How good are you at goodbyes?

If I ever get to that place, where my son would take off and go to war, I think I would do the same as what you did. No long drawn out goodbyes. And preferrably from the base. But I would make sure that the few days he have before he leaves, I would spend it with him totally, and make it so memorable. Thanks lacieice.

On the contrary, I think it is rational. And just natural to feel that way, when saying goodbye to someone special. Although some do feel it more than others. Thanks for the response. And welcome to myLot.

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Hi warvial. What tangible thing were you referring in your response? Would it be the pastry that I made reference to? That would be something to remember someone by. Specially if the pastry was really good. Thanks.

Hi, tangible things as in anything which I can really hold on to so I can remembered that day when I looked at the item. For example, if I go for a movie, there are postcards for grabs, thus I will take a few piece home. And if I go for normal chit chatting sessions, I might just grab something that I can bring home to eat but I seldom enjoys perishable stuffs, thus, my house is quite packed with small items which either sits at home and collect dust, or it might become a gift for someone who has more use of it. For those moments where I am saying goodbye to someone, something perishable would work better for me though because I would feel sad to remember that day I said goodbye. (LoL, it's quite a complicated feeling)

Hi arystine. I feel I know you a bit better, and that I know that you do get emotional not only on goodbyes, but also on chapters in your life that end. But one thing I know is that these future chapters coming for you are indeed positive. Therefore, no need to dwell on the goodbyes and the 'ends', just the 'looking-forward' to the brighter future.

But isn't that too limiting? Not going to parties so that you could avoid goodbyes? But I like what you say though. Just say 'will be meeting soon' would focus on the future meet up, instead of the current goodbye. Thanks, and welcome to myLot.

Hi asliah! I think that's the only cure to the sadness that we feel when saying 'goodbyes'. When we go back and face our own normal and routine life. It gives us a distraction from the feelings. Thanks for the response!

As long as you get over it after a while. And you move on and that you let go. Even if it is someone close to you. Thanks for responding.

I guess when the person leaving is really special, and that you know your 'parting ways in your life', a short goodbye is not really good. It could really be very sad. Thanks for the response.

Hi libramie. I think you're more like me. A pastry is always needed to feel better after going through a sad goodbye. For me, it even doesn't matter if I was the one leaving or the one left behind. Thanks.

Native delicacy's (sic)... That could surely take the place of the pastries. Thanks!

Sorry to hear that. I hope you quickly recover though... I sent you an FR. I'm sure somebody already told you this. I wanted to help you improve your 'star-rating' here.

I think it is expected that when we're younger, goodbyes would be a little tough. And like you said, as we grow older, it gets better. It's not that we're getting used to goodbyes, just maybe handling it a little better. And like you, recovering much faster. Thanks for the response.

I guess if you did a 'heart-to-heart' with anybody the day before they leave, we don't have to be so melodramatic at the airport or bus stations, etc. And there is no rule against having pastries too when you're doing a heart-to-heart. Thanks for the response!

That seems to be the consensus here. Thanks for dropping by.

I guess, same here. If it is 'bad rubbish', I don't think I would have any problems saying goodbye. In fact, I don't even have to say anything. And then I could eat my pastry without any care in the world. Thanks Sarah.

"a Goodbye Kiss from a vivacious young woman" ...now, there is a goodbye worth having over and over again. That's an interesting view though barehugs. I can't say I look at goodbyes that way. Let me mull it over while I have a pastry.

I wish that too. But, I guess you've got to accept that for life to go on, or to progress, a tearful goodbye here and there couldn't be avoided. Thanks!

You mean you left your kitties? Who takes care of them when you're away? I don't see anything wrong with being sensitive. A tear or two would have to be expected during difficult goodbyes. It's almost lunchtime here, and you just reminded me of the pastry again. I'm getting hungry.

Yes, some of these goodbyes in life we don't have a choice. It's just part of life. And sometimes we do need them to make our hearts grow 'fonder'! Thanks for dropping by.

I guess that is just part of growing up, getting used to goodbyes. Specially the ones that are not forever. Also part of growing up is going to college. And accepting the goodbyes you've got to face in this near future is just part of it. Thanks for responding and goodluck!