what shoud we do when our friend becomes our enemy?

I have been in the same situation a few years back. She was not really my best friend, but we became close. We had a huge fight, but because we had to work together, we stayed civil. Although I think I have forgiven her, I know that I can never be friends with her again. I have lost trust in her, but I am willing to stay civil, but that is all.

she is being unfair..she should talk to you and understand each other..ya know..i had one of my close friend turned to my enemy last years..we were quite happy and i helped her through many things..but as time passed she got many friends,she forget me..i got a lot more friends than she had but it is surely sad at first because she forget things that i did for her.not that i hope for anything but she can't just forget it like that? after that i knew that people are different and not everyone is nice..

hi there, desheree! no, don't treat her as your enemy. Don't let your pride get in the way, because I think you could still save your friendship. i think, she's the one who is hurt the most, am i right? because she is the one making walls. Just wait for a while to make things calm a little but don't let go of your friendship just yet and wait for the right time to talk about it. Maybe one day she'll realize something and may give your friendship a chance. it is best to pray to God for guidance.

I can understand your situation as i fall such a situation many time. Don't consider her as your enemy. Wait for a while. Give her some time to calm down. When she will calm down then try to talk with her with very cool mind. Surly she will understand you as she was your friend. But don't try to talk with her now as she is angry with you now. Wait for the right time and solve the problem. Good luck!

So sorry you are going through this, as I believe we have once or twice experienced the same. The bible says we must turn the other cheek, however as human this is too difficult for us to do as we have run out of un-sore cheeks. My suggestion, to you is; if you valued the friendship, do not give up, explain to your friend that you thought the friendship meant the same grounds. I can tell you that at some point, although you my remain friends you will never have the level of trustworthiness. So remember the wonderful times together and base it on that, although your heart will never be 100 percent feel the same way, at least you are not the terrible friend, after all we are only human. Remember you are your best friend in life and if you have resentments then you are not befriending yourself. Good luck friend, rememer that here on myLots we will be true to you. :)

We have the same experience since i also lost a dear friend. I don't know if he still consider me as a friend but for me i don't hold grudges on him and i don't consider him as a mortal enemy. If your friend consider you as his/her mortal enemy then, let it be. Just keep distant and don't try to be associated with them. They say love your enemy, and i also believe on that. We must pray for our enemies that everything will become alright soon. Hope this helps.

If you still want to be her friend, don't turn her into an enemy as well. It will only make things worse. Just let her cool down a bit before you try to reach for her again. If you think you won't be able to dig out anything, just sent someone else to try to figure what happen. She might have something that she can't let go. Communication is always an issue as we can't read minds and often misunderstood.

It would be difficult for you to deal with it. I am also in the same situation 2 years ago. I am the one who put wall on our friendship and I could not stay civil with her so I decided to resigned from my work. She still keep on communicating with me. Since I could not afford to do it. I did block him from my friendster, facebook and tweet account. I really dont want to make any connection with her. I guess it would be better to let things passed by. Dont be affected, if she is putting wall on you.

when someone gets mad at you,i think you should give him/her space and time to think things over.sometimes talking to a mad person just ruins everything.you may or she may talk bad things to you that you just surprised to know.and it really is nice to talk when you are both in good condition. in that way,things will come smoothly. depending upon how you interact with each other. sometimes when my friend gets mad at me,i talk to her and say i'll just wait for her to be okay or just let me know that she's okay and that's the time i'll go talk to her again. some people would just go and make a wall for both of you. you could talk about her with that and if she don't like to talk anymore.let her be. if she really treasures your friendship,she'll be the one to come and talk things through,it's just that... you know i have a friend i just get rid of,i've given her chances but she just don't mind me. i guess she don't deserve my friendship as well. tell me,if your friend steal something from you,would you still be friends with her? not a good idea,right?

Several years ago I had this experience. A friend suddenly made a wall (as you put it) between us and I did not know what I did. She even at length started to tell something bad about me to my other friends. Luckily most of my friends did not believe her and confronted me on the news. At one time, I met her and asked her. She told me what I supposedly did. I told her that I did not do it, and I would never do it. Of course, she did not believe me at the time. I just went and waited. Several weeks later, she came to me admitting that she was wrong, that she believed someone else over me, that she knew I would never do that to her. She became the best friend, ever.

That is a good saying which I think you should practice. She may be considering you as an enemy for her reasons but why do you need to consider her as an enemy? Just for paying back? Then what's the point of this friendship? More often then not the people we chose to hurt the most are the people that are closest to us and for our own self-centered ideas. However, no mater what sort of relationship, everything is build based on interaction of the two individuals. I guess what I want to say is she may take you for an enemy but you can still take her for a friend and show it to her how much she meant to you as a friend when the time is right.

Better we do not antagonize him too. Let's try to approach him and tried to ask "what makes him your enemy." If you ever make a mistake with him, you try to apologize sincerely. If you're truly sincere apology he'll forgive you, then be careful in hanging out with friends. Life is so beautiful when we do not have enemies.