Will you allow your family members to response or participate on behalf of you..

@Jotomy (6322)
India
July 17, 2010 12:09am CST
Hi friends, my sister's daughter is so interested to read and response to mylot discussions. Whenever she comes here she will go through this site and she spent most of the time in mylot. When suddenly i got a phone call or i have to attend my family members or friends while i am in mylot i will just leave it there itself, at times she ask me to allow her to participate in mylot on behalf of me. I am not that confident on her because she is too young to give responses. If any of your family members ask you to participate on behalf of you will you allow them to do ? if so, do you feel insecure about your reputation here? Share with me....
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@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
I won't allow my daughter to participate in mylot on my behalf. Aside from she is still young, of course you don't have the same opinions or ideas with a certain discussion. I am also afraid that I might get negative comments if she will have something negative or bad opinions in mylot. Besides, I am not sure if minors are allowed already to join here in mylot.
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
17 Jul 10
You have to be 16 or over to have an account on MyLot. http://www.mylot.com/o/terms.aspx
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
17 Jul 10
Hi dian21, yes i too have that fear, she may give incomplete or irrelevant responses. Yes, minors are not that aware of all the problems and to suggest. But i saw here in mylot recently 16 years young children (one ex. is phionex, from Hyderabad) are doing very good, damn good ideas they have and the responses are really good. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
17 Jul 10
@owlwings, yes i will go through this link... thanks...
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
17 Jul 10
it's actually against guidelines to do so, and could get your account deleted if it was found out. I'd be careful not to let her respond to discussions as you, but if she's old enough she could always make her own account and start responding to discussions.
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
17 Jul 10
Actually the Guidelines don't say that, SomeCowgirl. They forbid more than one account per person (and the sharing of PayPal accounts) but they say nothing about 'more than one person per account'. It would, however, be likely to create confusion and an 'atmosphere of deceit', so I think that it may be one of the things that Admin would look at critically. There was a user a while ago who shared her account with her boyfriend (so that some posts were obviously from a female point of view and others were from a male point of view) and I seem to recall that that account was deleted but whether it was for that or for other things, I don't know.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
17 Jul 10
Hi somecowgirl, yeah i am afraid about this, my account may be deleted, she comes to my house in the holidays or sundays. If i am busy she wanted to participate in mylot, i will ask her to just read but not to write. Thanks for your sharing. Have a wonderful day. @owlwings, thanks for your nice information...
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
17 Jul 10
Although it is not specifically mentioned in the Guidelines, I think that to allow someone else to use your account would be confusing and could lead to misunderstandings. MyLot might decide that the account was being used improperly. How old is your niece? If she is under 16, she is too young to legally have her own MyLot account and it would be wrong, therefore, to let her use yours. You should also be careful (depending on her age) about letting her browse MyLot using your account if you have allowed 'mature content' in your settings. As for being 'too young to give responses', I have known 9 and 12 year olds (on other forums) who have contributed excellent questions and answers so I would never automatically say that they were too young! The solution might be for you to type any response she wants to make but to make it clear that it is your niece's opinion ("My niece has read this discussion and wants to say ... " or "My niece, aged xx, thinks ... "). I think that would certainly not be against the rules and could well bring an interesting point of view to some discussions. Incidentally, it is possible (and acceptable) for one user to make more than one response to a discussion. It doesn't increase your user rating but you do earn for it in exactly the same way as for any other participation.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
17 Jul 10
This is from the Terms of Use: "You are entirely responsible for maintaining the confidentiality of your password. You agree not to use the account, username, or password of another member at any time or to disclose your password to any third party. You agree to notify myLot immediately if you suspect any unauthorized use of your account or access to your password. You are solely responsible for any and all use of your account." http://www.mylot.com/o/terms.aspx
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
17 Jul 10
Hi diana, how are you. Thanks for sending me the link. I will go through this. Yes, i agree with you, we must keep our password confidentially. Have a wonderful day.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
17 Jul 10
No, I don’t think it is appropriate and I don’t see Admin being too pleased with the idea! I would not let anyone else work on my account here because I am rather possessive of it (LOL) and I think it would be somewhat deceitful to other users if someone else was to post on my behalf. If your niece is young I would suggest she wait until she is a little older. I know that 16 is the age limit on this site but I wonder at times whether it would be better to change it to 18 but having said that I am sure that younger ones would just lie about their age anyway.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
17 Jul 10
Definitely Paula!When I see your name in a discussion or the names of certain other friends , I immediatley go there and see what this friend of mine has written. I would associate the response with Paula or Deepak or Kiran or some good friend of mine.I would not like to read someone else's reply as yours. In fact I also feel that we would have our distinctive touches in our responses.Don't you think so?
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
18 Jul 10
Yes I agree for sure, besides MyLot is MY thing (LOL)!
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi paula, Yes she is just 16 years old, but she is so good in writing, still i will not allow her to participate in mylot, she used to read the discussions, responses and comments. She is very eager to participate. After 2 years i will create an account for her. Thanks for your nice response. Have a good day.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 10
I'm not going to let anyone use my account to respond discussion. I would suggest to make your own accounts, if the age is too young to use the name of the parent. It would be better. Because for me Mylot is a place where I took out the opinions of my mind not from someone else, although people close.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
17 Jul 10
Hi indahfth, yeah we have our own ideas to write. Its true we may not be satisfied with the others opinion some times, matters related to life, marriage, divorce, health, parenting, etc., Thanks for your sharing. Have a good day.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
17 Jul 10
Sweetie, do you have any idea how i have to fight my nephew of my chair when i dare move while mylotting? He know i won't allow him to post any comments. But, he is always trying his luck. I won't allow it and i won't like it at all. TATA.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
18 Jul 10
Sweetie, i cannot let my nephew loose on mylot. He will surely drive everyone nuts here. He is actually worse than me.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
18 Jul 10
Hi saphrina, yes me too, but my sister's daughter is very interested... she is not even 16 years old. If your nephew is interested you can ask him to open an account know... Thanks for sharing, have a nice day.
28 Oct 10
Not really. My wife used sometimes post on here although she always signed the posts, I did suggest that she creates a account but she's not really into that idea. She mostly just wanted somewhere to talk, as most of the sites she users people generally bash each other and she doesn't really enjoy that.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
30 Oct 10
Hi joey_mathews. Welcome to my discussion. Yes she can open an account and participate here in mylot. This is like chatting/discussing. I think she definitely enjoy this site. She can make good friends over here. She can post the topics which has interest and get the opinion from the members can gather information what ever she likes. I give warm welcome to her to mylot. Thanks for your response. Have a good day/night.
• Australia
20 Jul 10
I wouldn't be able to do this because I would like to know exactly what is going on & what is written...If I had someone who wanted to write on my behalf, I would just give them my referral link & tell them to join up for their own account.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
20 Jul 10
Hi moonchild1au, yes you can do like that, can give referral link or introduce to this site, so that they will have their own account. Thanks for your sharing. Have a wonderful day.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
20 Jul 10
No, I would never do this. First of all, I don't want to be responsible for anything that anyone else posts in my name. Second, I am about the only one around here that has any true writing ability. LOL My wife used to write poetry, and she was pretty good at it, but she hasn't done any writing in a long time...
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
20 Jul 10
Hi goldeneagle, yes there is a risk if we given our account to some one... you can give your referral to this site, she can open an website (whatever she writes, blog, poetry etc., ) can attach to this site and can earn money.. I am not fully aware of such program, you can find out with other members here. Thanks for your nice response. Have a wonderful day.
• United States
21 Jul 10
Probably not because myLot is my thing and nobody else in my family does it. Besides, I don't speak for any of them so why would I let them speak for me. It doesn't mean that they wouldn't agree with me on some stuff but we are all independent thinkers until we collaborate and agree on something. Still, my presentation of my thoughts would not be the same as somebody else.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
21 Jul 10
Hi gitfiddleplayer, yes most of the members are given the same response as they are not fully secured to allow some one to participate in mylot on behalf of them. Every body is concerned about their reputation here. I too agree because this site is some thing different from other sites, i can say it is reflection of our life rather. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@nangisha (3495)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 10
Hi Jotomi!. I don't think I will allow any one to answer on my behalf. Luckily in my house its seem no one interesting in this site. My mom and daddy only use computer to play game, my sister and brother use the internet for browsing and facebook. So in my house I had mylot all for myself.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi nangisha, yeah most of the members said this, they will not allow anyone to participate in mylot on behalf, they are much cautious about the reputation over here. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
actually i have been thinking of it,cause sometimes i just leave my computer to my sisters younger than me,but they never wanted to try responding cause of other stuffs to do online.sometimes i felt like they have been reading my posts here,which i don't want them to see.but i know,they don't have much time to do that.and for me,it's still better to post for myself rather than having family members also joining in the discussion wherein they are using your names here.yeah,it might seem like your reputation would go down if some posts they make are too bad for others.and for one reason,why would you let them respond when it is not right.how will you react if someone had commented on to those posts you weren't able to make yourself.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi annavi, yes everyone will be busy in their work. It is true, they may not do justification to the post. Thanks for your nice response. Have a good day.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
yes, you are both correct there. different people has different attitudes or behaviors or even reactions to things around them. So, having other people to handle our posts in here can lead to misunderstandings with others who don't have any idea who's who really is they are talking to. It's still better to have different accounts if they like to join in here. But like you lily, I don't like my family members to see or read my posts in here for there are also things I post which I don't post or say to them in person.
• United States
18 Jul 10
No one responds on my behalf and or gives me suggestions at all. I normally respond to a discussion when I know I have something to contribute. When I just do not have anything to contribute I will not respond to a new discussion. Does your sister's daughter have a PC, maybe she can sign up as your referral, now there is a thought...
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi hardworkinggurl, no my sister's daughter don't have pc, she is too young to participate. I will introduce to this site when she will get eligibility. thanks for your response. Have a good day.
• United States
27 Sep 11
Sadly I have a great many who are addicted to the net, but none are interested here, not even to help me out.
@hucker21 (67)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
My wife also has interest in what i do here and in other money making site but i ask her to please don't attempt to do so since whats in here mind is different from mine, which may create some conflicts in the long run. She also has interest in photo tagging job in one of my money making site but she can't rate and identify a product the way i do so from now on all she do in my PC is social networking with her coworkers and old friends when I'm away or sleeping.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi hucker21, welcome to mylot, yes i agree that each and every person will have their own ideas and views. It is nice to hear the interest she has. If you don't want to participate in your account then you can keep your password confidential. Since she is major she can also open a separate account and participate. Thanks for your nice sharing, have a wonderful day.
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
I wont allow anyone, whether its a family or a friend of mine to respond on my behalf to discussions coz we each have our own opinions towards a certain subject, and even if we do share the same views, i still wont allow it coz the manner in answering the discussion would be different, since he/she is the one answering it, not me. So i would just suggest him/her to just create his/her own account. Of course, i'll say it in a nice way so that he/she would not be offended.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi dierdre, i agree that each have their own opinions on different different issues, so times our view may not be matched to their views / opinions, it is difficult to accept their responses. Thanks for sharing. Have a good day.
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
IS SHE TOO YOUNG TO BE A MEMBER. If she can then let her be a mylot members. Its nice to have her here. But me personally, I dont want other people to answer in my behalf. Even my family members I dont want them to answer for me. This is a personal thing and their minds is different from my own.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi there, yes she too young, after 2 years i will ask her to open an account on her own. Thanks for your sharing. Have a nice day.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
18 Jul 10
I definitely would NOT have anyone participate as me. No one has my thoughts or feelings but me. Even if someone were to ask me what I would say, there is no guarantee they will only do what I would do.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi canellita, our feelings and thoughts are different from others, they can't give response as we want and which may give confusion who is talking.... Thanks for your sharing. Have a nice day.
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
No I wouldn't allow any family members to participate in my behalf. It's like invading my privacy.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi mercedlegurpa, thanks for your response. Have a good day.
• China
18 Jul 10
It depends who is that person and what is the relationship between us. And how he/she will take my works. Then may be i will allow or not.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi dreamsharmin, Yes it is true, i have seen one of our mylot member (Balu Yadav) met with an accident so he is unable to write, he took his son's help and participated in mylot. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
@Memnon (2170)
18 Jul 10
Dangerous territory I would think. She is answering in your name, and others may think it's you who have done, which could cause confusion. I would get her to open an account in her name- therefore we will be more likely aware of her age (thinking of mature content etc. if she is 'young for her age'). Since she is interested it would seem a shame to dissuade her. What does your sister think?
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Jul 10
Hi Memnon, i totally agree with you, it makes confusion if some is writing on behalf of us. Yes there is mature content also here that is why i didn't encourage her to be here in mylot, but some of the discussion are very interesting and worthy to read those i will allow her to read and know.... Thanks for your good response. Have a good day.