How do I not take it personally?

yeah it's tough being sensitive - I am the same but you need to understand that all parents are different and they are all looking for something different for their kids -when my son was 2 I took him to 3 pre-school places and the one I chose was the least expensive but that's not why I chose it -the expensive one where lots of parents sent their kids and where they learned French and Spanish from age 3 (LOL) and other extras - did not have quite the right feel for me but lots of other parents obviously liked it -the one I chose had the right feel -I can't explain it otherwise...and my son was very happy there -so my point is ...it's not personal to you-it's just personal to each parent who wants a certain "something" for their child and not everyone will pick you

We all experience such disappointment from time to time. I can be rather emotional and sensitive myself sometimes although I'm not as bad as I use to be. Probably the best advice that I can give you, and it has helped me from time to time, is to remind yourself that you can't please everyone. No one can, no matter what their profession or walk in life is. If you believe in what you are doing is a benefit to those around you then rest on that. Obviously, there are people who you have pleased otherwise they wouldn't have put their child in your preschool. Remember, you can't please everyone. If you try to please everyone then you will end up pleasing no one. Good luck!!

There are many reasons people put their kids in preschool. Just like the reasons why one parent chooses one preschool and another chooses a different one. Some parents want their kids to learn as fast as possible and want a curriculum designed to push it. I wanted my daughter to feel comfortable, to learn, but at a relaxed pace. I didn't want her pushed and made to feel useless if she didn't succeed. So my needs affected what I chose. I had to consider other factors as well. What were the children like that she'd be interacting with? How far would I have to drive each day? What times were available (I worked odd hours)? Were there animals around? (I preferred that there were, other parents are terrified of dogs or cats. That terror infected the child) If she messed up, would the teacher punish her, ignore the problem, or handle it the way I wanted? How close to a road was the house? What kind of fence kept the kids in? (My girl had a desire to explore roads. We fought that desire most of her childhood. She refused to accept that cars were bad! Terrifying time) There are all sorts of reasons why one preschool is chosen over another. Some parents can't abide the thought their child could play with fingerpaints and get dirty. Some can't handle the thought that a place isn't painfully clean, with the children taught to be perfect, obedient robots. A lot of parents choose that. I'd automatically go somewhere else, no matter how much else met my approval. If a kid isn't getting a little messy, something is seriously wrong! They're not robots! They need to learn right from wrong, not to just obey anything they're told. I wanted my girl to think, not just obey. Don't take it personally. If they choose not to put their child there, there's probably something about them that will cause you considerable grief if they come back.

I can understand why you feel like that, it must be hard to introduce your pre school to parents, for them not to put them in your care... but saying that I think that the only advice I can give you, is to keep it in your mind that a lot of parents like to look around at so many places, and generally they choose the one that they feel is better for them, in terms of where they live etc. Some just like to have a look around even if they have already decided on a placement for their child. Personally speaking I think I would rather my son go to a pre school like yours where it is in a home rather than a big gathering... I think it is much nicer and a lot more social for them. There is something else that you could think about.. the fact that maybe parents choose to send their child to somewhere that accommadates a lot of children. The best thing I can say to you is, do not worry about people not coming back to enrol their child in your care. Just think about the children that you do have in your pre-school and how happy they and their parents are. If you really are worried though, you could devise some kind of feedback sheet, where you give out a piece of paper to the parents who come to visit, that has questions on it relating to your services and teaching etc, and you could get some feedback from the parents and then see what their true feelings are on your pre school. I personally do not think you have anything to worry about, just carry on doing the good job that you are now, and try not to worry about other people. Take Care!

Hello! When you are motivated in your work you put your feeling and became sensitive. But, in teaching you meet all kinds of people... But in time you will lear marketing steps to make them choose your preschool.

Hi! I am a business person ,too. And if there's one thing I've learned from my husband- in business, there should be a little room for emotions. The more you get emotional in your perspective and decisions, the more likely you'll be wrongly managing a situation. In your business, it is but natural that parents would scout or check first various schools before they decide to enroll their children. These paretns have various and different requirements. Distance from school to home , for ex., can be an issue. What I'm trying to point out is, there are lots of factors why parents chosose the school for their children. If you get so personal or emotional about it, it would not be good for you as most likely, you'll be very prone to discouragements. I'm sorry, but in this business work... at times, it would help to look personnal in dealing with your customers or clients yet see things in an impersonal/objective manner.

Hi Lilangels, I'm very sensitive too so I think I know where you are coming from. Still, you have to look at it objectively. When my youngest daughter turned 4, I started looking for pre-schools for her. I visited every pre-school in the area. I asked their curriculum and talked with the teacher. The ones that I liked the most it seemed were way out of my price range. In fact they all were really out of my price range. It's been years since I was in that spot but I have to tell you that I don't recall it ever had anything to do with the person running the pre-school. In the end, I decided that I had some spare time and I could improvise a curriculum of my own and I did. Yes, there were some that did not join but in all fairness there were some that I had to turn away. I could only take on just so many and be fair.

One thing I can tell you is that you really want your school to run, you have to think why they are not getting their kids to your school. Is there something wrong in the ambience? Is there something wrong with the methods you follow.. When it comes to parents they usually are very much concerned with what their child learns in this age cos that is what decides their future. Instead of feeling bad and negative about your approach, think where you can improve. If you are sad and feel hurt for such things, there is no way success is coming your way. You can approach the parents who chose to not get their children to your school and asked them politely why they chose other school over yours. You can improve up on the suggestion and the feedback that you get from them. Would surely help you improve your work. bourne

It is really hard for an emotional person to take on a business. He/ she cannot bear anything easily and will be a problem for others. You are in a preschool business, handling little kids. So, you should learn to control your emotions. Just try to be positive always and note the difference.

It's okay to be sensitive but when you are in a Business, you couldn't expect all people to patronize your services or products. There are times that you have to control your emotions because it will just put your business in a bad reputation. Just set aside all personal stuff because business is a separate entity and considered your different personality.

It is indeed difficult not to get emotionally involved in business. The only advice I can give is, try to look at the bright side always. Most parents like to look around and see all the options available. And when they do not send their kids to yours, it does not necessarily means that they don't like it. Like other members said already, it could be that the location is a bit too far from them.

The only advice I can give is just think of it as a challenge to improve your preschool. Think of what's lacking in your preschool and improve in there. Ask opinions from others. Also ask the parents of those that didn't choose you why they preferred others but always be ready for their answers and again take it as a learning experience. Good luck. You can do it.

People are weird, maybe that's the reason. Sometime people are just over protective, it's probably that they didn't like you, its probably because you don't teach their kids how to speak 3 languages lol. People want the best for their kids and have specific needs that must be met. Just remember the other families who's needs your already meeting. They are the one's who are benefiting from your service the most, and they should be the reason why you continue working. Stay strong, live strong, and keep your chin up!

There are people who are more sensitive to others. However, there is an increase in break outs, taking things more personally then intended if you're under a lot of stress. I agree, it's hard to have a business and be sensitive at the same time, but maybe it's the stress that's causing you to take things more to the heart. Max

I agree, its hard to mix business and emotions. I guess just be professional about it, don't be negative about it, just think that there are other reasons why they didn't put their child in.

I is very sensitive, so I think I know where you are. Still, you'll see it. When my daughter turned around and I started looking for preschool children to her. I visited each pre-school education. I asked them to the curriculum and teacher. I like the way the seems to be out of my budget. In fact, they were really out of my budget. It has always been my on the point, but I have to tell you that I don't remember when I had anything to do with the people running preschool education. Finally, I decided that I have a lot of free time, I can improvise oneself of course, I do.

I is very sensitive, so I think I know where you are. Still, you'll see it. When my daughter turned around and I started looking for preschool children to her. I visited each pre-school education. I asked them to the curriculum and teacher. I like the way the seems to be out of my budget. In fact, they were really out of my budget. It has always been my on the point, but I have to tell you that I don't remember when I had anything to do with the people running preschool education. Finally, I decided that I have a lot of free time, I can improvise oneself of course, I do.

I is very sensitive, so I think I know where you are. Still, you'll see it. When my daughter turned around and I started looking for preschool children to her. I visited each pre-school education. I asked them to the curriculum and teacher. I like the way the seems to be out of my budget. In fact, they were really out of my budget. It has always been my on the point, but I have to tell you that I don't remember when I had anything to do with the people running preschool education. Finally, I decided that I have a lot of free time, I can improvise oneself of course, I do.

I is very sensitive, so I think I know where you are. Still, you'll see it. When my daughter turned around and I started looking for preschool children to her. I visited each pre-school education. I asked them to the curriculum and teacher. I like the way the seems to be out of my budget. In fact, they were really out of my budget. It has always been my on the point, but I have to tell you that I don't remember when I had anything to do with the people running preschool education. Finally, I decided that I have a lot of free time, I can improvise oneself of course, I do.