not easy to be a kindly man...

I understand such situation, i'm a kind of a person who like to help myself to do things, and easily do things for friends. I believe you're the same. But in a way, some guys think that such person is a 'low life' whom they could always asked to do things all the time. I always get the positive side and make my own smile, like this one.. "..ooh man, you're gonna die fast without me around!" and if there are any dislikes when u said that, i know you could always smile larger.. You are great man, just make your life go easy, if it go the other way around, speak your mind, but speak as a gentleman.

I think it is very important to be focus, and I mean knowing exactly what you want and WHO YOU ARE. Being kind and 'mr. nice' is good, but too much of anything can never be good at least in my opinion. Having said that, I'd say, your life is yours and choices in your life is 'yours' to choose. Using sentiment to live life is exhausting and will never benefit you in the long run. Just be good and be true to yourself.

when you show all your kindness to anybody either new acquaintances or friends it result abuse. Many people abuse your kindness. I already show this to many people but the end I realized, I should not act like this or like that because this will take opportunity on your weakness. I refrain now for being so kind to anybody. I am good to anybody but limited only specially to my fellow associates. Refrain in doing this because as you said it's not easy to be kind.

I used to be like that before. I do everything to please all people around me to the point of making my self suffer and doing sacrifices which made me miserable in the end. However, I learned a lot. Sometimes you also have to learn to say "NO". No matter how hard you try to be nice all the time there are people that will never be pleased at you. The bad thing also about being nice always is that people tend to abuse you specially if you would just say "YES" always. The people who care for you and really love you and your real friends will always stick with you even if there are times you have to say "NO" to them. They would understand. So don't try pleasing everyone. Just do your thing as long as you're not doing any harm to other people. If you would remain silent and would just smile even if other people are already taking advantage of you they would continue to do so. You can be nice and modest to everyone but still say "NO" or react when you feel abused.

It is also not so tough also just be in your sense and listen to what other says that all then ull be a kind man..

i'm not a man, but i feel for you. i think i've experienced something like that in my elementary years. it was when some of my classmates use me because of my being a "smarty-pants". i hated it. and i wanted to defy them by saying no, but then i still did what they asked. and now, i really regret. i should've called them dumb and useless :)) HAHAHA. just kidding. well, i think one can cope with that situation by just rejecting them in a nice manner. but if that doesn't work, you should start being a little harsh. do it gradually and see if it works.

my best friend used to be like allow people to walk all over him then he started to hang out with me. and now he dont allow them to walk all over him. you need to stand up for yourself bro, there is a thing being to nice. need to learn to say no and dont take things off of those who treat you wrong. i also like being kind to everyone but i dont and will not take anything off anyone no matter who they are or who they think they are

This world is a place where you have to use your skill,commonsense and what not to survive with the society. If you are angry every one curses us,and if we are polite,loving and kind they take the undue advantage of this good quality. [b] So not being rude not loving to every one we should tactfully lead the life depending upon the situations we are presently going through....[/b

This world is a place where you have to use your skill,commonsense and what not to survive with the society. If you are angry every one curses us,and if we are polite,loving and kind they take the undue advantage of this good quality. [b] So not being rude not loving to every one we should tactfully lead the life depending upon the situations we are presently going through....[/b]