Would you break someone's heart if you do not love him/her?

You definitely did the right thing. If his wife is a good friend then I would also tell her what happened so that there are no hard feelings between you. Good luck finding the right guy. He is out there, just sometimes they are hiding :D

You're decision is RIGHT. Remember, his wife is a GOOD FRIEND of yours. Lot's of FISH MEN in the sea... in time, you will meet someone that is RIGHT for you.

I will never mean to hurt anyone unless required

Good for you. I think he should've had a divorce first before proposing to you if the thing with his wife is really over otherwise their relationship can still be mended. You shouldn't be guilty of anything if you think this is the right thing to do.

you were sweet caring about your friend and not accepting him^^ anyway if that guy is not happy married with your friend they should end the marriage :( why be together if he loves you? anyway i think that if he really loves you he will end that marriage and try to have you. i feel sorry for your friend too but if that guy doesnt love her is better that they dont continue together or both will be living a lie :(

Dear Valentina , you are great, you took good decision, yes we should not break someone's heart but sometime its depends on our situation.You are saving someone's life by breaking someone's heart. The wife of the person who is loving you is girl same like you. We should understand and should take right decision before it may be too late.

If he/she doesn't love the person - there is no other way but to break his/her heart. It will only make things worst if you give him/her false hope. Besides, your decision is good enough, that is the rational thing to do.

You took very correct decision. If i was in place of you, i would also have done this. To refuse someone is a very difficult task and it requires lots of courage. Doing this you have saved three lives; yours, that guy and his wife. That guy would be sad for few days but after some time, he will also understand the truth of life. So always be happy and make others happy. Wish you good luck in future.

Great decision! On my opinion though if a person is in love he or she cannot distinguish what is right and what is wrong. My gf broke up with me and went with another guy even if we have 2 kids already. She broke my heart and went with this guy simply because she just don't love my anymore. I mean for one thing, she could have thought about our two kids but no, she just thought about what she wanted and what she's feeling. Well hope she's just like you. But of course you have different situations.