If someone threatened to kill themselves every time

If the person they are wanting to leave is using that threat, than they definitely need to get out of the relationship. The person who threatens to take their own life over a relationship is unhealthy emotionally and mentally and needs help. If the person wanting to leave is fairly certain that the person would actually follow through with the threat than they will need to take extra measures to try to prevent it from happening. Things like having another mutual friend stay around that person and keep an eye on them. Alerting authorities or a mutual doctor. It should never be the reason to stay in a relationship, however, that just makes for a very unhealthy relationship and will drain emotionally on both people involved.

oh my god,how pathetic,my ex husband once said that if i didn't take him back he'd kill himself,so i said,go ahead i'll even tell you which way to slit your wrists coz last time you tried you did it wrong,he didn't do it,,it's a control thing when someone says they'll kill themselves,most people don't do it,you should never give in to a controller

If they were going to kill themselves, they'd just do it, not threaten all the time as a way of controlling somebody. No, it's not a reason to stay with somebody. If anything, it's a reason to run screaming in the other direction!!!

Hi, jugsjugs. If someone threatened to kill themselves, then that means that they may just go through with it one day. This could be a warning sign for their partner. If someone wants to end their life for someone else especially if it is a lover and another lover.. It just is not worth it.

I was in a relationship where when things didn't go acoording to his plan he would tell me that he would take himself out. He would say that he had some pills that he was going to take and not wake up. I felt sorry for him at first and after it went on for a few years I had to get out. It got to be a cycle that he would go through. It became a way of life. I couldn't do it anymore. Enough was enough. Good Discussion. Happy MyLotting

Really difficult to stay such a person who try to kill themselves. But surly there will be some reason for that they want to kill herself. So if i face such a condition then at first i will try my best to find out the reason and then solve it. If i solve the problem then i don't need to separate. As i should support my love. But if it's still work-less then may be i will leave........

I had the same thing happen to me and I was told it was emotional blackmail. Finally I said I was so fed up with believing he really would kill himself I said if he did not stop that threat then I would probably kill him before he killed himself. That worked and we did go our separate ways.

absolutely this person might actually try (not very seriously tho) to kill themselves, but they are really using this as a threat that they really don't mean

I actually went through the exact same situation as your friend the past few months. My husband and I never got along he lied to me constantly and treated me terribly. I just couldnt stay in a relationship with him anymore it was making me miserable. I hadent been happy since 6 years before when we got married. I called it quits the day after Christmas. Soon after he was commited to a psychiatric ward but really it was just for attention he thought once he got out that I would feel bad for him and take him back. That didnt happen. A month or so later when he really realized it was totally over he tried to kill himself and had to be commited again. Hes still having a hard time so I feel bad but I will never go back to him.

These people need help. They are manipulating and coniving and they need help. You can't stay with someone just because they threaten to take their lives if you leave. Someone needs to be notified. I really don't believe that the chances, in most cases, are that high that they will take their own life. But they are not healthy and they making the other person unhealthy as well if they stay.

Wow. Really? I don't believe a person can kill herself just because she's being dumped. Plus, girls has higher pride than guys when it comes to relationships. She's probably gonna shrug it all off eventually and come to her senses.

Well if some body says this, it is simply manipulated statement just to threaten somebody, needs a kick at the butt.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

i'd been to this kind of situation. for so many times i tried to end an emotionally draining relationship but he always threatened to kill himself everytime i told him that i want out. it went on for quite a while because i was really afraid that he would make good his threat. However, it came to a point where i can't bear it anymore. I left him and he said i would never see him again alive. I was so mad at that point for emotionally blackmailing me that i didn't care if he will really kill himself, although i informed authorities of his threat. When he realized that i was not coming back, he threatened to kill me. That was it, i reported his threat to authorities and got away from him as far as possible that time. i never looked back. people like this are pathetic..

Well in a situation like this , if someone you are with as a partner is sucidal if you tell them you want to leave then they are most likely not someone you should be with. I would tell them to seek help or counciling if they are having those types of sucidal thoughts.Being sucidal like this is mostly likely a sign they have some sort of emotional or mental health problem and need treatment immeidently.

Two words....emotional blackmail. It's rife in this relationship. Also, people who say they are going to do the deed never do. Some make a half hearted attempt but make sure they will be found or saved before too much damage is done. Your friend is probably co-dependent...a person who thrives on a partner who is totally dependent on them for their physical, spiritual and mental balance and happiness. Are you actually reading the comments here?

this is called possessive i think. we never want to have a partner that really possessive with us. we can't feel free. it is not health to have such relationship, and it is a good reason too to end it.

Hello my friend . I believe its just emotion black mail. I think no one should stay in relationship because they forced. I think there will be no happiness if yo life with stay with someone but not with his own will. I think that woman need to learn you can not learn to love others without loving yourself at first place.

I'll tell that person, if you want to, then do it. I don't care

I am definitely not staying. That person is unbalanced and needs help, besides any person who could take his own life can take yours too.

Its surely not a healthy relationship, and I think they should get out of it soon! The mental abuse thats going on will have lasting effects and will probly need counselling afetr