All friendship starts with a selfish motive

Yes I agree with you, in your example but I don't agree with you when you say that all friendship starts with a selfish motive. What if when you are in a place and sees someone that is very lonely and you feel pity with him and you want to offer a help for him then you says hi to him and that would be the start of your friendship, do you think is it a selfish motive?

I agree with you but I don't think it ends there. Relationships are generally built and sustained with selfish motives. Even the exceptions to the rule aren't really. I am completely unselfish most of the time and will give so much to my friends and partner without ever asking for anything in return. That is unselfish right? However, I notice that most of the time I get nothing in return so isn't wanting that returned to you selfishness? You have to consider in any relationship what you get out of it. So I totally agree with you and then some.

hi there. may it be selfish motive or what, the fact that people need to socialize stands still. every person has to socialize. but it would be quite a strong word to say that making friends is a selfish motive. for me, when i make friends, it is me sharing myself to those who are receptive of my existence. i don't consider friends as tool for me to survive a social situation, because friends are part of my social life. ;-)

I don’t quite agree with you there because to me a friendship is something I choose to enhance my life and the other person’s, it’s called caring for one another and enjoying each other’s company. Friendships do enrich our lives and maybe some started from selfish motives but I don’t believe that to be the usual reason why people are drawn to one another.

I don't at all feel that all friendships are started with a selfish motive. Instead, I tend to think that most friendships are born out of a mutual need by two people. This is what will come to evolve into a friendship. For example, recently a girl that is now one of my best friends needed to get out of her house for a while and I liked the idea as well and that is how our friendship was born. We now spend a lot of time together and I don't at all feel like it is for self-serving purposes.

maybe you are right^^ but sometimes we want to be friends of someone just bcs we know that person was hurt or his sad and we want help him^^ anyway i think that we must always be a good friend for whoever it is. we must care and do our best for everyone. at least me i always try to be good and help people^^ i dont want enemies at all^^ also if the person never did nothing wrong to me i must be nice right? and also have more and more friends is always a good thing^^

I would disagree with this topic! Usually you are also trying to cure someone else's boredom too! ^_^ And I like to think that my friends have benefits from being friends with me, such as having great company. :D Hehe, I jest. I just hope that you don't let this notion stop you from making good friends!

Well it takes two to start a friendship and I guess on one level all interaction between people is somewhat selfish, but I am usually interested in meeting someone new, with the goal being that I learn something about them. So it's true I get a selfish pleasure out of it because it widdens my world.

For the most part I agree with you, it is either to relieve our boredom, or learn something, or because it is convenient for us. There are many times however that I have formed friendships by offering to help people with their work, providing service for them, or just helping them with something such as garden work, or job duties, not to get anything from them, rather to just be nice. I suppose it doesn't really count, because I am not *out* to make a friendship, the friendships just seem to develop as a result of my actions. Sincerely and With Appreciation.

I completely disagree with you on this. It's not a selfish motive. It's basically someone needing someone else's companion. It only enters selfishness when the other has something important to do but you still force that person to overcome your boredom.

Sweetie, i don't want a companion out of boredom. Then i will rather stay without that companionship. We want and need people in life we can trust and depend on, not because we are bored. TATA.

I disagree being selfish is doing something or getting something for ourself without thought or care for others, when you initiate a friendship it is for companionship of two or more people, as we are sociable creatures and need the company of others

There is s term in philosophy called Altruism. It means being unselfish. Some people may say that being unselfish is impossible as even if a mother saves the baby from a burning forest, isn't it to calm her nerves and satisfy herself because she saved her child? Isn't making friends because you want to have a companion? I don't really know.

No not really some people like myself find new friends all the time! And Im usly the one going up to them tryning to make them feel more comfortable! I have no bad intentions or reasons to do this its just me!