what are the Best Tips for the Parents to make thier children Obedient

I think that if you want a child to behave then you should be persistant, aswell as if they are old enough to under stand the difference to right and wrong get them to tell you what they could have done rather than just saying what they have done.Never say something to them of how they are going to be treated not unless you carry it out,ie you will not go out to play with your friends because what they had done and then give in and let them out as they will know that you will back down anyway.

I always stressed positive reinforcement when my kids were growing up. If they did something well, if they remembered to do something without being reminded, I always told them how happy or proud of them I was. I also used misbehavior as a teaching tool with them whenever possible. There were punishments but there was also discussion about whatever it was and my children were made to participate in the conversation because I would ask questions instead of simply lecturing them. So, they were the ones who explained why whatever it was was wrong, what they should have done, what they should do in the future.

a lot of issues with children being disobedient is that many parents really don't discipline and if they do they are not consistent. If you tell a child not to do something you need to stick with it. Letting an issue be ok to do one thing one minute and then later it is not ok that kind of thing confuses a kid. I don't believe that you always have to spank a kid in order to get them to listen but sometimes it is called for different children respond differently to different types of discipline. Time out works for some kids and some kids do need to be spanked on occasion. Also leading by example is another way to make children listen. If you tell your kids not to do something but you do it you are not setting a good example they will sometimes think if my parents can do it then why should I listen. Needless to say there are many ways to make your child obedient I just listed a few ways that may work.

It is called teaching them the power of the BELT...Discipline is the key...

My teacher taught about the 'reverse psychology' treatment in children. She said that some parents treat their children in this manner. For example, you are very kind to your children. 'Kind' - you give everything that they want, do anything that they want, and you never scold them. Once they grow up, your kind attitude will be marked in their minds, and they will do everything not to disappoint you. So if one of your children failed in an exam, you should not scold them or treat them in a bad way. Just say, "Its okay. Lets eat dinner outside so you could feel better." And your child will feel guilty, because instead of scolding him, you still show your love and sympathy for him! And he will study harder for you. I think reverse psychology is useful for parents.

My kids are all teenagers now and it is not so much obedience as it is respect. I ask them to do something and they do it. When they were younger I taught them by example. As a single mum it was not an easy thing to teach my sons but they knew once I said to do something they had to do it or I would take their toys away until they did it. I never punished them for not doing what I wanted but explained why they should be doing it instead and managed to build a relationship with my kids based on mutual respect. I am very proud of my kids, they are not shy about giving their opinion but they are always polite and respectful. You can't make a child obey as such but you can show them the way. Learn by example.