how do you start conversation with new people?

Maybe I am just like you. I would rather be alone or with a few friends of mine who I am familiar with. That is just me. I would rarely make some cool friends, but I don't need to. I would rather stay on my circle of friends. I don't care how cool others think they are.

I find it difficult to make friends too sometimes, if I don't talk people start to lose interest, but if I talk a lot, they still lose interest, I really can't win here... :) xx

You are talkative enough in this forum, so I guess you are not that 'suck" (as you put it) in making new friends. I've never wanted so many friends, I just want several who are loyal. I would say: Hi, how are you? to many of my acquaintances.

I am the same, I don't usually say anything unless I must, if someone starts a conversation with me first then I will get into it, but I stuggle to make first move all the time. I think it is just the fact I have nothing interesting to say, I feel as if I am a boring person therefor no one will take interest hehe. I know it makes you feel left out sometimes because you just want to get in there and have a good laugh and gossip but it's like your mind wont focus at the time, you can't think of anything good to say. But being shy isn't a bad thing, people tend to trust you more because you wont open your mouth to everyone, and they are better listeners:)

Being reserved is not a bad thing. It is more important to be comfortable with yourself than to entertain others. I used to be very outgoing and found myself attracting the wrong kind of people. I got hurt a lot and now have acquired some reserve. Don't worry about striking up conversations. If you need to converse, follow the same pattern you use here at mylot. If you have a question, you need advice or help, that is always an ice breaker. You can also ask about interests. Do you like to play games like scrabble or card games? I find that a good board game can open up conversations that otherwise might be awkward.

Nobody's born a loner? I know you could do better than that.. Its just a matter of self confidence... try starting with a "HI" or a "Hello" and do smile alot.. engage the person in direct eye contact always.. as much as possible take the listener's role, its more prudent and polite... work on your insecurities and everything else will follow.

i know there are quite a few people who are like this like how described yourself and one among them is my husband too but i need to thank god that he is now like this when he is with me or else i would have got bored. each and every people have their own taste of living and their own style to live and we all follow it so it should not be a problem for the way you are. certain times we also come a cross the people who just speak speak and speak and bore all the people around and that is also not right. but we just cant help it. i dont start conversation with any people but i just speak to the ones whom i know like my friends , relatives and so on as i feel free with them and not with all.

Well it doesn't take much to start a conversation with anybody. All you have to do is to be confident , frank and avoid personal questions at frst time. You can simply start by saying a HI with a smile or anything that sounds friendly and frank. After that you can discuss about the person's hobbies, likes and dislikes, professions and all that. All your conversation should be very friendly and if you can make it a bit humours and funny it will add to your advantages. So this way you can start making new friends. so gud luck. -Miraz :)

I rely on my first impression instinct if I am with new people. If the person seems to be okay with me, I'll just smile first. Then, say hi and introduce names. If she responds okay, then I'll ask more questions. But if did not respond well, then I'll stop the conversation.

A number of years ago, someone gave me an idea how to start a conversation with a new acquaintance. It will somehow help you get into some meaningful exchange if taken seriously. It can be made into an acrostic, F.R.I.E.N.D. Here's how you can use this. Start with F for Family. You can ask the person about his family. One can begin with a trivial question like, "how many are you in your family?" "what is the best time of the day for your family?" or anything like that. R can stand for Recreation. You can ask the person about his or her favorite sport or activity. I can stand for Interests. You can ask the person some questions about sports, fashion, books, cars. Be observant for a few moments. Look out for clues. It can be with one's t-shirt, shoes,accessories,or the conversations this person had with other people in the group, etc. E can stand for Education. Ask about the person's school, their favorite subject, favorite hangout with friends in school, etc. N can stand for New Experiences lately. Ask the person what was the best thing that ever happened to them the past week, or these days. You might just be surprised that some will go on telling you about a lot of stuff. You can then take your cue there for the other topics to talk about. D can stand for Dreams for the future. You can ask about their plans, the future goals. These are but starter topics, but it can go well and long as you also find the answers interesting and also share some of your very answers to your questions... if you are asked back :D

I often talk with strangers because of my work . But if we have the same interesting ,I will make friends with them . because the common habit will give us a topic . So you are not a loner , do not belittle yourself .

Making a Conversation is a good way of making friends. if u cant find a conversation think about the likes and dislikes of the people u dnt kno.. like for example; u see someone playing poker and u want to make friends with tht person, try to make a conversation with a question like how do u play poker? or anything tht u got interested in tht person. asking a question is a good way to make friends in middle to high school or outside of school. if u have a feeling tht u would be put down because of the question u said just make a point tht all u need is other people opinions. if tht wont work well they're just not interested in u...

usaully i do not start a conversation to new people i met.i am afraid i might be rejected.

Hi, it's my first time to write here. perhaps your problem is not a problem. Everyone has their own communicating ways. You just dislike expressing your thoughts,but that doesnt mean you are born a loner. dont blame yourself. there is no absolute standard . hehe

I too am a quiet type. Unless it's sports or politics, I hardly say anything. Yet people keep me involved by talking about me, how I love to eat or using my name to joke around. Usually when I meet new people, it's foreigners. At my job at the amusement park, when I'm introduced to a person, I ask them how they like the job so far. If they're from another country, I ask them how they like America so far and if they've visited any other place yet. I'm sort of more talkative now than I was when I was younger. When I was younger I was very quiet and could tell it sort of disturbed those around me. I was even disturbed by my silence. So whenever I go to a job, I geek myself up to be prepared to converse. Everything's smooth from there on.

Well, i cannot blame you coz you do not know that person personally you do not know what topic to be brought up.So at the back of your mind you will gonna said what should i ask,or what should i do? Even me i experience with all this things but one thing for sure is that i will just be myself .I am not a people pleaser thats for sure.

normally i start with the forceful awkward "hello". making sure i say it first. then see what the other person says. if they keep talking, then i smile and nod my head, i've engaged in conversation. friendship can be built from that. if they just say a 10 word (or less) reply, then i know it just wasn't meant to be. another thing i do is follow my "gut"... i'm not prejudice, i would just rather be safe than sorry.

I completely understand what you're saying. I'm about as shy as shy can be. Even online, I'm afraid of making a fool of myself. Still, the best way I find to make new friends is to keep your eyes open for people who have the same interests as you. That's why I think myLot is so awesome!