Would you fall for your EX's best friend?

@xaint7 (20)
Philippines
June 8, 2010 11:37am CST
This may be a common predicament but it really is a complicated situation. As stated in the discussion title: Would you fall for your EX's best friend? If that situation happened to you, would you? what if you found out that you are actually more compatible with his/her bestfriend... what then? So far i've only come across two definite answers. Either yes or no. i dont like the sides of grey. It could be yes, why not? As long as it doesnt conflict (like breaking up in bad terms) the EX. Other, more conservative answer would be no because one would think why recycle. i mean "your my ex's best friend... he/she broke up with you. i wont because i respect him/her and i dont want to disrespect that person by being with you. which side are you?
2 responses
HULYO
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Jun 10
If you ask me that question. I will directly said YES. there's no problem about it. Accept the reality that you and your ex not meant to each other so you are free to choose someone even his friend. You're not restricted to do it in yourself because we have a freedom to choose. What if, she is your fate? You will refuse? of course not because our future is not controlled by ourselves. We don't know what happen next so we face it. Life is a constant change, your ex, whether she like it or not, she will admit it. It happen with a purpose.
xaint7
@xaint7 (20)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
Love that response. unfortunately most women wouldnt feel the same way....
HULYO
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 10
Although it hurt for her in the first place but later on she will to accept it. Do you know why she felt that way? it's because of the ego. Women who are broadminded not felt that way and can easily recovered.
xtinelee
@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
8 Jun 10
No, I wouldn't. It would be quite awkward, especially if the break up was a bad one. You're actually asking the ex's best friend to choose sides, between his/her good friend and you, and I don't like coming in between of people. There are so many people around us, why must we go around people that we already know? It's too complicated, and gives too many problems. Love is supposed to be simple and easy... I don't quite like all the complications it comes along when you fall in love with your ex's best friend. But again, easy for me to say, but when something like that really hits you, you don't have a second say to it.
xaint7
@xaint7 (20)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
love cant always be that simple.... if your the type who believes in fate or destiny(i personally dont) then what if in one twisted scenario your destiny happens to be the best friend of your EX? you would say that if he/she really is destined to me then he/she will come but there is also such a thing as "doing something" than doing nothing and just waiting... would you really risk losing just because of "awkwardness?"