My Friend Died
By roberten
@roberten (3128)
United States
June 8, 2010 12:57am CST
Hello, Mylotters, it has been quite some time since I last posted here. I just want to tell you about the bittersweet events of the last several days. I lost a very good friend on Friday past; her memorial service was held last night. I miss her already but am very glad she is no longer suffering.
I knew her for a short time, about 4-5 years, but only got to truly know her during this past year after she fell terribly ill. I work with her son who is the most honest man I've ever met when it comes to other people's money. He has a bother but he alone was primary caregiver for his mom while she was in and out of the hospital. Never once did he complain about putting his life on hold in order to care for his mother.
My friend had to have had an "E-ticket" straight to heaven because she was in a spiritual place in her life that seemed beyond human capability. Her willingness to forgive and forget was nothing short of miraculous. She harbored no ill will for her terminal condition; instead, she showed a zest for life. She touched each life she came into contact with in a positive way while sharing her smile with the world.
I feel honored to have gotten to know my friend and will miss her and her kind ways terribly. I feel I am a better person for having gotten to know her. My heart is not sad, buy joyeous at having known her; I wish her nothing but the best in the eternities.
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12 responses
@leighann675 (78)
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9 Jun 10
You clearly have a lot of respect and love for you friend that passed away and I can only admire that. Remember that people live on through our stories and memories. Try to celebrate all the positive things she bought to your life as I am sure you are doing. I too know the pain of losing someone and it hurts like being repeatedly stabbed. I wish you all the best of luck. I hope you have a solid support network. You may find it comforting to express yourself through art, music and poetry? Best of luck and I really mean that.
@roberten (3128)
• United States
9 Jun 10
leighann675, kind people such as yourself truly are helping me through this difficult time; it would be so much more difficult if I had no support. I can express my thoughts and feelings best in written word so mylot is a platform for me to therapeutically deal with the loss of such a good friend. For the memorial, her son decided on a short history rather than an obituary. I was asked to write a history with input from family and friends; and then I was called upon to read it before the congregation. It helped me to express my feelings in such an understanding forum. Each word brings me nearer to closer. Your kind suggestions are taken to heart.
@snowy22315 (181997)
• United States
8 Jun 10
It is a good that you have a certainity where your friend will go in the afterlife. We should all be so fortunate. It sounds like she had it coming however.
@charylady (419)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
hello roberten, i'm sorry for your loss. but remember your friend is now in a better place. she has been released from her earthly burdens and is now at peace.
@nituscorner (7)
• India
8 Jun 10
when i saw this post here , i just had to come and add a few lines too because i am going through the same phase. i lost my childhood friend some ten days ago and am not able to come in terms with the loss. so i know what the loss means. it was comforting to read this, to know that there are many who are also in the same position as you. the loss can never be replaced but as you said we can only wish them the best in the eternities.
@roberten (3128)
• United States
9 Jun 10
There is solace in knowing we are not alone. My heart goes out to you, nituscorner, for I too share a similar pain. We shall find comfort among our friends, especially here on mylot; sometimes that helps to get one through another day. Your words will help many others who are luck enough to read this discussion. Blessings be among us.
@kareng (61231)
• United States
8 Jun 10
I'm very sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. It is a good thing that she is not suffering any longer. That is hard to watch someone go through. Take care and know that she is in a better place and smiling down on all of you.
@Transformed (1259)
• United States
8 Jun 10
It is truly sad for people whenever they lose a dear friend, but look at it this way, your friend will not be in a situation where she has to worry about economics or not getting enough food to eat, war, poverty, hatred, etc.
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
8 Jun 10
Hello roberten,
My condolences regarding your loss, even thou I do not have the pleasure to know you, but have been in your spot as like many many people have been.
These are the moments when we are grateful and value even more what we have and what we don't have.
My best wishes to you.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
8 Jun 10
roberten!You need not worry about missing your great friend in the real world.She had left a remarkable place in your heart and she will live there for ever.It is rare to see people accept their endings with a smile and being kind at that stage is beyond majority.Hope she rest in peace at the feet of the God.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
8 Jun 10
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. She is no longer suffering in pain and with such a good soul as you say she had she is in GOD's hands now and soul is at rest. Bless that you came to know someone so good like her because knowing and having someone like this in your life makes you an even better person in your heart and soul. God Bless you and her son. 
@roberten (3128)
• United States
9 Jun 10
lelin, you are an example of why I started this discussion; Mylotters are very special people too who are so comforting in one's time of need. I know I have become a better person by having know her, she enlightened every life she passed through. Mylotters help me keep life in perspective too.
@ladyg26 (59)
• United States
8 Jun 10
im very sorry for your loss.your friend is in a better place now and is no longer suffering from her illness.god will welcome her into his kindom with open arms.it is very kind and courageous of you not to cry but to be be joyeous that your friend is in a better place now.i hope you feel better soon and just remember your friend is always watching you and even when you dont know it she is right there beside you.
