What's first: "Marriage or Baby?"

well, personally I would prefer to go for a marriage.. I broke up with my ex simply he doesn't wanna get married! he wants an open relationship and that is not what I really want! I want a stable family upon which we can have a baby but not the other way around...

Marriage first then baby. When a person marriage then she become mature and can understand one family's necessary or situation though exception is happen. So i believe at first people should marriage then take a baby. This is also my culture.

It depends. If you are young you need to marry and do it right. Although kids today don't seem to see it that way. A child coming into the world needs both parents on board for the long haul. This seems to be a nearly rare thing now days. A kid deserves to have nurturing from two responsible people or there should not be a conception at all.

i'm still pretty old school and for me getting married should be first after all a marriage is the contract between you and your partner and the baby is the lifelong investment :D if you have the baby first, your partner could opt to back out because they don't really have any contract with you in the eyes of men and god

afcose marriage 1st if you live in india you need to marry 1st if you didnt marry and make you gf pregnant than you will go in deep trouble because indian law says if you did that than you will be in jail to rape that girl :D this thing will cald rape here even if girl was ready to sleep with you so marriage 1st its good for baby also he will feel good when he become big

I think first is trust lover, then a professional firm, marriage and baby. Because we really love to share new lives together everyone happy on this life size. A professional firm will help feed our shelters.

Marriage comes first.. Getting married in front of 1000 people in a marriage hall , getting blessed by all must be done first in all circumstances.. Having baby comes next.. Here, having a baby before marriage is illegal .. u cannot say he is ur husband and live with a man without getting married to him...It is considered to be a crime ...

for guarantee children's rights will be protected in law, preferably before getting a child, you should get married first. Getting a child before marriage, in the end will only hurt you and the child, because it could be a child will only have a civil legal relationship with the mother, has no civil relationship with the father so that someday soon, it will be difficult to hold accountable the Father

To spare you the confusion, get married first before having a baby. So what if the Philippines is the only country that takes marriage seriously? I'm proud of that. Ever wonder why the world is turning into a hell on earth? Because people don't value morals anymore. If you don't have the guts of tying the knot to one person forever, then you are not mature enough to become a parent.

I would prefer marriage first and then baby. I have been married for 2 years now and iam enjoying married life. By December we shall plan for a baby.

I think so many people these days are all about what is in it for me and if you can't give me what I want you can leave. It is sad because the ones who suffer are the children. I am in the US adn it is just getting crazy. I really think you should marry before having children. I have been married since 19 and when I got married everyone thought it was becasue I was pregnant. But that was not the case at all, we loved each other and wanted to get married. We are still married and at 28 we had our first child. We have had troubles in our marriage but instead of just giving up we work on it. Marriage is not always easy and I think that is why a lot of people don't do it. They just want the easy way out. We need to learn to be a couple again and work as a team and not against each other. It should not be me against women we need to work together and be a real family unit. It gives children a more stable life. I am just tired of you should do everything for me because I am a woman, I can be cranky or anyway I want and you should accept it. Or you can't tell me that is a womans job. I am a proud wife and mother and I did it in that order.

I believe that marriage is sacred and it should be the first priority before having a baby. Of course we need to plan everything before decide. Other people I know, because of health disorder, they chose to have baby first to make sure that they won't end up into nothing when they get married.

Who doesn't want to get married after all? I'm not old-school and I'm not into making baby first either. For me, whatever relationship status you have, whenever you have baby, need to got marriage or want to stay living-in, the most important is that you love each other honestly and truthfully. ;)

I think it's more rational to marry first, so our baby life can be guaranteed, not economically, but emotionally :)

Now a days most people I know don't bother to get married. I am 53 years old and I can say that at least 90 per cent of the people I know, couples, aren't married to each other and don't plan on getting married. Marriage seems to be very unimportant these days. Living common-law is the same as being married, according to the law. After living together for 6 months the law and government looks at you as married. For example, if you live together and don't file your taxes as commonlaw marriage and you get caught, you are in for a lot of trouble. I know from experience. Believe me, you don't want to fool around with it. The government doesn't take kindly to people that try to hide things like that. And they don't believe you when you tell them you didn't know you had to claim together as married. I didn't but that didn't matter to them. We ended up paying $25,000 in fines and interest and $22,000 in back taxes. Sorry, got a little off the topic there. Most people don't seem to get married anymore and I am single right now but would like to get married again one day, I am a little old fashion that way. Have a good day, your friend Chris

I think the childhood song of "first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage" is how it should be but alas, many people do not think this way. I believe that you should get married and then have a child, there are so many obstacles that people have to deal with when its done in reverse order. I'm not saying its wrong but I think a lot of problems would not exist if people used some common sense about life.

I'm bothered by this discussion. When I came into this world, my mom was a teenager and my dad got married. I had a great childhood, but my mom's life was kind of hard. When my sister got pregnant with my nephew she married too. But my friend has a little girl and she lives common law with her spouse. Neither one of them wants to marry either. She does everything for him and he can't give her the one thing that would make her world more secure. He actually makes threats about not marrying her.

ha..ha...your name is so funny... so wpp.I've the same opinion...actually these are part of customs we made... If the people who made those customs...made it the other way...then...now things would be different.. and everyone will think baby is must before marriage.. and to tell there will still be rule breakers around...its human nature.... thanks for the topic..... have a great day/night.....

I would like to say children after marriage, but often things take an unexpected turn and some guys will run a mile. Realistically, if both parents are committed, a child may have a better chance in life than in some poor marriages- both my parents have divorced twice. This probably caused more trauma- lawyers and so forth, than a break in an unmarried relationship.

It's really sad that a lot of young people nowadays are not that responsible when it comes to relationships. They think having a baby is easy at a young age. Ideally, a couple should build a solid relationship based on love for each other and they should be financially, emotionally and spiritually ready when they get into marriage. And then they plan having kids. I'm not saying that those who had kids before marriage are bad because things happen. But if we are to do it the right way then marriage first before kids.