Do you hate that your friend mess up the desktop settings?
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
July 23, 2010 10:50pm CST
I just hate that my friend always do that to me. I don't mind that he used my computer for browsing and searching. But he should ask my permission to download this and that, and not to change my desktop setting at all. It is the setting I like, not his. Finally, I couldn't hold that up, and I snap at him, I calmly explain that he shouldn't do that, it is my computer. Then he told me that is the best setting for me, and he download some free stuff, such as spam killer, and virus protector for my program. I appreciate his goodwill, but I know what I want for my PC, and it is my PC, not his. He shouldn't impose others to follow what he likes. Did I do it wrong?
14 responses
@abj163 (1037)
• India
24 Jul 10
none of my friend had done this with me....but if someone will do that i will surely get angry....may be i will scold on him but i will try to be calm and try not to hurt him.....you did the right thing you explained it calmly thats the important thing.....my friends always surf on my computer but they never changed my computer setting of anything and i am happy with that.........
happy mylotting
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
24 Jul 10
I should let him know that he should respect me, and I would do the same to him. Just think about, If I come to his house, and change his desktop setting, how would he react to it?
@rinouex369 (79)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
I believe everything can be talked out. Just let your friend know how you feel about all these and maybe he will understand. Maybe, he doesn't realize you are not comfortable with what he is doing or he has simply missed out some toilet trainings.
@wangbridge (11)
• China
25 Jul 10
A lot of my friend do this to me.I think they just "don't" know this is not his PC.At first i was angry and confused over the things that they did to my computer,the reason just like yours:they were not allowed to do this,it's my computer,at least they should tell me first. but sometimes they just don't understand,so in the end i'll just change it back after they left,i think it's quite a tiny little thing and not worth to be angry any more.
@prudent (314)
• India
24 Jul 10
No; you have done the right thing as I think.
I always welcome the suggestions from my friends regarding how I should use my stuffs. But it would be my own choice whether I shall implement it or not. Making change to someone's personal settings can't be appreciated at all.
@satylot (98)
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24 Jul 10
I dont want anyone to mess up with my desktop settings. Its a natural tendency of a person to change the setting according to it needs. As I say to my friends that use my computer as if its yours.
I will just be cool and try to avoid any harsh words.If he does it regularly i will just say him calmly to stop doing it.
@carbajosa (146)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
I get mad a little but I keep it in myself.
All Im doing is to use the computer again, and set up the desktop that I made AGAIN.
It happens everytime to me but I just cant get mad to my friend.
@ehsanji (503)
• Pakistan
24 Jul 10
MY PC is my personal computer. When you say personal. It means it should be personal. I don't let people use my PC, because I have some very personal data, and I wouldn't like somebody else using my PC and then going through my personal stuff at the same time. I actually hate it when somebody changes something in my PC. I don't know, how do you let people use your PC. Keep it personal buddy!
@moneymaker92 (394)
• United States
24 Jul 10
No, you definitely aren't wrong. I'd be really ticked off if someone messed up my stuff without my permission. It's your private property and your friend should respect that. He can always recommend something, but ultimately, it's up to you to decide if you're going to listen to his advice.
@gracielle (346)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
What you did was right, it was really annoying if that happens to me, it's like your friend don't respect your personal stuff. My husband does that to me a lot of times,it irritates me. We do sometimes have a small fight about it. What you want is different from what your friend wants, so your friend must knew & understand that. What if you does that to him the other way around, he might get mad too. Just always have patience & try to explain it him in a nice way. If ever he does it again to you. Good day, happy mylotting to you...
@carsocmaguinsay (417)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
little things oftentimes do bother me. but my friends knew what i don't want to happen. none of my friends does this to me and if ever there will be, it wouldn't affect anything in anyway... i guess you just need to explain to your friend that you don't want him to mess with your pc and also be gentle in telling him... you are friends no matter what.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Jul 10
we used to play pranks on our friends. While working at a call centre were supposed to loc the pc while we are going for a break or lunch. If we see any Pc while we are supervising the floor we used to change the fonts to Greek when the pc's are not locked and they used to have a hell of a time to put back the settings. They used to also end up exceeding their breaks and used to get stinkers from the Team Leaders.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
24 Jul 10
No, you did right. You told him what you did want. And that was for him or anybody else not to mess w/ your desktop settings. I understand what you mean completely, and i understand why you got upset w/ him. I haven't been in the situation where someone messed w/ my desktop settings. But i have been in another situation similar. Like when i let someone drive my car and they mess w/ my radio settings or when i get home and something out of my room is messing and i can't find it. those things are frustrating to me, and i hate that. so you're not along and you did right.
happy mylotting!!
Peace and Love!!
@pol1988 (4)
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24 Jul 10
Very true..your desktop setting or any other setting is a reflection of you personality and not your friends or any other persons out there. I share your pain man, There is this one time when I lend my laptop to a friend and told her not to touch anything and just use the word processor. When she returned it to me all of my icons were gone and most of my settings was turned upside down. I was so pissed off that I did not spoke with her for about 2 months.
@captinjack (788)
• China
24 Jul 10
of course,not. nobody like others deprive them of their right to control computer.
