How would you know if you stil love him?

@braiym3 (135)
Philippines
June 10, 2010 10:14am CST
I have a four-year relationship right now, but suddenly the past three days I feel bored. I honestly don't know the reason of this. It's just that... I am looking, expecting or wanting something to happen unusual. Now, I am not sure if I am just bored or if my love for him is getting lost. If you are getting bored in your relationship, do you consider that you are no longer in love with him?
3 responses
@mauie0918 (337)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
Honestly, if you are not growing up with your relationship, I guess it's time for you to decide what's next and give yourself a break! But if you're just bored because of your daily routine with this person and you feel like not in love with him... Think twice! You can make your relationship better and alive with what you think can make your relationship work.
@braiym3 (135)
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
I tried and fortunately, I realized that I am still in love with him. maybe we should just do some improvements on our relationship. Thank you!
@aquariand (464)
10 Jun 10
I have been with my husband for twenty four years now and yes there have been times when it has seemed we have got used to each other and days have been boring but you have to try and spice things up. Going on a holiday can change the moods between you, or decorate the bedroom for creating a different atmosphere. There ate ways to bring the magic back, shower together, dress up, give massage or aromatherapy, cook special meals and go to different places you have never been before together. Doing the same things can sometimes get humdrum, it is not that the love has gone but it is the lifestyle that has become boring, try spicing it up and if all this doesn't work then you can say you have tried everything before admitting love has gone.
@braiym3 (135)
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
Thank you very much, aquariand! :D That is what we are thinking of... trying to do somethings that we never did before and put some spice on our relationship. And I guess you are right by telling that "... it is not the love has gone but it is the lifestyle that has become boring..."
• United States
10 Jun 10
Braiym3 I do not consider when someone gets bored in a relationship, that they do not love that person anymore. I have been married for 10 years and I had to sit my husband down and explain to him that I was going crazy with the same thing all the time. Come to find out; he was just as bored as I was. I honestly think its normal to get bored. You are used to everything the other person does and says...but always remember; "The grass isn't always greener on the other side" ;)
@braiym3 (135)
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
Thank you! I really appreciate your response and you inspired me. You know what, I think I am still in-love with him its just that I am used to everything (as what you have said...), maybe we could somethings that we are not fond of... try to experiment and be more adventurous.