Should i give him another Chance?

...Hi there catycat, Welcome to the ranch, tou will meet a lot of nice people here. I would suggest you ashjk yourself two questiong regarding givinging your boyfriend another chance. First, do you honestly think he will change and become a one woman man. It's okay for men and women to have platonic friends outside of a committed relationship, but indulging in things that cross the line, no good. How can you trust the person? Second question, if he doesn't change can you put up with his behavior? It must bother you, you left the relationship. He is who he is, it flatters his ego, he may well love you but he wants to fool around. So it would appear the two things are untenable. Love doesn't always conquer all. Let him go, perhaps he will miss you enough to wake up to the fact that you need to be grown up and take reponsibility for your actions and be faithful or don't enter into a relationship. Consider this, suppose you had been married to him?? Let him go. Visit www.authspot.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137 or because I am not sure, www.socyberty.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137 and look for Letting Go: Stop Chasing Ghosts. Take care, you realize what the best thing would be to do. Cry, feel bad but move on. He wants to play, let him have his sand box. "o) Might not be easy but in time you will be fine. Take care.

i think u should give him one chance....because break up doesnt hurts to one of the couple it hurts to both but for someone it is less painful but for another one that pain is dangerous....just give him one chance instead of getiing hurt without him....i think he has realized his mistake....if he makes another mistake or hurts you again then just move on in your life....because love is not everything in life....you can live without love also...or you will find another person at a time... this is my thinking and its not compulsory that you must agree happy mylotting

It all depends on several things, I guess. First of all, do you think he would be able to make a change? If he continues with his ways after you get back together, it is going to cause you more heartache and hurt. As such, I feel that you really need to think this very carefully. Secondly, what is he promising you? If he promises to leave all the womanising and be true to you, maybe you should give him a chance. Thirdly, is there any signs of remorse as to what he had done to you? If he shows that he is repentant and makes the effort to treat you better, maybe there is a chance. I have encountered such painful and hurting experience myself. When I accepted him back, I did not specify certain conditions clearly and soon he took advantage of me. But I have been given the strength to pick myself up. Soon enough, retribution was on the way for him. He is still now with me. But he knows now that I won't hesitate to leave him if he repeats his nonsense. You have to got to be prepared to be hurt again, if you give him another chance. Think about what you would do if he does certain things. Are you going to put up with it? You need not tell him what you intend to do, but make it clear that his nonsense is no longer tolerated. Be firm! Be strong!

if you still love him, don't be scared to take the risk of forgiving him. nobody is perfect, your ex-bf is not perfect and so are you. Make sure that after forgiving him, he will not commit the same mistake again. But if he still continues with his extra curricular activities, then you have to let him go. As a final note, relationship is a two way process, don't always point your finger on him. also try assessing yourself.

Hmmm....if you want to give him a chance, just go ahead, but don`t regret your decision if he keeps doing the same thing again and again.I would rather you not give him a chance. You`re worthy. I have some friends with the same experience like that.They kept giving their BF many chances despite the fact that their BFs are womanize, even finally they got married. One of my friends, thought that maybe after marriage, he could change. then what happened?after 4 years of marriage, my friend decided to divorce.Think again, it is normal to love someone and to be loved, but why should you give your heart to a man who already broke your heart?

hi catycat, we have no right to ask you to give him a chance or not to give him a chance. The final decison is still on your hand. in my own opinion, ya, you had been together with him for 3 years, shared great and unforgettable memories together, but 3 years actually not a very long time period, u should learn to forget him. If you give him a chance, do you will have any worries about the relationships??Sure u will have the worries right?and maybe one day you will feel tired of the relationships. Why want to make yourself so stress? Why don't you find a better guy? He had made you so sad before, and should give him a lesson. You should prove to him that, without him you still can live happily and live your life to the fullest. Hope you will relax and think carefully before you made a decison.:)n cheer up^^

If you really love the guy and if you think he really loves you, then you should give him another chance BUT on the condition that you will not be officially "on" for a long time (ex. 2 to 3 years).. LOL.. that should teach him to treasure you.. and if he doesn't agree with that or if he breaks this condition then maybe it is high time that you should open up your eyes and see that he is not the one for you.. i do hope you get the right lovin' with the right person. :D

Try to weigh out all the options before getting back together. Ask yourself if he has motives and not love in coming back to your life. Let me tell you my story because right now I am hurting so bad because my bf of 6yrs broke up with me recently because of another girl. Four years ago, we drifted apart and in spite of him being a womanizer, because I loved him so much, when he asked to come back to my life I accepted him. This has become one of my biggest mistakes because I could have spared myself of the pain, because at that time I could live without him. But now, I am left with nothing but pain and tears. So think, if he has done it once, what makes you think he will not do it again? Love is never enough for people who are selfish.

If you think you still have the heart to be with him again, then, give him a chance. However, you must make it clear with him that he must change. I f he won't,then,you will only find yourself hurdling the same pain over and over again. If he does change, then, move on and forget everything that he did that caused you pain.Trust is very difficult to rebuild but in time once he has proven his worth to you, he will gain it back as long as you are willing to give him that another chance. Lay all your cards on the table and see how he would react. Then you can decide after. Goodluck!

breaking up is hard but the pain is just temporary compared with loving someone who is not faithful to you. when you are not together you will have no peace in mind because the doubts are there. a womanizer is always a womanizer so get rid of him then move on. in the first place he is not the right guy for you.

Good day to you Catycat1985, With reference to your main question, well, for me, everybody deserves a second chance. Maybe you can give this to your boyfriend though he brought you some painful situation. However, it is not a guarantee that if you give the second chance, everything will be fine. Perhaps, you can explain to your boyfriend that eventhough the second chance was granted, still, you will be vigilant for whatever wrong move that he will do such as being a womanizer. Aside from that, maybe you can remind him that, if he really loves you and he meant to win the second chance, he will do his best not to hurt you again.

Is it the first he asked you to give him another chance? If yes and if you still love him then I think you try giving him another chance. Let's see if he will change. If not then don't give him another chance.

if you still love him, give him another chance so when time comes, you will not ask yourself what if. but you don't feel anything anymore, don't force yourself to give him another chance just because you feel guilty about the time you've spent together.

yes, I think he deserves another chance. He may e feeling guilty of what he has done. I always happens that a person does not value a relationship, but realises the importance only when it is broken. So by giving him another chance you are allowing him to repent on his mistake. I do understand that you had painful memories. This could be a boon in disguise for more memories in your life.

i think he has realized your worth in his life and hence he is feeling bad that he has lost you. he wants you back in his life. He wants forgiveness for what he has done to you. He is repenting for the wrong doings. Forgive him and give him a chance. But keep the distance for some time and keep an eye on him. He may also have some other intention. Don't judge him too early. Just wait and watch and observe whether he has actually changed and has realized your worth.

Hello catycat, In my 44 years of living, one thing I know about human nature is that people don't change. No exception. You've been with this guy for three years and I'm sure you must know his behavior. That is how he will behave no matter what because his behavior namely womanizing gives him pleasure. People will do things which bring them pleasure and will leave those which give them displeasure. I always believe that people are basically all good but they also cannot help being selfish. So they will continue to do the things they do as long as these things give them pleasure. Only you can decide if your bf is capable of change but personally I feel that people will not change if the said behavior whether good or bad still gives them pleasure. Think carefully before you give him another chance to avoid future heartache. You're capable of something better.

Hi catycat I would suggest you not to give a chance, once you give him a chance that means you are in trouble for the whole life time because a womanizer can never change his mind because he is always behind a new girl. I think your boyfriend is playing tricks with you better be away from him because it is a question of your life. You are lucky you gave up and continue with it. A womanizer always plays with woman's emotions and enjoy and never care for the woman and they have no love for any woman because they always want to enjoy with a new woman very often.

i think you can give him a chance but you should be careful though i think that you will be careful when you give hi another chance. it will be hard for you to give the best love that you can just like the first time that you gave him before cause you might have suspicions.

A guy will always be a womanizer. It's either you accept that he'll have flings and girlfriends behind your back all the time or just move on and find another man. :) before making a decision, just think about the future. Think about how your decisions today will affect you tomorrow, in a week, in a month, in a year, in 5 years, in 10 years. When you've answered all the questions, see if you still prefer your decision or not :) Goodluck

young girl, let me tell u somthing, if u do know the man dosen't have any plan to settle down with you, why bother to do the samething one more time, life is shot, dont wast it. It is up to u, up to your judgement. hope u make the right dicision...