ridiculous feeling; did you once have?

Hi Elysia, Welcome to mylot! I have never stumbled across anything like that but I imagine it would throw you for a bit. Just remember that those letters were in the past and you are the one that he is with now and that is what matters. I have saved letters and little momentos from past relationships. It has nothing at all to do with how I feel in the present and I'm sure that it doesn't with your boyfriend. If he was meant to be with her then he would be. I would say that after 4 years he would be more than ready to move on. It also could be that he had forgotten that those e-mails were even still there.

I have that similar thing maybe 7 years ago, when I saw some of the pictures of his ex-gfs. I was very shocked to find that he still kept all of the pictures/love letters of his ex. Most of his exes where really good-looking and I mean really beautiful, I kind of felt down, I have this jealous, angry, i don't know how to describe this feeling. He told me that when the right girl comes along he will then throw all of the pictures, I felt like" so you mean that you don't think that I'm the one? I was very angry and jealous. I even asked him to throw it away.. He kept on telling me that he doesn't want anyone to tell him to throw it away. He wants to do it at the right time, I really felt like he really collect all of these pictures to remind himself how lucky he was or something. And then there was this time that i felt tired of telling him to throw it away or burn it. I'm so tired that I don't even want to talk about it. And then One morning I learned that he already threw it away and ask her sister to burned it.. And another thing was that he actually threw it a long time ago. I just thought that his secret box where still full of pictures and old love letters. I learned that the box was already empty for a long time. His sister told me that he just wanted to do it when he knew he was ready, And her sister told me that he thinks that I was the one and he only wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I felt really good that day.. And yes after few months we got married.

I am 63 now but I can vividly remember the feeling you speak of only I was more than "a bit jealous". I could find something completely innocent in my husband's or before I got married my boyfriend's things and start imagining all sorts of things that weren't true. I think it stemmed from my terrible inferiority complex. I never thought I was good enough or pretty enough for anyone to love me best. I know I shouldn't have been snooping (before anyone goes off on me for that lol). God forbid if I found an unidentified phone number or a number with a female name on it. It's a pretty miserable way to live - feeling jealous and insecure all the time. My first husband was so bad to me that it just reinforced my insecurities. My husband now of 32 years finally convinced me I WAS pretty and worthwhile. It took me a long time to believe that. He is so good to me and I know he loves me very much. He has proved it in countless ways. I am very blessed to have him and I thank God for him. I used to be so terribly jealous of his old girlfriend because they were so in love. It would give me a pain in the pit of my stomach when I thought of it, a burning feeling. Ridiculous, I know. Yet I honestly could not help it. I really tried. I am sure my case was much more severe than yours, but, yes I how you felt seeing the emails. I can still feel how it was. Blessings to you both.....

I can relate to this. The feeling of knowing how they were in love before is so painful, it feels like you witnessed their love for each other. How each one of them care, flirt, and etc and you start imagining things when they were together. If your partner sweetness are the same with his/her ex's. Even if you know how your partner serious and in love with you, you still feel the pain and it was like their relationship was ended yesterday.

That is just memory,do you have the same thing? everyone has memory including good things and bad things! maybe you saw the beautiful words,but can you imagin how would you be if you see your guy was hurt? let your guy keep the beautiful memory and try to make better one with him.

Past is gone, lets live fullest to the present. Why to go again to past, which is never to come back again. I think it is useless to live in past. It is meaning less.

My partner kept an album where inside were his friends and his ex lovers. He showed it all to me and the story related to the pictures, once around the beginning of our relationship. I accepted it as I know for sure that he did not keep in contact with them anymore. What bother me most was hat he kept a picture of his lady boss, since he was working for her at the time. I was so jealous of that one picture...

Elysia, That was a part of his past, On that time they were so in love, but hello, that was four years ago, The important is today, You and him, understand and love each other, and one more thing, It so good to be in the present time than in the past.According to you they had no communication at all, so why you felt that way? In everyone relationship there is always a past and present in each life of that two people in relationship. The beat you can do is to take care that relationship as like you taking care a " a little child", so that,so that what ever happen,you can say to yourself " I've done my part" you have no to regret at all, all you have to do is to cherish tahe once ' You Know how to love a persn" that was an accomplishment.

Nobody can change his/her past what I suggest that you guys concentrate on your future together , all the best,

ridiculous feelings always linger in myself. cause I guess we still have that sanity to keep ourselves from being out of control. But just prepare for the worst, cause keeping them might bring disaster. LOL!

It happened to me about 6 months back. I just got a mail form my school fried to whom i have never talked in school and thereafter, but this time we were talking to each other about the school days i was surprised to hear so much about myself from her without talking to her in school days.. I cant understand what happened to me..