Are you listening or waiting for your turn to talk?

I know exactly what you mean. But that is a very human characteristic. People tend to do that specially in arguments or when trying to discuss a point of view.In an argument not listening is common, the person can be feeling threatened or attacked and spend their time thinking about a good comeback instead of actually listening to what is said. When the matter is a discussion of an idea or point of view, they are focused on what their own idea is, how to promote it/ defend it/ explain it, and are unable to listen to the other person's idea. It bothers me when it happens and once I realize what is happening I usually loose interest myself and find a good timing to break the conversation. NO point on continuing, so I don't even contribute anything to it unless we're talking about my daughter in which case I often break my own rules and keep trying even though I'm not really being listened to:)

I usually wait for my turn to talk because I want to hear what other people has to say and hope that I could spill out mine and they'd listen to the same way I did. When I notice people who are just waiting in line to speak out, I'd get their attention and maybe even tell them to speak out already. For me, I really prefer listening first and then saying out what I feel or think about things for I don't want to argue with anyone nor would I want to make people feel or think the way you do, that "when will i shut my mouth and listen?" Lol. Best of luck

I am a good listener.when someone is explaining or saying something i wait for him/her to finish first before saying my opinion or what ever i want to say or add to what he/she just said, in that way you will understand each other.

Well, there is few technique to speak, one is raise your palm to stop they speaking and u can speak,another method is wait for them to stop and speak, when they interupt your continue to speak and ignore them.If they continue said pls i am not finish,give me chance to speak also.If they continue without listening,they just stnad up and walk away because it is not use already.As well exchange email then is more benefit.

well, i've met lots of person like that in my life. that's why i'm so easy to get misunderstood. i don't know why, bu people tends to get misunderstood me. perhaps because i'm not a good talker. when i met people like that, naturally i stopped talking and listening to what they said. but as time goes by, and as i matured, i immediately cut their talk if the talk is unrelated with my talk. anyway, it's me who has a problem/information to talk first.

I always find time to listen attentively. Some says people who talks too much and not not listening are the people who never got the chance to talk at home, maybe nobody listens at her when she talks at home. Sometimes, it is a means of coping with stress or maybe they knows a lot about things and just wanted to share it to us. We can all accept each and everyone's differences. We should always try to be calm when dealing with people who loves to talk and never listens. We can also tell that person that she talks too much and that she should listen in a very polite way but if she still doesn't want to listen then we can walk away. Sometimes i make up excuses to get away from that person but in a polite manner.

I've been told a few times that I'm a good listener. It took me aback but it was nice to hear such a statement. I like to listen to the person say what they have to say first before commenting so I'd have all the details first. I may ask about the subject at hand to get a better understanding and continue to listen before saying something. Now if someone interrupts me, I'll speak a little louder to show that I wasn't finished with what I had to say and if it continues on, I'll just stop talking altogether and tell the person to figure it out for themselves because I'm done.

hi 34momma great topic. My son when he was in his teens brought me up short. Mom he yelled you are not listening to me. put that down, do it later, You never listen. Wow and he was right I was half listening and half trying to think what to say to what he was saying. So I learned not to multi task while someone was t elling me something. For one thing it really is r ude but it took my own son to point this out to me. I think maybe a lot of us at times are guilty of not listening wholly to someone as we try to do several things at the same time. Yes its very irritating and Ihave broken my habit. Now I get so irritated when someone seems to be listening but they really did not hear what I said at all. Sometimes this happend in a store when you are trying to get some information about a product or you have a complaint about a product. After you finish talking, the person looks at you and asks what is your problem. grrrt'What the heck did she think I was talking about, did she not hear me telling her the coffee maker would not work, and I wanted either a replacement or my money back? So I very patiently and a bit angrily repeated the whole conversation. Then I asked her if she understood? By this time the store manager broke in, as he had been listening and knew my problem. He said, "I am sorry for your problems. It seems that that batch of coffeemakers all had the same problem. I am going to get you a different model and this will not cost you any more money either. Try it and if you have any problems come see me. I am Henry Harris Maam."

Hi momma! People have accused me of doing this and I get very angry and upset! I happen to be one of the best listeners there is! Most of my friends are selfish and self-centered and they are lucky I put up with them at all! They have nothing of importance to talk about except themselves to begin with! And if I need to talk about me then they don't want to hear it! So if that is the way they want to be I just don't even bother with some of them! I have a girlfriend who is like that who is supposed to be my so called "best friend"! As long as she can say whatever she wants it's ok, but if I talk about myself then she has to tell me all the things that are wrong in my life! I am tired of listening to her and have decided that I can't do it anymore so we are no longer speaking, and this is not the first time, but I have had enough. I don't know if I will ever let her back into my life again and we have been friends since we were 10, that's 47 years on and off!

I have always prided myself on being a good listener. You are more in tune with what is going on around you when you stop to be the listener. We all like to speak our minds when the moment comes. If we are waiting for our turn to talk, then we want to be the only one speaking. We might hear another person speaking, but we aren't truly listening to what they have to say. Listening is an art we should all acquire. It makes for better relationships.

Bumping into the same people who are like that once in a blue moon may be stressful but won't affect you that much but having to bear with the same selfish person for years is way much too much. Some people are really so self-centered that they only want other people to listen to what they have to say than them being on the listening end. Well, is there anyone out there who knows how to treat or react to people of this kind?

I always find time to listen attentively. Some says people who talks too much and not not listening are the people who never got the chance to talk at home, maybe nobody listens at her when she talks at home. Sometimes, it is a means of coping with stress or maybe they knows a lot about things and just wanted to share it to us. We can all accept each and everyone's differences. We should always try to be calm when dealing with people who loves to talk and never listens. We can also tell that person that she talks too much and that she should listen in a very polite way but if she still doesn't want to listen then we can walk away. Sometimes i make up excuses to get away from that person but in a polite manner.