Abusing in mylot, will we be a victim?

I guess what I would have to say is that I have had my own bad experiences in here. I also know one other person that had a very bad experience and was almost killed. Her husband is also a member here, and after things got a bit to bad in here the second time through PM's from a certain member, she left and hasn't been back. You can read some of her posts, just look up laceycyoung, and youngpatrol, neither will ever come back I don't think. Not after the last problem. She actually talked about some of the problems in her replies. I was lucky, it didn't get that bad for me here. I quit before things got to bad. She is a friend and lives about 1 hour from me. I would have to read through all of his replies, But I think he did give some tips to members about keeping information private. Its very easy to become a victim in here because a few members and I wont name names, but they have trackers in there profiles which can tell them sometimes our exact address. This is why I just accept friend requests without looking at profile pages. I also don't care for facebook because they ask for your kids info, and they ask for a full address. To me that is private information. I don't want everyone in the world seeing my address, and even seeing that I have kids, I don't know what type of crazy people may see that. Here in Mylot you can keep your state information private. That is what I do now, I see no sense at all in people seeing where I live other then the US. I think if we are careful, about what we say here in Mylot, and the info we put in our profile, then we will be ok. Because no matter where we go there are nut cases.

We have a 'report abuse' system and the 'contact' link here and if ever there was a question of abuse, we can report it and myLot admins will act on it immediately. We are also an extremely supportive group and if/when any particular Lotter should have a problem, we all rally round and help out in resolving it. What happens on FB is not only happening in your country but in many others too. Tere have been some appalling incidents here in Italy too. I am of the idea that if we are careful about what information we place here in the discussions and on our profiles, we can avoid similar situations here though I know that sometimes people are not what they want us to believe that they are. Just being careful and reporting anything dubious should help keep myLot and it's users safe and secure

You may be shocked as to how many people can find out your information in here, in fact a quick little thing to remember don't even give the same user name in here as you use in other forums and sites. They will find this information just by looking up your user name. They will then check every forum and every site for anything they can on you.

For all the wrong reasons people have, they tend to see things from a different angle. Together with bullies and the like I guess such people will always be around. We should be wise and alert enough not to expose our addresses and things like that. A little precaution can be just what it takes to be safe. Perhaps a little reminder too. Good topic de_toya.

So long as you keep your personal identity safe and secure there will be no problems of abuse on Mylot, don't worry

If your afraid that someone will potentially use the information you have on your profile to potentially harm you, there is a security feature to hide that. This is a cold world we live in and its hard to believe that people will kill over a hot dog, but that's the world we have to come to accept. There is just to much information on the internet and the sad part is that it only takes 1/3 of what we put on the internet for a potential stalker to find all he/she needs. I think that mylot is not as mainstream as facebook or myspace and is less prone to these attacks. Here on mylot many lotters are friendly and helpful (I'm sure it has something to do with making money I dunno =) but honestly there are less personal attacks on this site. I'm not trying to say it doesn't happen because it does people name calling in the forums for example is considered a personal attack and is not only looked down upon but reinforced as a mylot law. I personally think these social networking sites are a great way to keep your friends and family informed on whats going on with your life. Like just the other day I uploaded a picture of my new kitties and instantly all of my friends were texting me with questions about the cats. Its sad to see people using these great technologies for such malicious and vulgar acts. Its also a little upsetting sometimes to think that the people who do these things probably know and trust each other. Well thank you for posting and allowing me to comment! -WickedSpies

to be honest with you, i never experience to be abused online yet which i feel very fortunate because of that... i hope i will never have to experience that as it won't be a nice experience for me... so sorry to hear about your experience with the hacker... hope it will be sorted soon... take care and have a nice day...

I have never been no abuse or harassment through Mylot. I really hope this never happens in Mylot. I hope no bad people in Mylot.

I think there is a potential for abuse of everything on the Internet. However, if some common sense is exercised, then I think most people will be fine. I think that's where most people fail. There are a lot of good people on the Internet, but unfortunately there are an equal number of people who prey and abuse on those who they feel to be vulnerable to varying degrees. The thing is, on the other side of the Internet connection, it is hard to tell who can be trusted. I mean, the people you really have to fear is those who will get you to trust them, because they are convincing enough. Still, its important to just exercise your common sense. Be very careful about what personal information that you reveal.

Hello my friend..... I hear that story about FB victim in news, I believe its because they believing stranger to much and lack of parental control to teenage. I believe in mylot we won't have a problem like that because we all try to act like a grown up person and know really well not to share our personal information. Did you notice how often teenager get updated in FB, they even busy to undated in the class room by they cellphone.

Al least not here on myLot but I have seen this sort of things happening on other social networking site, apart from Facebook. People inadvertently give their addresses and phone numbers and people not only took advantage of them but had put them into serious trouble. One should not develop a friendship with a stranger unless you have verified his credentials.

Those social networking sites should impose a more strict policies on the usage of their sites. It is something that most social networking sites don't pay attention to. I think only mylot is a site that is very strict on this one

This kind of crimes are also reported many times in my country. QQ is the biggest problem here. Many girls were cheated, raped and kidnapped. But I should say piteous person must have something hateable. They seemed too stupid...I can't find another word to describe them. The cheated girls not only made their personal information public, but also went to meet a strange man they considered as boyfriend alone. How "brave" they were! More than that, some of them trust the "boyfriend" after they saw there wasn't only one man there; some of them even followed the "boyfriend" to road houses... The criminals who want to cheat and kidnap, they have many steps to do. If you care your personal safety only a little and destory only one step, you are impossible to be cheated. There's nothing wrong with the social sites like myLot or facelook, whoever being cheated only can blame him/herself.

To avoid such situation users should also take safety precautions. They should not post any personally identifying info. They should also not believe strangers to the extent that may create problems. In most of the cases like these there is some fault by user also. Everything can be used in a good or ill way in this world. It depends on the users how they use it.

It is terrible the things that have happened through people meeting on facebook, but here on my lot there are things that are a lot different to facebook. The main thing is, unless you actually give people your personal information there is actually no way that they can contact you, unless I guess you get your account hacked but I would say the chances of that happening are pretty slim.