Should I use Facebook to know what's happening in my daughter's world?

I announced to my boys that I was getting on face book. I had to beat them off my laptop getting me hooked up with them, their friends, my nieces, nephews, etc. etc. Don't let them fool ya, these boys are wild cats! Why they aren't in jail I do not know. They're more mature than what they reflect at home.

I do it. It is a great way to keep up to date with their world. I actually have my sons password since I have so much trouble with him. Same for email. He is 16 now. My daughter just turned 18. I monitor her sites but do not ask for the password since she never gave me cause to be concerned.

I don't think you are a prying dad. So much happens now days online one must be concerned and interested in all the activities and whom your child associates with. I don't see anything wrong with it especially if she helped set your account up for you and is your "friend". Always good to know who they associate with and what's being said. Afterall alot of times there's more going on online than parents know about including bullying.

If your daughter has welcomed you there, sure, go ahead and keep up with what she's doing. It's not as if you're stalking her...

Well i think you should. i am 20. i love it when my dad shows interest in my life, my friends, my career, my studies and everything. i love it when he asked me to join online. its great. today's kids love to see that their parents are not outdated. they want them to be cool and modern. they want them to give them space when required. be an active person online. try to be friends with her friends. ask her to tell you more about them. ask her about today's gadgets like ask her how to use new technology. since you two will communicate, she will like that and she will also love to help you. even you would come to know about her caliber. involve he like daily routine. but remember don't act like a security guard always keeping an eye on her. give her required space. else she will get pissed off form you.. best of luck with it.. happy parenting..

Hi Chuwarbill, I admire you for your concern for your daughter, not all fathers do or feel the same way for their teenage kids. I think that's a good idea, to be aware of your daughter's activities by going into her "world" without her feeling alarmed that you are snooping on her privacy. My 11-year old son asked if he could have a facebook account coz most of his classmates have, but I told him there's an age requirement before one can sign up, and he's not qualified yet. But when the time comes when he can open his own account already, I would ask him too to include me in his friends list. This is a good way to know the kind of friends he has, and maybe the kind of interests that he's got into, and whatever is going on in his teenage life.

Hi Chuwarbill, I think it is a great that you and your daughter can share Facebook. You are a very lucky Dad to have a daughter that wants you to be a part if her life. Personally, I am a facebook addict and have found so many friends and relatives and I love it that my nieces and nephews want me to get involved on their facebooks also. It is a great way to communicate when you can't of don't talk to them directly. For some reason many of the "kids" feel like they can put their true thoughts and feelings in a post than to say them out loud. So, at least good or not so good, you will know what is on your daughter's mind and what is going on in her life. Like you said, just try not to "stalk" her and invade her privacy. I have also learned that if she is experiencing a rough time and posts it on her facebook, then try to keep it there on facebook and ask her if she needs anything like advice or what ever. I made the mistake of talking to my niece about and issue she had posted and she got a little did not like that. She knew I knew because I posted a comment, but that is where it should have stayed...on facebook. To be a good Dad, do not mind your own business! Stay in touch and up to date whatever way you can. It is great she wants you to do that too! Have fun and enjoy your daughter!

I would say be careful, but that if she seemed to be accept helping you set up a facebook that all should be okay. I don't think it'd be wrong to pry as long as you don't let her find out, then again if you think something you might find would compel you to confront her it might not be a good idea.

no its nothing wrong with it, its a good thing to know what your 15 yr old is doing on the net and who she's talking with. there is too many creeps out here. you are just doing what so many more parnets should be doing.. when my daughter was 15 i told her i wanted to know her passwords for her aol, myspace and facebook or not computer

Well, my mom does the same, and although I admit I kinda censor my status and thoughts now as compared to before, but I really don't have anything to hide, so I don't mind if she looks at my profile or my friends or even officemates. Though maybe you could ask your daughter if she is okay with it, I mean, I think the best opinion would definitely come from her.

i get where you're coming at, but as a teenager myself, I wouldn't want my dad be my friend on facebook. It would be pretty awkward because your parent would know EVERYTHING that's going on. some things on facebook us teenagers don't want to talk about. It's kinda personal stuff. Like you don't want your parents to know every single thing that happening in your school. It's kind of a breach of privacy. If she's doing something wrong (like sneaking out or something like that), and you want to know what she's doing and why I could see making a facebook but any other way is kind of breaking the privacy line. If you are really concerned about her, you should make a fake facebook. Like put a common name and add her as a friend. But don't go overboard on it. Like just monitor her profile through it, that way she doesn't think someone is stalking her. Hope I helped

Some children do not want their own parents to be friends with them on Facebook. They say they do not want their parents to be nagging them on Facebook. So if you don't do this, I think you will be okay as your daughter's friend on FB.

if i was your daughter, i'd really prefer that you don't become my friend in facebook. :)))) but if you did add me, i'd still accept. there's a setting there in which you can just choose the people who can view your wall and stuff so there's no need to worry if i wanna hide a few stuff from you. hahahh.

you would have to check how comfortable she is with it first because my mom has been doing it to my sister and still till this day she doesnt know anything about what she hides from my mom like boyfriends and stuff down that line so if you think you gonna find anything that you didnt find before you will be lucky to but chances are you wont, yes you will be able to see what she does but probably she smart enough to show what she wants YOU to see

If your daughter accepted your friend request then she's obviously fine with the idea. I say go for it. Using technology to make yourself a better dad, yay!

Hello Mr. Chuwarbill, I think with lots of trust on your daughter, you can get rid of that, being a prying dad or a stalker dad. With or without Facebook you can give advices and continue to guide your daughter so that she'll grew up to be a good daughter and on the right path, but looking into her facebook is just one way to know what's happening outside your premises. There are people that don't want to be asked about stuffs in their life but once you get them to tell stories, they'll tell you everything. Maybe I could also suggest that if you really want to know her friends, or things happening in her world, set a date of inviting her friends over to your house. Have a snack or something and chit-chat with them. If you find her friends are good people then your daughter is on the right track because friends of the same feathers flock together. Have a blessed day. Ciao!

don't make her feel like you are doing that. If you she feels that way then she may back off and get mad at you. You need to know what's going and most people on face book will tell you that you need to monitor her website on there. You'd be surprised as to what happens behind the scenes on there.

Hi there I am in a similar position to you, I am 59 with a 14 year old son. It was my older daughters that invited me onto Facebook, they all live 60 - 70 miles away from me now so it's a way of keeping in touch. I tend to ignore my son's Facebook account as much as possible as he doesn't really like to be seen as having his Mum corresponding with him!! But it does give a little insight into his life

Very nice when our daughter to accept her parent become friend on her facebook so that we can know what happened to her and could share with us,unfortunately my daughter did not want to accept me as a friend on her facebook.

You could use facebook, but i suggest you hide your identity to you daughter. The tendency is when she knows, it might resort to a hawthorne effect, which is bad. If this happens, you see the real world of your daughter, instead it might probably see a make-believe world.