Have you ever said this?

May be he was in bad mood in that time . So you are annoyed by his words . Anyway you are still friends . Do not care about this trivial thing so much . It could hurt your friendship if you still remember this unpleasing thing . Do you think so ?

Sometimes parents are just in a bad mood or really angry with kids that they say stuff like that. Well, I don't have kids, and my mother never told me that. But she already told me that I hate here, and I want to destroy her life, because of my behave when I was younger. It really hurted my feelings, but I know she didn't mean that. I lived just with her, it was hard for her to be the only parent. But then everything got good. He didn't mean at, as my mother. He was really angry with his kids, or really stressed with them. It's bothering but, never mind it.

People would say such things especially when they are pissed they are just letting out their feelings but they don't actually mean what they are saying. Sometimes people would say this or that but after awhile they would realize that they are wrong for saying such things.

Naturally you know him better than anyone here can post to perceive. I think he is at his wits end and just does not know how to express his inner feelings. Give him time to cool off and please call and or meet with him and talk to each other as to what is bugging the both of you with life. He may realize that he is not alone. Surely he doesn't truly mean he hates his kids, I think what he really is saying is that he completely hates his life right now..

We are most of the time troubled and confused in life. We have a lot to do in a day. Sometimes big things doesn't matter and sometimes small things may lead to bigger problems. The friend that you are referring may have one such bad day. It happens when you are not feeling well or in a bad mood, things do come in such a way that other feels strange. So yes, it happens sometimes. Not a thing to worry about, after all we are humans.

No I don't recall saying that about my kids. I might say "I hate the things they do ...." Maybe you should ask him why he said that? The reason I say this is because there are so many family killings going on at times. I think people become frustrated. Just to have him vent or explain. Maybe he really is starting to resent family life for the moment.

Wow that is harsh. No I have never said that I hated my kids. Still with 33 years of parenting I will admit that I have in frustration said things that I don't mean. I have said that I am so tired of being a parent...things like that. And not to condone it or justify it because it is wrong. I am just saying that it can be a very overwhelming responsibility at times

Hi, aurorastorm. That is very awful for him to say about his own kids! I have never said that I hate my kids at all! I may say that they are getting on my nerves, or that I am getting tired of them running me crazy.. Yes, as I mom I get frustrated, but to say that I hate them, is mean! I hope that he does not hate them enough to where he harms them. Or do something terrible to them. I think that he should analyze his feelings before they get out of control, really.

Hi Aurora, NO, I haven't said anything like this to my kids. I don't think it's a good idea to lose grip of ourselves when with or around our own kids, they tend to mimic what we do when they become adults. I just hope when your friend said it he was NOT within earshots of his kids, imagine how this will affect them psychologically if the heard their dad say it.

I dont have kids yet but if I am going to have kids in the future. I am not going to do that. I think even though he didnt mean it, he's not suppose to say it cause its not really a very good thing. I would be hurt if my dad would say that.

At times when we are angry- or in this case more likely exasperated, we often use the first words that spring into our heads to express that. It might sound bad, but as you know that he does not hate them, chances are that he did not engage his brain in the same manner that he would have if talking to, say, a social worker. I have not got children, but I've used the expression with regard to some that I have worked with!

Nope that never happens to me, and I couldn't even think of me saying that awful words to my son. Even if I am already pissed of with my situation, or with lots of problems I couldn't say that. Children can sense what you really feel about them, they tend to keep distance if you keep on showing them that you dislike being with them, if that happens you may end up wondering why you children show less respect to you and wouldn't listen to. We should alway watch those words that we said to our kids or we will regret it someday. Have a blessed day!

i've never said anything like that because i don't have kids but if any one of my parents said that, i'd feel so awful. :( hope he didn't mean that for real.

Hate is a word we throw around alot. He doesn't mean it but he should really work on not saying that. I've said it but I try to censor myself.