Should I enter into this new relationship?

I really think you should. When you feel open enough, tell her the situation you're in. If the feeling really is mutual, then she will understand and help you overcome it. :D I promise you that. :D Don't waste this opportunity! If you don't take it, she might feel like you're not into her and you just think of her as a friend then she'll be looking for other guys. Which would totally suck in your case. So go for it! Good luck man! Hope it all works out Good day and Happy MyLotting!

Hi andyvil, I think you need to be straight up with this girl. Tell her exactly what you told us here. I don't think you'll lose her at all. She'll know you are interested and she'll see that you are open and honest. You've only been seeing her a couple of weeks and that is really too quick to make any kind of firm commitment to the future. You are still getting to know each other. Take it slow and keep the communication open. If this girl is pressuring you for a commitment this early into the relationship then that is a huge red flag so I hope that isn't the case.

You're not ready. I know that because you say "with someone who could have made me happy." NOBODY can MAKE you happy!! You have to be happy with and by yourself before you are truly ready to share your life with someone. What caused your last relationship to fail? Have you conquered that factor? If you don't face what doomed your last relationship you will repeat it, over and over. It may be you chose the wrong person and if so you need to find out why. Maybe you were too clinging-then you must conquer your insecurity. Examine yourself, fix what's broken, shore up what is weak, etc. Only then can you have a successful relationship, but remember that only you yourself can make you happy--everything and everyone else is just the icing on the cake.

You don't have to force yourself to enter a fresh relationship because you were experiencing a break up just seven months ago. You even sad you need to fix your life first. Is it possible to heal your heart first and explain to the girl or the woman that you really like her but just tell her that you need to recuperate first from the pain before starting a relationship again. If the feeling is mutual and I'm sure it is then she will understand your situation. The best thing to do is that don't force yourself when you aren't ready yet. Or else the relationship will suffer and you might regret it later.

hi andy, Based on what you have shared, I can say that you are sincere and honest about what you feel, think and realized. Though you had been in dilemma before, time had let you heal and realize more great things to happen in your life right now. The better world around you.. Your intentions and reasons regarding your status right now and to the one you love is understandable and valid for me. It was an honest thought and feeling. It was a good intention at all.. Helping your self be a new person again, and leaving the past behind. The best thing I can suggest for you, is to make your final decisions,then share your thoughts and feeling with the girl you have right now and let her share her thoughts about your plans. This will make both of you unified in a way, and maybe considered as a sign for the possibility what to expect after you have gotten her opinions and choices you have to make again.. At least, in this way, you will have an inner peace of mind, because you have expressed your thoughts with her and no matter how hard for you to express that easily. And, in this you will know what to expect as you make your new breakthrough in life.. If she will stay with you still or not? Be thankful, for she had served as one of your reasons for moving on with life. Sometimes, good relationship can be achieved in different forms, it may not be what we have wanted at all, but as long their is the connection piece in it, it will grow better everyday..

Yes you should. Its time for you to move on. And the best way to do that is to enter in a new relationship. If you really love each other then go for it. Don't be afraid to enter in a new relationship. The one you have before is different to what you have now. So go for it! Losing her I think is like having another terrible break up. Think about it.

I think you should keep it light until you get your affairs in order. I think it will be better for you both. If it was meant to be, it will happen. You say you need to get your life in order, what a great motivation! Good luck

andyvil it sounds to me like you are suspicously close to being in love. I would say go for it as you have all the right ideas'and you said she seems to feel the same way. So you were burned once, but don't let that bad situation cause you to lose what sounds really delightful to me. I say go for it. Maybe being with her and comitting will wipe out all that old bad feeling. Really I think you should plunge in and enjoy a relationship with her, my ideas of course. Good luck and God Bless.

Hey Andy!! Risk, Risk. Every relationship comes with one. Don't ever be afraid of doing so. It may turn out not as you expected but as long as you are happy with there is nothing wrong. You may get hurt but well it happens. I wish you luck

If you are not certain then the best thing is to wait and ask her to wait as well. If she cannot then ask her to find someone else. The right partner is the one who is willing to wait for you.

Firstly. sorry for the late response.. I think you must forget the past and begin worrying about the future.. having a good relation that too with a parner having common interest is always the right choice to make.. why wait... go ask her soon.. thanks for sharing... have a great day/night...

Hello Andyvil! it would be better if you would tell your lady friend what's your feelings for her and explained why you are hesitant to make a go with the relationship. If she reciprocates your feelings, she would understand your situation. if she won't, then maybe she's not worth it,after all. that way, you would not stand to lose her because you're still trying to fix your life. if she values you, she would stand by your side, take your hand and help you out. if you are not really ready to commit yourself to her until you're well and ready, then tell her so. if she would still stand by you, then she's worth all the wait.

hi andyvil...well i can understand you are in a super confusion...it seems your break up has affected u alot as you are not able to take up this decision...accordig t you she also likes you...well i would give you a suggestion...step forward and teel your feelings but also mention that you want to take up more time to get committed with her ...make her understand that it is for her good why you taking up the time...be polite and speak your heart out...and according to me if the girl has true feelings for you she will have patience as well...so its good to say someting instead of nothing at all...you are also saying that you people share evrything...so you can do one thing.,..tell her what are you exactly feeling right now about entering into a relationship...see what she says...as soon as she replys you will be able to understand her point of view and then you can come to some decision...all the best...:) dont wory things will be fine soon...god bless you both :)

andy i think that you should talk with her and say that you really want to be with her but if she can wait a few more time bcs you been broken hearted in your last relationship and still need to recover completely. you dont feel nothing anymore for your ex but the way she hurt you you are afraid to be hurt again so you need some more time with her to feel more secure. if you tell her things with your heart im sure this girl will understand you. the way you talk it seems she really loves you so if she loves for sure she will wait till you be ready^^ dont worry for sure you wont lose her. if she is the right for you she will understand you^^

I think you should first think about your readiness to commit. If you believe that you have not yet fully moved on, you should wait a little longer. Getting into a relationship without fully moving on can be unfair for the girl. You might find yourself attracted to her, but it might only mean that you are happy because she helps you think less of your ex. I think it is best to wait for now.

Why should there be any pressure? I have been there done that too (had quite a few bad relationship endings) So now if I like someone, then I spend my time with them and if they push for more committment-I tell them that I just want to take it day by day-I explain my feelings...and that's it. I like things to happen naturally-not set milestones. I hope it works for you :)

You know what? by the time I entered in a new relationship with my boyfriend I was still moving on with my mutual guy. That I really thought I would be single for a very long long time. But then after months that I started to move on that was the time that my bf came to my life. Of course we have been friends for 5 months then we realized that we are in love to each other while our friendship is going on. I did not hesitate to commit with him since then I was finally move on. I did not commit with him just because I want to forget the other one but the truth is my feeling for him was actually developed and accepted my boyfriend as him. I was trying to fix something with my life too when my boyfriend entered my life but then it actually helps because I totally moved on. In your case I think you must pursue your relationship with her. It will do nothing if you are very confuse every now and then. I tell you since you accepted that girl as her and you are in love for being HER that just to happens that you were just so in love then GO FOR IT! No need to be confused and hesitate. The only thing it will ruin your relationship is that when you are desperate to have a girl but you don't love her for a fact that you just want to move on and you just want her as rebound. Because from some cases that I have heard from reliable sources it was never been successful in relationship.

Don't expect your past relationship to be the same with this one. Learn from past. But don't let your past be a hindrance to succeed in your future. Do your best in what you have now so you won't think you lost a chance of a lifetime.

NO. you can be UNFAIR with her. what if you don't truly love her, and sometime/someday you meet another woman, ( it is possible) what will you do then to that girl that used to be your so called a " friend"? are you going to left her or let yourself being attached coz you don't want her to be hurt but the question is can you be happy on that kind of a relationship. If you think, you are NOT ready to commit to another relationship coz of your failure in the past .. TRY not to hurt someone else. You can be friends.. NO commitment at all.. but please DON'T show too much care that let the woman develop her love for you.. Be casual as a friend. Don't kiss her... nor slept with her. Just being a friend.. and there's nothing wrong about it.

If you feel love for her- that's nice! But as you said that you are not ready to make another commitment due to what happened in the past, then you better take things easy my friend. Your hesitation means something... And take it as a warning. Don't worry. If you two are really meant for each other, nothing can stop it believe me. For now, take one step at a time. Don't rush things just because you fear that your procrastination would shoo her away. GO into a relationship that is purely fired up with love. And, once you feel..."THIS IS IT!" then go for it. Unless it is security that you are after then that's another story.