Borrowers Keepers?

I am big on always returning anything I have borrowed from my neighbors and my friends. However many people are not as thoughtful. I have a DVD I loaned a neighbor over a year ago, that not only did she forget to return, she now lost it. I recently lent some jewelry to a friend of mine, I have asked for it back a few times, but to no avail yet. I don't want to be a bad friend and stop lending things out but I feel like if I don't stop lending things out, I am not going to have anymore things to lend.

I've learned throughout the years not to give anyone anything that I want back. Sometimes they do it without thinking but the majority of people just don't give stuff back. We had people over for the 4th of July and this girl had 5 girls. I gave her some sweaters and a blanket that night that I knew I wouldn't miss. My daughter on the other hand took out this white sweater she could have still worn. I wanted to take the sweater off the little girl and give her another one. I haven't seen them since. I thought out of courtesy they'd come back but no they didn't.

That reminds me of a neighbor my parents used to have. She would borrow a baking pan, and say she'd bring it back the next day, and she never did. I remember her coming over and asking to borrow the cinnamon around Thanksgiving. She actually said not to worry she would bring it back. She never did. The same thing happend later with a tub of butter. A tub of butter! You'd think she would one day look in her fridge, and think hey, I don't remember buying that butter. It must not be mine! lol My mom never asked for any of it back. She didn't want to make a fuss. But if it had been something important, I'm sure my mom would have said something. If I had been you, I would have gone up to her and mentioned it. You're nicer than I am.

Hi Candy! I think it would really depend on who's borrowing that's a bid difference. I do the same borrow wear and never return, it's not that I don't want to but I just love the shirt so I don't return it. ^^ the one I borrowed it from is okay with it so no trouble really. ^^

Well this happened to me also. One of my neighbors never return my daughter's Biology book, when I asked for it, she told me she already returned to my daughter to which my daughter deny. I had a feeling at that time that she'll not return it. Then somebody told me that this lady is kinda kleptomaniac. Until now I never talk to her anymore. And the nerve she's telling people bad things about me. Well I don't mind, anyway the karmas are striking her and her family. I'm happy that God reminds her but I think she does not have any conscience.

Well all i can say is that try to realize the respective person that what he/she had done by humorous way and wittiness .. definitely it will work

I have this problem with many people in my family and with some friends. They borrow things and "forget" to return them. I hardly ever borrow anything but when I do I use it for what I need it for and return it as soon as possible. I hate borrowing anything. I will usually wait until I can buy the item for myself to use it.

Hi candyfairy21, This has happened to me a thousand times at least. OK, I'm exaggerating a bit, but trust me, I have been through this lending and not getting back system ever since I went to school. I have lost many pencils and erasers from my junior school to some good notes and textbooks upto a watch an year ago by lending it to friends. Most of the time, I feel ashamed to ask back the petty stuff. I asked back the watch, of course, but the guy lost it and promised to pay me half the price- only to disappear forever. Some friendships break just because of lending and not getting back. Some good relations get torn because you ask something petty back and you don't get it. So I decided not to lend things these days and I learnt to say 'No!'. It's difficult, but now, I'm kinda used to it. It was a pleasure responding. Happy mylotting. Reards, AJith.

There are times that I would forget to return the things I borrow but I never wear them outside. When I have time I would return the stuffs to them. I don't like that it would happen to me. I want that my borrowed items would also be returned to me.

There is an old saying: "Neither a borrower nor a lender be." I've borrowed things in the past, and I've lent things in the past, but I really try to avoid it. I always return things, although it may take awhile, and I've lent things I've never seen again. The problem is, borrowing and lending is a good way to ruin relationships. There asre bound to be hard feelings on one side or the other. Best to just avoid the situation in the first place.

Yes, it happened to me as well, and then I usually remind the person until they return the things they borrowed, even if it gets a bit uncomfortable. So if this happened to me, I would definitely approach the friend and ask her to return the top as soon as possible. I wouldn't mind doing it in front of other people either!

I remembered my friend because of this discussion! She always borrows a pen from me, and I mean always like everyday and she doesn't give it back! I don't mind really, I just find it funny that she forgets to return it. My brother also does that. He borrows a shirt from me, then it would stay in his closet forever. It's annoying sometimes because you couldn't use the things you want to use because they were borrowed and never returned. But I would just forget it and just be amused with the situation.

i get super annoyed