what will you do if you found out your boyfriend cheated on you?

for me i will just cheats him back :D:D:D

f d guy is bak to normal wd her now thn i think therex no point in reacting in anyway now cz it was a past n it hs byn over. wat wld av hapn if d girl got into nyfin lyk dis thn?? she shld think by kuming into hs shoes n thinkin dat it happenx sumtyms she shld understand as i dn thnk it is d guyx fault fully cz it was d situation iwd whch d guy moved on wd a flow....fr now d girl shld gv d guy a chance but yes do keep an eye on him so dat fr nextym aswell she shld b careful.

To learn and found that your boyfriend had cheated on you or that she has another girl is hurting. It is literally painful as if your heart is bruised. You cannot even breathe as if you have no idea what to do. My experience happened 4 months ago just after my birthday. Although, prior to that confession of my bf's cheating, I have that instinct that there is something wrong. U did not ask him nor investigate because at that time I thought that what you do not know will not hurt you. Then, few days after my birthday, he sent me a message telling me that he has something to confess, however, he wished that my feelings won't change in spite or despite of that fact. Two days afterwards, I initiated asking him what is he going to confess and he did. I was actually shocked and surprised to the extent that I sighed 3 times to control and trying to calm myself. My hunch was right. We were both crying. It was absolutely hard, but I need to take and let it sink in. It is too painful, but I chose to accept it. What matters at that time was at least he told me the truth than keeping it. What I did, I became more affectionate to him thereafter. I am more vocal with my feelings. I did not break up with him instead make him realize that I am better than that girl. Right now, we are still in love and day by day more in love. I did not regret to what I chose to do. I think, what I did is a reverse of the usual reaction. Common reaction is that the girl breaks up with the guy. If that is so, then it is not love. To instantly break up after learning that he has cheated is giving up. In the first place, I was the first, so why do you need to give up. Make him realize his mistake first before letting him go. Not unless he asked for break up, then that is the time to let go. But if he still chose you over that girl, then do not let your pride cover your love because that will not help. I can tell more but it seems I have said much.

It's so painful. :( My boyfriend cheated on me how many times. He's used to that. When I discovered it, I was so down.. We're getting married and he disappointed me. He got the other girl pregnant and I made a decision to end it. Which is the right thing to do. Now, he keeps on coming back and begging for another chance and asking sorry for all the things he has done.

I think have a conversation with your boyfriend .if he admit that , you must judge if there is the possibility you together or not?

if i found out about that i would end all bcs he hid it from me and is clear he wouldnt tell me that ever. if he told me what happened maybe but just maybe i could forgive what he did. but he didnt tell so it means he didnt love me enough to even be honest. i would be very very upset. thank god it didnt happen yet but if it had happened i wouldnt forgive i think.

I would gather a lot of evidence first from a reliable sources before making a decision to break up. As long as the mistakes seem unforgivable. It is better to quit and find another. Though it may be painful at first. it is the most justified things to do. In case he ask for forgiveness and truly comes from the heart and see to it that he is really sorry for his sin. i would try to forgive and forget taking it as a lesson or trial in our lovelife. Then try to make the new relationship last for the benefit of the two of us.

I would be totally psychotic. Its in my nature. It depends on the circumstance as to whether I'd stay with him, but probably not. I would find out who she was, and make her life HELL. It takes 2 to cheat. I hope it never happens cos I love him so much and dont want him to ever hurt me - but then again I know where men's priorities lie and whether I like it or not, his eye is always going to be on other women. I guess I shall have to accept that and hope he never takes it to another level.

just dump him. if he can do it once, he can probably do it again.

my then boyfriend sort of had this short-term affair with someone. at the time we were not really together. ours was an on-off relationship and the time he got involved was during one of our off-times. so technically he was not cheating. we got back together again and i ended up marrying him. we're still together after 31 years.

i would probably investigate if he still cheats me because if he did that once he most probably do it twice or more. i can never trust him again, that is the problem, the main ingredient in a relationship which is trust is now broken. how can a relationship work smoothly if there are negative issues in the past.

i'd be really hurt and leave him, i can't stand being with a person who cheats on me, i don't think love includes cheating

Just slap him hard at some public place thats it.He shouldnt be forgiven.

If I were you dump him and find another guy. He doesnt deserve your love. If he cheats on you while he is still your boyfriend, how much more if you're married to him

If i found out that my boyfriend cheated on me. For sure i will talk to him about the situation even if it was 6 months or a year ago. I just want to know the reason why he do it. And what will be my assurance that he won't do it anymore. But if i found out that he does it every now and then for sure have to settle things with him.

i have been in this and many very similar situations. everything depends on the woman. if she reacts to emotions she will leave. if she takes time to process properly, she will weigh it out and prolly come to the sound decision that whatever he was going through, he stayed. i would ask no questions except things that pertain to me. nothing about the fling. if you love him enough and he loved you enough to stay... prolly just a serious mistake. they are going to happen throughout any relationship in all different kind of forms. these things can build stronger relationships if weathered. love is forgiveness among many other things :-)

I don't really know what my initial reaction would be, but I guess I will choose to stay silent and weigh things out before I finally make a decision. It's really hard to speak when you are not in that situation yet.

First of all let me know what you call cheating. Is it only flirting with another gal or dating with another gal? He might be cheating you on other grounds too. For e.g. chatting with some another gal on the web, or web camming too. Doesn't mean that he should also be physically in touch with the other gal. He might be mentally too. Or while dating with you, he might be sneakingly looking out at other gals in your presence. So for all these cases, if I would in your place, I would ask him whether he will accept my behavior such as his. Whether he would accept me even if I flirt with another person, cam with another person, chat with another person and so on. I'm sure if he is loving you whole heartedly he would say no. If he's just killing time with you, he would just laugh at this and try to put on some another subject. Its very hard to select the proper one these days.