What will you do if you feel you are no longer loved?

No. I can't speak for most men, only some Aussie blokes in my experience. Some, at various stages of "maturity", for want of a better word, will got to a lot of effort (they feel) to "win" a lady over & then feel that once the chase is over, they can relax; resting comfortably in the knowledge that they will be together until one of them breaks it off. That was mainly the way in the days before email, etc caught on, but old habits die hard for some. I don't do this myself, nor endorse that sort of behavior. My point is, there may be many reasons for his apparent inaction & the best solution is to ask, rather than assume & take it from there. Thank you for your response.

From your point of view, is that really the attitude of most men, feeling comfortable when they know someone loves them, and they made no effort at all?

Loving someone is not a stupid thing to do since love is the most wonderful feeling. However, letting him break up with you is the stupid part. Making him feel that you love him a lot is more than enough to make him love you again. But if you are still unsuccessful to win him back then break up with him. What is the use of sticking to a one sided relationship? There are a lot of men out there. You don't have to beg. Set him free so that you will also be free; free from worries and heartaches in the future. It's better to be hurt now and move on than to keep on hurting yourself. Good luck girl. love yah..char

Love is a great think and I think everyone should take advantage of it. I agree with you and everyone els should to, who would think love is stupid? I also agree with you that she should of not let him brake up with you, that is jsut bull. I also think your right about people moving on, so that sums it up. You have everything right my friend.

I've been through this exact sort of thing with my wife. From my point of view, there were a lot of things I was being forced by her into doing that were detrimental to my health & well-being & I felt I had good reasons to object to. I'd lived my life quite independently before & we married later than most. So, not only is there going to be a sense of feeling taken for granted, personal laziness on his part or possibly not being aware of his responsibilities, but there's also a tendency to blame ones partner solely for problems in the relationship. I didn't think a lady was capable of the physical violence my wife used against me on a number of occasions in our early years of marriage, but I refused to retaliate, to play the blame game & also refused to divorce her... I knew it was not the answer. We knew we could live without each other, but realized that we were much better off together & it would be more productive to build on everything we'd achieved together than to throw it all away. True love is more than just looking into each others eyes; it's more about looking in the same direction. There is a power in unity & a combined spirit of doing things that is really worthwhile giving everything for. I found through a common goal of renovating our house to really appreciate her good qualities in a way that I knew paying money to professionals couldn't cut it (been there years before). It didn't matter that I was doing 100% of the physical work, or what anyone else thought of us; we had each other & that's all we had. We've been renovating for the past two years & still have more work to do. I think we should look for our partner's good qualities; really make an effort to dig them out & put them to good use. Part of my training at college was in negotiating, which is really about creating a situation where we each get what we really want / need. Every discussion we have, sometimes deep into the night, we resolve to our mutual benefit. I hate arguments & want them over & done with in 5 seconds flat, but it's much better to talk & end up happy & tired than to live your life with someone who hates you. I wish you well in your fight for your marriage. It's truly something worth fighting for. I have no plan for you to follow. You two will have to come up with one that works best for you both. If you can work on things that unite you, rather than focus on those that divide you, whilst allowing each other the time & space to express individual flair, then you will win in the end.

I guess that is what I should do but it is much easier than done.