong Kong
31 May 10
Without the "please" word, you seem to be issuing commands. And if you don't thank somebody, you're not grateful and of course rude.
@kheigh (215)
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31 May 10
@kenchiprincess yep it's like the golden rule. just the other way around.
@titaniumpen you're right. that's why i use thank you and please. like i said, i feel so rude.
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@derek_a (10874)
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31 May 10
I would say that saying thank you and please are a sign that you respect the other person to whom you are saying it. It doesn't take a moment to say in a conversation where appropriate and it does promote a feeling of well-being and contentment between two people. _Derek
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@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
31 May 10
thanks for the response. does that mean people that we don't respect or people that has a lower status than us don't deserve those words? i am just wondering.
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@derek_a (10874)
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1 Jun 10
I think that everybody deserves those words unless they prove that they do not. If anybody is rude and nasty to people for no reason, they cannot expect to have respect from others. Who is really to say how is lower or higher status. It is just a judgement made on others.
Whilst it is difficult at times not to judge, as a Zen practitioner, I aim to just nobody and see all people as being of equal value. After all, is a beach pebble more important than a mountain? I don't think so. They are both rocks and the universe would be incomplete if either one was not there. _Derek
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@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
I say thank you and please to all people no matter what their status in life is. Everyone deserves these courtesy words as long as they are also respectful of others. I get so annoyed when people ask me to do something but don't bother to say thank you after I do it for them.
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@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Thanks for sharing, well at times, i don't expect everyone to say it since in today's generation they tend to omit it. but, it really makes me smile when i hear someone say these words, knowing that they appreciate what you have done.
@shiloh_222 (5479)
• Philippines
31 May 10
hi friend. all the time. sometimes, the problem is i say it too much subconsciously. it is always best to show courtesy. it's one of the many great rules to live by.
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@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Thanks for sharing friend. Indeed, we need to be courteous at all times.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
31 May 10
my wife always say these words and the funny thing is she also say this to me. she says please and thank you. i am not a person who says that har har har i am rude thats what my wife say. now that we are married for 7 years i adopt this trait already. i am glad that i adopt it for our four year old son will adopt it for sure. even the word sorry... we can add that up with your thank you and please.
@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Great to hear that you got the habit of saying please and thank you at all times because you got the habit from your wife. surely your son will get the habit himself since he hears at home often. Sorry is also part of the list, these are considered magic words.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
31 May 10
Of course I still say thank you and please. I was brought up to always say these things. It would be disrespectful not to. Children in today's society are not as respectful of these traditions. Thank you and please are just words in the dictionary to the young generation.
@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Yeah, i have notice that too. for them these are just words and no value at all. I think they need to be reminded the value of saying these words. Thanks for sharing!!!
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
1 Jun 10
of course i do... these words are still very important to me and i used them very often... it is just basic manners and courtesy i think... take care and have a nice day...
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
7 Jun 10
Good manners were instilled in me when I was a child. It's quite normal, it seems, these days, for many people not to say please or thank you. I often wonder why these little words can be just left off the end of a sentence. Do people feel more important than those they are speaking to?
Another thing I notice on American TV is when someone is speaking on the phone and the conversation ends...they just hang up. They don't say "Bye" they just put the phone down. Is that rude? or is it perhaps just considered "normal"??
@chillpill90 (1936)
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31 May 10
I still say these words as a matter of respect to someone otherwise i feel it is rude to ask for something and not say thank you or please can i have such and such. i also have seen that not many people use these words these days and i have started trying to get people i know to start using them again.
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@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
31 May 10
hi chillpill, that is a really great effort in your part of trying to embark to others saying thank you and please. hope you continue what you have started. Godbless!!!
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
31 May 10
Hi kenchiprincess, thank you / thanks and please are words which reflect your personality. With these words we can do things easily, it shows your respect on others. Obviously we should teach our children these words. Without respect our children will not grow happily in the society.
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@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
That is true. respect is very important no matter the status and age of the person is still they need to be respected and one way to show it is saying these magic words. thanks for sharing!!!
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
31 May 10
HELLO there kenchiprincess! yes, i am using thank you and please still. I think all of us should still practice to use this words for they imply good manners and right conduct to the person who says this words. I would love to hear others saying please because it requests me to do something instead of not using it so what he says will be in a form of commanding me. Saying Thank you, however, gave me a feeling of being glad to the person who said it to me so i used this word as often as i could whenever needed to at least give back the favor this person rendered to me. Good luck!
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@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
i really see to it that i have to say these ytime it is needed,my friend.
you know,it's really important to say these words,my friend!
it's a way of appreciating others' efforts and a way of giving respect and being respectful in the same way.
it can be used in polite affirmative replies to offers;
like May i help you,please?
it's nice to know someone who is utterring this words,right?
not just by being rude if not doing so...
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@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 10
ya i still said thanks or thank you to cashier,waitress and such. Out of 10 time properly i said 6-8 times,but i usally don look at them at eye levels while saying that , because culture (asian) we don usually look at people eye directly , it little scary and confrontations like your are imposing your gratefullness upon them.haha.Beside saying please,thanks,thank your, we also said sorry for your inconvience,pardon me and such. Sometime and often words of thanks your is responded with your're welcome and such.Usually by a nod or a stare.Haha.But those upclass restraurants have imported western culture , they are more welcome and said thank you to customers more often,while the normal streel level stalls are different.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
31 May 10
hi kenchiprincess!
regarding your question my answer is yes i do. i still think those are magic words for everyone of us.We should be thanked and appreciated every single thing that happen to us.i always teach my little niece and nephew to be grateful and say thank you when they need to do so.that is what my parents taught me and the others.i do agree when you said it's hard to hear people say those words nowadays.maybe it is because they just don't practice it but people might think that you are being rude if you are not doing so.:)
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@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
It's nice to know that your teaching the little ones to say these phrases for they will carry it with them as they grow older and they can pass this as well to their future children and grandchildren.
@webzap (884)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
Everyday, I say thank you to a lot of people especially my customers in our little store and I feel great when they say 'thank you' also and 'you are welcome'. Heart warming. I learned this when I was small and my parents taught me these words together with 'good morning' and good' evening'.
@goddessjes (788)
• Philippines
31 May 10
hi there.
my father always reminds me that there should never be a room for impoliteness. no matter what you mood is, you have no right to be impolite to people. he taught me the magic words, "please" and "thank you".
whenever my sister forgets this, i would remind her. and she gets pissed off at me. hehe.
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@alanthony333 (116)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Nice post.. Hm, of course. In our family, everyone was taught to always say these words... It's like an act of respect and love... :D
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