Getting along with your parent....how long?

Welcome to my world of "visiting mommie dearest"! If we make it two days that is pretty damn good! I got to Florida last year on Wednesday night and by Saturday she was telling me to leave Sunday! And I was supposed to stay 9 days! I dread the trip because we can't even talk on the phone without an argument! My mother is a skitzo! I never know which personality she is going to have and she drinks alot too so that makes it even more fun! Want to trade?

Hi missybear, I never felt close to my mom. We argued from the time I was a little girl until I reached a point where I didn't care what she thought about me. I stopped arguing with her and that was a good thing. Eventually, she stopped putting me down as well. I loved her and while for the longest time I thought she didn't love me and I accepted that, I now think that she really did. We just never had that close bond that you hear many moms and daughter's share. I was always here for her as she got older. I played the part but never really felt it. With my own daughters, I swore to form a closer bond. The teen years were rough but I think..I hope...they KNEW that I loved them. Now that they are older, they are like my best friends. I really can't imagine arguing with them about much of anything at this point. I'm not disciplining them anymore which was our main source of disagreement. Now we just respect each other as individuals.

I think it's normal to really have tensions with family members since we live with them far longer than anyone else. Further, it's indeed true to say "Familiarity bridges contempt". I don't see eye-to-eye with my father most of the times, but we don't bicker or argue. Instead we just mostly steer clear of topics that cause tension. I also learn to keep my mouth shut in order not to provoke him into an argument. On the other hand, I'm really close with my mom, we're best buds without losing respect for authority. I could definitely say that my relationship with my parents and siblings are very good as compared to most of my friends.

I think it's common for parents and their kids to not see eye to eye, most times at least. I don't know why this is. Maybe it's just in the type of family. My family's almost the same the kids and grandparents are the who get along best. I'll definitely argue with my parents or anyone in my family equal to my parents (all in the name of good fun and productivity of course) But when it comes to the generation above them, even when I disagree, I shut up. I think we do it just because it's fun and it's legal (for both). Nice topic thanks for sharing ++!

Hi missybear, for as long as they live and for as long as i live i will get along well with them. THey are my parents, they're the reason for me to live. They may have their own traits that we are not in conbformity but we can always communicate with them and settle things over. i just love my parents the same thing that they love me. I understand where you are coming from but just extend some patience to them. I know you can make it. The break is a good means to build the longingness for both of you but issues must be settle to avoid any pint up and burst of negative emotions!

Well, I am now 40 and my Mum is 64, but if we go to stay at her house, we will argue after a few days. I think it is hard for a parent and child to live together once the child is an adult. I love my parents very much and talk to them on the phone most days. We enjoy being together for a day or two as well. I think it is better to enjoy a short time together, than to have a longer stay which ends in an argument.

i see my parents every day, we don't really have that many disagreements.

I think the parent-child relationship had once been prone to clashes. It was usually the grandparent-grandchild that blended well. But I think the generation gap had been remedied a long time ago. The babyboomers had realized that the generation gap was detrimental to family and society. Many studies had been conducted and parenting had taken a large dose of rehabilitation and transformation. Parents and their children have become confidantes/friends in the past two decades. Still, my mom and I sometimes don't share the same opinion. But I allow her to get the upper hand. She is my mother. With my daughter, she also tried to assert her superiority. That didn't work. I am the mother and I know best. She had realized that. We all understand each other now.

For me where very much understand with each other I'm happy that i meet my parents because I love them.

You know, I sure miss the good and bad time that I spent with my mom because 5 years ago she went to a better place. Now I look back at those little upsets and I began to laugh because they were silly. Now, please don't get me wrong we had a few arguments that were very serious, but somehow we manage to get though them. Mom was my best friend. Take care Snow

Once some habit is got, it is really a habit, difficult to mop up. The relationship among persons is just like it. Since my childhood, I hardly argued with my parents. So today, I really don't know how to begin argumentation with them. What's the most, we are separated now because I left them for another city. Every year maybe we can spend a short time together. And, how can you quarrel with a guest?! Thus to some degree, argumentation or even quarreling is a kind of happiness.

Whenever either i visit my parents or they come to visit me we get along just fine.The visits usually last 3-4 days so we have no problems :)

t the moment no, especially my mum. but, you know what? it does not matter. life goes on.