Are not discussions for discussing pros and cons? why so afraid to comment?

It is healthy to disagree sometimes and the most important words in your post are love and respect. We can respect the other person and his or her opinion while not agreeing with it! I don’t avoid discussions that I disagree with; I just like to share my view in a civil and polite manner and hope others do the same!

That is the key, respect. Since I am here for fun more or less, as well as the earnings, I skip discussions where people are disrespectful and hurting each other. I like discussions where we can help each other out. Some subjects we will never resolve,no matter how much we discuss them.

Hatley! We definitely cannot have similar view points on everything and it is the different responses and different thought processes that make a real discussion.However,I also agree that I do not respond to many discussions. WHile my time here is restricted to my convenience , I also would not air my opinions on some topics, where I have a firm opinion .There are so many different aspects , cultural differences, differences in styles of living , and many many more.I feel I may not be right in expressing a view point purely from my stance. It may hurt the other person. On the other hand if it is a friend whom I know and can relate to very well, then irrespective of cultural or other differences in thinking processes , I do share my experiences and thoughts.Here the understanding and good feeling never change and for me this camraderie is very very important. Another colour in your avataar??

I think we can all respectfully agree to disagree when the mind takes a turn to do so. This is why we talk things out and get different opinions on things. This is a discussion forum, so we discuss the pros and cons, the likes and dislikes, the agreements and disagreements.

So many people don't want to make any waves. Heaven forbid they should have their own opinion. And sine can't help but be insulting and don't care about others feelings. If we all lived by the Golden Rule what a lovely world it would be. We really need alittle oposition and difference to make for an interesting world. If we all agreed on everything it would be so boring. These people that are afrad to comment just need to grow up and join the real world! Life is short!

Hi hatley, insulting others is not in my dictionary, if other insulted me i will just leave it to them and i will say thanks also for that because it is their opinion. It is their style of thinking, whether to agree or disagree it is upto us. I will post my comments with what i have an opinion. So everyone have their own opinions to post or discuss or to comment. We may get upset sometimes with the responses but we must be sportive. Hatley how is your health now.

I totally agree with you, hehe. Like you said a discussion is different points of view, some might disagree or have oher opinions, but as aduls we should all be able to give our opinion respecfully. Hatley your a gem, you have a way with words, you have so much wisdom. I have read some of your post when your opinion is different, your not afaid to speak your mind. I think lots of us mylotters look up to you, including me. I'm going to be gone a week, my mom and I are going to Virginia to visit my sis and her family. Take care and I will see you when I get back.

I agree that we shouldn't be afraid to disagree with someone. However, I can also understand a person who is fearful of it because they've been rejected or hurt because they did so. It can be hard to want to disagree when you have been hurt in the past by doing so

Hi Hatley! The purpose of a "discussion" is exactly that! We are supposed to be able to give our "opinions", meaning we don't necessarily have to agree with the poster, but we should, if we are disagreeing do it with respect at least! I think that is the problem! When there are those that DO DISAGREE they tend to get carried away and end up being insulting and unkind! That is not the purpose of a true discussion! We, of course, can't always agree! As you said, even with a "best friend" we disagree! Me and my "supposed best friend" (she thinks we are still best friends, I don't) disagree more often than not, (and not very civilly, hence why I don't consider her a "best friend")another story! Anyway, if you need to disagree in a discussion that is fine as long as you keep it civil and polite and most of all respectful to the poster! I don't think that everyone actually understands that Hatley, which may be part of the problem!

Hi Hatley, Certainly we can never agree to all the things what others say/ think. Now, I must say that not all are as wise as you. Some people really take it as an offence if someone tend to disagree but it also depends on how we put on our point and what kind of discussion we are talking about. if we don't speak our mind and if we keep on pretending to agree even if we actually disagree then I believe it will not be a good place to hang-out. Hypocrisy shows eventually. Great Discussion!

You are so right. We should be able to disagree with views without fear of reproach or ridicule, as we all have a right to our opinions. That is what makes mylot so unique. If someone disagrees with me, I don't take offense to it at all, as they do have aright to disagree. When we do disagree though, we should do it with respect for others and not criticize them for the way they believe. Good luck to you and happy mylotting.

uuummm, let me see. I always want to disagree with everyone. I like to play and have fun. Maybe i should start to bite or something. TATA.

Nop, Yep, we're here to share our views........so that we can decide/conclude the best...

I personally believe that if I disagree with the poster, that makes it more fun and I comment more.

Well if everyone agreed wholeheartedly with everyone else then the world would be a pretty boring place to be. Having different opions and points of view is simply life it's self. Some people tend to express their views in a way that looks like they are agreeing but in reality they are disagreeing. I cant see the point in this. If you have a different view on a subject JUST SAY IT. Have fun.

Hi Hatley, I love it when someone posts an opposite opinion as that is what a discussion is all about and as so many people from all over the owrld are on here it is going to happen. You can also learn by looking at things from a different point of veiw. Huggles. Ellie :D

Hi Hatley, If we were all afraid to say what and and how we feel or think of a situation then a lot of people would never know any difference, or heed advice etc. It is healthy to give your opinion and idea's even if the other person doesn't agree with you it is always good to hear others perspectives of things if you agree with them or not. Like yourself I have a best friend (Tamara) and we have often disagreed with each other and fallen out but with love and respect for each other, so it should be here on the Lot- LoLo

I've noticed a couple of other discussions along these lines in the past few weeks, so it's a noticeable trend. About the only kind of discussion I won't post a disagreement with is a religious one because that subject is very touchy and people tend to be close-minded when it comes to their religion. There are a few people here that can disagree in a civil manner, I've noticed, and they always make a discussion more interesting. You and I disagree on some things, too, but we never seem to clash. Adults can disagree and still have an interesting conversation. I wonder if it's because so many Lotters are younger people that you don't notice a lot of them disagreeing?

I think we can agree to disagree, too. That is, unless it comes down to bible matters. Other than that, like you said, I also think we can disagree as long as we do it with respect, love, and affection. I don't expect everybody to like the same things I do because I think that's what makes life interesting. Think what the world would be like if we all liked the same things!

Hello Hatley, I agree that "discussions are for discussing pros and cons", but I am less courageous than you. I am always polite when I disagree with a member starting a discussion, and I have been flamed in return two or three times here by newcomers who don't want to read another opinion than their own opinion... I prefer to avoid now some discussions, though it is always a pleasure to cross swords with open minded members : a discussion is more interesting when everybody share openly his/her views. It is funny when two members have conflicting opinions and try to convince each other, when it is done kindly and politely. But it is not always like that at myLot...