Will you marry someone of different culture and religion from you?
By chesaid
@chesaid (104)
Philippines
July 7, 2010 3:09pm CST
i've been thinking if it is easy to marry someone who is different from my culture and faith. i know some would say it will depend on how each person adjust himself to his partner. maybe some will say if you really love someone, love will conquer all.
maybe in dating period it will be easy to adjust and adapt. but when it comes to the point that it will be part of your everyday life it will be different thing.
feel free to share your opinions.. have a nice day..
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25 responses
@attente (986)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
I couldn't agree more chesaid! Marrying is far different from dating. When you got married, you have to stay with them and you'll discover lots of things about him and his culture. Of course you really have to adjust because you have a vow to stay with each other. You just cannot give up easily just because you don't like something about his culture.. it's really hard. But I think it's okay if you know from the start that you guys have different culture. You have an idea what to expect. Of course you wouldn't want to get married to a person you don't know much right? and because you love, you both have to do all the adjustments needed. be blessed!
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Jul 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think it will be OK for me to have a wife who comes from a different culture and religion from me. I think if we are in so deep love, I think I will not care this so much in my life. Love must put ahead. Love is the greatestone in the world for me now! I enjoy the time with my wife in my whole life!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
8 Jul 10
Doesn't really matter to me as long as there is right chemistry and ofcourse there is true love. I am presently married to someone who share the same belief and come from the same culture and race as I am but I can't seem to adjust to his way of thinking and vice versa. I rather say, marry the person and not be influenced by his religion or cultural background for a lifelong commitment.
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@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
8 Jul 10
It will not be easy, I can say. But first of all, you must know your parents' way of thinking. My parent's will agree if I have a relationship or even married with certain race, certain culture. But there are races that they will not agree.
Like my friend, she's in a relationship with someone with different race and different religion. This far, they both doing fine. But, finally, they are now doing it backstreet. Because my friend's parent's doesn't want their daughter to change religion.
But I guess, all finally will come to ourselves. Are we ready to go through this?
I myself now is in open relationship with someone from different cultures, race, and religion. My mother knows about it.
I think, we can make it through though it will not be easy.
I have thought about that all over. If both of us don't want to change religion, than we just walk in our line. Cause love is not about religion. It is just love itself.
@iloveme01 (79)
• United States
8 Jul 10
Is that you in this picture? if yes I would like to give it a try LOL. I am white but like all femals, all colors and all religions. So I am available, just send me a PM and have my jet come and pick you up regardless where you are.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
22 Nov 10
I did! I'm Canadian, he's American. I'm Presbyterian, he's Mormon. We are living in Canada, because we lived in both places together, and decided that Canada was better for us. As for religion, we alternate churches every other week.
@JOIEMARVIC (2335)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
Love is something that goes beyond the beliefs and practices of any religion or culture. I really do believe that God has created a perfect person for us. This person may be from a different country, a different religion, and has different cutures and way of life compared to us. This will definitely not stop us from loving them. Love is something religion and culture cannot tore apart.
@zralte (4178)
• India
7 Jul 10
I married outside my culture though we share the same religion. I have to say it is hard. All marriages are hard, every one have to work hard at their marriage. Throw in different culture and well, different beliefs in some case, and you have a perfect recipe for disaster. That is why more hard work is needed for cross cultural marriage.
I have been married for more than 6 years with my husband. There are times when I am ready to throw in the towel and just leave everything. We have our differences, and our ideas and mindset are not always the same. Communication is the key. I tell my husband when he is wrong or getting the wrong idea. We tell each other the differences in our culture. This is how we do it or asking each other how it is being done.
It is not about adjustments, it is all about give and take. One cannot always be in a giving position. One needs to view the other side too. This is true even in same culture marriage, but with cross cultural relationship, somethings which are given as mutual understandings cannot always be taken at that.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
8 Jul 10
Sure!
My fiance wasn't in my religion, he had another. He liked mine better and now he is but if he didn't maybe there would be some little trouble but there are so many religions and cultures over the world that really would be impossible to everyone to find. Maybe God want us all to really mix each other, learn from other beliefs.
@jkar1234 (147)
• India
8 Jul 10
As long as i have good understanding with my partner i dont think difference in culture and religion will have any big impact.
There will be some issues but if both partners are understanding and caring then issues can be solved.
Yes if both partners are of same religion and culture then it works as an advantage but still adjustments are necessary.
If both partners from different culture can bring some good things from their culture together then marriage life can become a joy .
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@llala1610 (36)
• Vietnam
8 Jul 10
I never thinking about it. Maybe because I come from Asia. I can make friend with everybody but to be lover is not.
I think that someone who is from other religion is very different from me. As thinking about traditional things, habits, hobbies...
In my country, some people is so so so outdated
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@ucom209 (1)
• Morocco
8 Jul 10
i will marry women what ever the race or religion or place she is on difference is good quality also it can help couple the fact that the world becom small small country so ideas about religion and culture and race becom an old fashion the globe is for all peopls and human hav no limits in what he desire
@animegirl334 (3263)
• United States
8 Jul 10
Yes, sometimes love does conquer all. Marrying someone of a different culture is more difficult than marrying someone of your own culture but you shouldn't be separated from the person you love just because of cultural differences. For me, my family is somewhat traditional so they might disapprove of me marrying someone of a different culture but if I really love him, I would try to make it work.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
I can still consider culture but when I have to choose between a guy and my religion, I am definitely choosing my religion. My religion is very important for me. I had an ex-boyfriend who didnt belong to our religion and I always told him how important my religion was but he doesnt seem to understand. I was thinking that telling him that will make him interested with my religion. He didnt respect that and told it was "nonsense" so I have to break up with him.
@manojt2 (179)
• India
8 Jul 10
Hi, I would love too, but since I am from India, and here along with the boy and girl, the families of both are also bonded together in the wedding. Also we need to think of the future. Love is one thing and being practical is another. There are many differences in behaviour, eating habits, working habits, freedom of speech etc. which vary from culture to culture or religion to religion.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Jul 10
I am Puerto Rican and I live with a Caucasian wonderful man. I know it is not a major difference however there are some differences. Because we get along so well we often kid about the differences, but I can see how really different our beliefs are.
Because he is just a wonderful man for which I love dearly, I have found myself compromising certain difference. They are not fun sometimes but he too compromises to my beliefs so it sort of balances it out. In my Hispanic culture we are very overbearing with our children and families, whereas I have noticed Caucasians are not. It is not right or wrong for either but there is a great difference.
Hey that's funny we are both Libras, coincidentally so balancing is what it is all about. LOL.
Anyways he now jokes about it and says it's because he is Caucasian, and laughs so we have both learned that a stable and fun loving relationship is about compromising. Oh and the communication about the compromises is essential.
@Laurelle11 (409)
• Australia
8 Jul 10
I don't think culture or religion should make any difference at all. In the end it all comes down to the two people involved and how much they want to make the relationship work. If they don't both try to make it work, then it won't. There is a way around every problem if you try hard enough to find the solution.