consequences......

Sweetie, no matter what the consequences, you have to tell him. It seems that this is eating you up, already. Just start at the beginning and tell him. If he loves you, he will understand why you kept it from him. If he know how you feel, he will accept the fact that you waited so long to tell him. Good Luck. TATA.

Truth hurts really but if you are sincere in telling him the truth about the past then you should open it out to him. If he really loves you then he won't really care about any past you've been as long as the present is centered on your present relationship.

I think that too many of us put off tell the truth too long as we are afraid oh how our partnter may act. I think you must tell him in a kind way so you do not ruffle feathers too much. be calm and ask for forgiveness for having put this off too long.

if you really want peace of mind, you will tell it to your husband whatever it takes, whatever the consequence is. if it's a sin, just be prepared of what he might do or how he might react. if you know for a fact that it's really annoying or if there's a real good reason of being angry, then you should understand him. just break the secret gently and carefully so that he would know that you are sincere of telling this to him and that you are sorry for what you did. goodluck!

It is really not good to keep secrets from your partner. The best move is to tell him what that is and let the love you have for each other do the explaining. First, you are just making things worse, by keeping secrets. Better that it comes from you that from anyone else, you know what they say, there is no such thing as secret. Second, having a secret, hides a part of you from him. If he loves you then he will accept it. Third, if that thing happened before the two of you got together, it maybe is not a big deal to him. Fourth, guilt, which is what you are feeling now, grows inside you. Don't let it cause it will eat you up. God bless.

Their are no right and wrong in every relationship.But, if you have courage to do so then tell him.If not just leave it behind but if I were you I would tell him the truth rather than he'll going to find out with other people. which one is your pick? It is more complicated when he finds out the hatred becomes double and in fact it is harder than you thought.Whatever you do if he really loves you he'll forget and forgive but accept the fact of his decision and his anger. We just hope the reaction of him is become better but if not its a range that you have to deal with. Good luck do your thing.I hope he'll understand.

What he doesn't know want hurt him. I don't believe in lying but sometimes it's just better to keep some personal things to yourself.

What you feel now is guilt. If the only way to get rid of the guilt is to tell your secret it's your choice. But if your telling of this secret will cause great pain to your partner then you might want to reconsider. Remember the past is just that the past and nothing you do will change it. So consider the future and make your choice, but make sure it's not just to help yourself be free of the guilt.

I am 100% agree with you not to have secret with your partner. But then, asked yourself first, if it necessary NOT to tell him at all if that about your past, you need to move and will do everything as much as you can NOT ruin of your relationship with him. I believe what is important is NOW.. you're present life .. your future with him. Be good as wife.... and forgive yourself. Face the reality that you can't back the previous history of your life BUT this serve as a guidelines that the next life you will be careful in any decision that your going to make. You need to realize what is important right now with you.. telling the secret or a good life with your husband for NOT telling at all and move on.

Well, it depends on what kind of secret you are hiding from him. Have you done anything that is considered to be betraying your boyfriend's trust? If it's not, then if you feel like telling him then do so, if you are worried about the consequences, then think about it first, the good and bad. Someone always have his reason to accept us for what we are. My opinion is, you are still on the stage of worrying and guessing the consequences, yet it hasn't happened yet. Just think of the best for him and for yourself. Have a nice day

consequences eh. many people can't decide or pursue on something because of being afraid of consequences. i have got into this kind of situation too, but i immediately face the truth, i became brave for myself, after telling what i did. I just said that i know i did wrong and i'm sorry. I didn't think of what she'll think of me, if she'll get mad or what, but the thing is i got to be honest. So i suggest you do the same too, tell him the truth, he'll get hurt of course, but if he really loves he'll understand. Do not be afraid of losing, just remember when you lose some, maybe there's a better one coming. Do it now, its a burden you'll take for a long time if you won't tell it. Thanks for the topic Goodluck with it and much respect