Does a man has rights to hit his wife?

Oh! You are a great lover. You won't hit her even if she hurts you. That is the power of love. Only without it, more men are hitting their girls. If love rules their heart, there will no flaws noticed and a happy life is possible.

It is not right to hit a woman, women should be love not to hurt them. Women now a days know there rights and they don't tolerate the beating of their husbands or they boyfriends. As a women we should always use our head not always our heart because sometimes it deceives us.

it has been 3 years since we are togheter and i never hit hear i cant hit a woman , its just not fair

lelein123! You have a brave heart. Deciding to be firm against a hitting person, you show your determination. But not all girls cannot have this strength. They just learn to accommodate with their beating husbands. That is right. Only weak man who cannot show their valor outside the house, displays it on their wife.

You are so right. They know who they can prey upon and who they can't.

well said lelin, I don't believe any man should hit his wife (nor wife her husband), relationships need to be maintained in love and respect not fear and abuse. Only cowards bully those weaker than them and I wholeheartedly agree that anyone who behaves this way cannot be considered anything other than weak punks. I do know that it can be very difficult to deal with brutality though either because of social reasons or family pressures when all looks so good on the outside and people find it difficult to believe what is really happening. Women in this situation can be so down trodden and stripped of all coping mechanisms that they cannot see a way out no matter what. I had a friend who experienced this in silence for just those reasons many years ago and she was not someone that I would ever have suspected would put up with that kind of life. It made me realise how fortunate I am to be strong enough to know that I would not let it happen more than once ever, I think that inner confidence and self knowledge, puts off the kind of men who behave this way - they are looking to prey on those who have insecurities and are lacking in confidence already so it makes it easier for these despicable men to behave in any way they wish and get away with it.

Well, my husband was abusive. I did all I could to save the marriage but it only got worse. I left and raised my children on my own.

Yes! No woman is made a slave in the name of marriage and no man is given rights to hit his wife under the license of marriage. But we should not forget that ll the women shall have the courage to quit the marriage set up. So, how should she tackle a rough and tough husband within the set up?

Yes, vandana! In more cases, men use violence as their last word. When they lose patience to explain things( especially when the fault is on their side), then they know hitting the girl will put a full stop for that problem for the time being. But they don't know that will not resolve anything.

May be mel. But mel, my papa has completely stopped beating me! Part of the fault was lack of communication channel, I used to be too busy in office, and too tired for any communication once I returned. I used to get irritated at slightest lapse in home and in process, my papa would react abusively making me all the more defiant. After I quit the job, I calmed down considerably. So such differences have come down considerably. May be, part of that anger was also due to my autocratic ways - a position in office spilling over at home. I am just trying to understand myself. I am sorry mel you are going through something like that.

saphrina! We need not go to the extreme of discussing brutal men who hit their wives for silly reasons and to show their potential. Just consider men who hit their wives in an emotional out break that would be unintentional. He may plead sorry for that, then. How do you see this?

Well, i was trying to be very polite, but as you have said i might reconsider my words next time. Hope you gave him some of his own medicine.

Yes! Nobody is allowed to hit others in any country's law. But this is going on inside many families and will not come into light until something serious happens. There are more divorce cases which has a base of the husband beating his wife in suspicion. Do you think that they are just to be treated psychologically or prisoned?

I would never be with anyone that hit me or even threatened to hit me or my pets. I have a zero tolerance for violence. Children should never be hit either. There is no reason to hit a kid. Pets should never be hit. No reason to hit them. I never hit my horse. I got her to obey because she respected me.

You are right Honey! The women should draw boundaries and show what is the limit for the husband. That will solve most of the problems. But will it not spoil the intimacy when you are so keen on watching the boundary line? Will it work?

Yes! There are some religions which grants the husbands, rights to beat their wife. that is different and a woman born in that religion will be well aware of what can she expect. Speaking in common, well, what you said is true. If man and woman can respect one another then heaven will be here.

Does all the women have that courage to file a complaint like that to the police and do you think she will get all the support from even her family itself? There are police stations now run specially for women but are they utilized well according to you?

But some girls are very meek to accept this brutality towards them. They think that nothing can be done with a husband like that and don't even complain. They are bound by a lot of social reasons. I am proud of you that you are not one among the crowd like that. I think you are a working person and that gives you this boldness. Am I right?

Hi Princess and Srganesh, I totally agree with you Princess. A man, no matter how a wife has wronged him, has no right to hit her and a real man at that is someone who would never put his wife in any danger much more be the cause of her sufferings. Like you, I will never allow my husband hit me in any way. I specifically told him that I will not take physical abuse silently. I will fight it in court if he does hit me just one time. Srganesh, in my opinion, a woman need not be a working individual to know what rights a husband should afford her and boldness does not come from the fact that she has a stable source of livelihood. I am not a working individual but I know my rights as a person. I am not perfect but neither is my husband. We are all of equal footings no matter what social standing we belong in.

sagar21! I am not aware of that discussion until you indicated. Just saw the link and than god, it was an year old and I think this can be discussed as a new one. From that discussion, I know that there are some women who think that they can be hurt like that. It is very disgusting.

aquarind! That is so nice of you to preach to your son like that. Yes, the younger generation will follow what they saw when they are kids. So, his father's behavior will surely have an impact on him and he might think that is not a fault at all to hit his wife. That should be corrected when young and you are doing a nice job.

Yes! Violence cannot be a solution to any problem at all. If they cannot sit and have a conversation to see what is the actual problem, then they should see a professional, here a counselor, who shall resolve the issues between them. I agree that no husband has rights on his wife to hit.

What if he accidently did it out of his drink? wouldn't you forgive him?

It is very common to grow boys by hitting them to discipline them. But girl children are not treated like that. Hence a girl when started to be hit by her husband did not know how to respond. For many social reasons, she digests it for her fate. Well, what will be your stand if your husband hits you(just for an example)? Will you walk out or hit him back?

That is one added point well. He has no rights over you too. He is not superior to you in any sense and hence he has no rights to ill treat you by hitting you for any reason. That is a valid point to this discussion which I welcome.

That is right. One has to cherish his wife so that she will nourish the whole family in turn. We are all human beings and we don't need the brutal way of punishments like hitting or any other form. After she is the lover and she should not be treated like a criminal.

You are right. Man has no rights to hit his wife. But do you know that there are some women hitting their husbands? That is really worst than man hitting wife. Those henpecked husbands cannot say it as it may damage their image more. What is your comment on this?

homeshoppers! You are exactly at the right point. Since most girls are not educated well and they don't know how to earn fro their living, they have to be dependent on their husbands and so the males took them for granted and ill treat them by hitting. A girl who has self pride and can walk out of him will not get treated like that.

Agreed! But there are some women who accepts this as form of expressing love and they are more united after that incident. When the man wants to pacify her, she wins whatever she wants to have. This happens in rare cases where the hitting is not a usual thing but an emotional action.