keeping secrets from your lover

I find that relationships are built on trust. I break the trust if I lie to him or keep an important secret from him. I was told since I was little by my father that if I lie to him, I get in worse trouble than if I tell him the truth. I stick to that same policy with my boyfriend. If anything is bothering me even in the slightest and I feel like I'm having trouble handling the situation, I will tell him what is going on with me. Even though he might be mad at me for telling him the truth and not keeping the secret, he wouldn't be as mad as if he suddenly discovered it and that I was hiding it from him.

Hi rhinarea: I think it's not ok to keep this kind of secrets because if you start hiding things to the person you love this is not a good sign and it's very possible that your friend will continue doing this and then it will turn into something worst- not necessary an infidelity-. If he continues doing this, his girlfriend will find that he lied to her at some point and that's bad because she won't trust in him as she used to. So I won't recommend this. It's better to be honest specially with these sensitive things. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO.

No secrets will be kept, I am sure she will know, if not now, it will come. There will always be a bad effect of keeping secrets specially if it was really dark . I just wish your friends bf will tell her girl soon on where he is going at night. It is still best for his guy to speak up rather than you bursting his bubble to your friend. Just remind the guy about keeping something is not good. I just wonder why he wanted to keep it?? guilty probably his girl don't like him to gamble?? or just playing card games???

i dont like to keep secrets from my girl, i keept it ones , big mistake she almost broke up whit me and i dident do that much of a thing but the intention of keeping that secret has upsad hear , and i said that i would never upsad hear again, and my answer its yes its dose effect relationship's.

Secrets you can have but must small and harmless. Here an example: if you know that he is a man who does not like to buy expensive things,you can tell him that a pair of shoes was free But the big secret ,greatly affect a relationship.

I think never keeping secrets from your lover sometimes it causes many problem with your lover either girlfriend and boyfriend so according to me no one make can secret to his lover so always said truth and pay faith to your lover if you can't able do this thing so i think you may be lost your lover.

sometimes keeping something from your partner is ok..it is just to avoid the big argument..but you have to make sure that you will not make it a habit..keeping secrets can ruin a relationship specially if the issue of trust is dragged into the picture..as much as possible share your day with your partner..don't exclude them on your daily activities..if love is strong..he/she will understands..

Keeping secrets can be exciting. It is also a dangerous game to play in a relationship. Sooner or later secrets do come out. You can easily be hurt or hurt the one you love. Be careful in keeping secrets. Think about what it may cost you in the end.

He must have some reasons for not letting the gf know of his whereabouts. Well, I think this guy is bound to be lying a lot of times in the future. I don't think it is good to be keeping secrets like that.

in my case, i dont keep any secrets from my husband. as much as possible we try to be honest with each other. of course, not the brutally frank kind of thing. but when you're married you do have the tendency to think first of what the other would feel before doing or saying something.

well keeping secrets is not really good but u know what?its between them and if your going to intervene for sure they will blame you for whatever will happen to their relationship...but if you really wanna help,you can give advice to the guy because its his responsibility to tell the truth to his girlfriend and not you.Then if your friend will know that you kept it to yourself then tell her that you dont want to ruin her relationship with her boyfriend so you suggest to her boyfriend to tell the truth.If they love each other enough then it wont be hard for them to understand each other that each one of them have a life to live...they arent married yet so they still can have the freedom of what they want to do in their life.Hope that'll help,happy mylotting!!

I'm a firnm believer of what the eye doesn't see the heart won't grieve over unless someone is clearly getting hurt by another person or a person is deliberatly cheating on someone then I'd say something otherwise I'd not get involved it's always complicated when you get involved in other peoples relationships.

Hmm... I think keeping secret from yourlover is good so that he may not be thinking bad to you.But i think it is better to tell frankly to him so that he will trust you in future.