Am i wrong?
By ladybugr2d2
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
United States
July 24, 2010 12:30pm CST
My boyfriend lives a state away and it takes a train and a bus for him to come see me. He comes to see me because i have to kids and at his place there is no room he lives in a 3 bed with 3 other room mats. Well he is'nt comeing down this weekend because he can only see me from like 11 pm tonight till like 4pm tomorow afternoon.This is all because his boss desided to call a meeting tomorow evning. If he doesn't come down i more then likely wont see him to next weekend.Am I being unfair when i keep asking him to come any way? I feel like he thinks it is'nt worth it. He says it's that he wants more time then that with me. What should i do? I hate this long distent relationship. But i want to be with him more then anything. we are so good to gether and he takes me the way i am. and loves my girls. i gesse i just feel selfish. Do you think i am?
7 responses
@zionsphere (673)
• United States
29 Aug 10
I don't think you are being selfish, but I think you may be giving him the impression that you are insecure.
Confidence in a woman is a HUGE turn on for a man. If I were you I would go ahead and make plans with some friends for the weekend. Then when you talk to him again, say something like. "I was really looking forward to seeing you this weekend, and I'm going to miss you like crazy. But it's ok..(insert name/names here) and I are going to go catch a movie." (or whatever you like to do).
This way he knows that you love him and will be upset about him not being there, but that you are also self sufficient and confident enough to survive a weekend without him. This will make him long to see you even more. :) Good luck!
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
29 Aug 10
well It turns out that we didn't see each other for two weeks. Know we live to gather. we want my doughtier to go to school here. lol but thanks for the advice.
@quocanh91 (25)
• Thailand
25 Jul 10
I think nobody is right or wrong! I think you should find some solutions for this problem. My suggestion is that you can persuade him to change his job that located near your house. I think if he really loves you, he can do anything !
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
25 Jul 10
He would but i live in a worse city and pland on moving anyway so we are going to move closer to were he lives now. I like it there. So much is better so things well work i know i just want to stop feeling bad and talk.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
24 Jul 10
Ok I see where you are coming from but I also see what he says. Is there anyone that can watch the kids while you go see him? whenever my ex came to see me he would take the kids to his parents for the time he would spend with me. It must take a lot for him to come see you; maybe you guys can take turns sometimes.
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
24 Jul 10
Well it's hard for me to find some one to take them both for a weekend good kids but it's to much for my mom and she is the only one who would take both. On top of that he likes the girls being around.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
3 Aug 10
Well this is common in love. Long distance can increase the true feeling of love. You are not selfish..thats true love.
@merma1267 (130)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
may i ask, can't you live together with girls in one house? nice if you both living together instead separately. One has to sacrifice in any relationship so that it work out at all.Man is the one who provide most for the family so you can't blame him to be near on his work. Can you find a house that you both living together?
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
25 Jul 10
Were working on that. We dicided that me and the girls are going to move with him. We just have to work out some details. I can't wait thou. He is in a hurry to. I gesse it just something we have to deal with right now.
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
25 Jul 10
One of the things that define successful relationships are those challenges that occur when we are seperated be it because of work or anything else. How many people do you know that have said, "he/she was not here enough and so i sought comfort elsewhere?" Becoming so stressed at missing a weekend will only harm the relationship i believe. It is best to enjoy the moments your together, accept the moments your not able to be together, and look forward to the moments when you will be together again. Focusing on something you have no control over will only produce negative results. Hope this helps.
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
25 Jul 10
It dose thank you. I love being with him. I would never want anyone els. I just miss him a lot i know it well get better. I'm so happy i found some one who i love this much and loves me as much as i love him. He is good to me and my daughters. I still amazed to how much my girls like him. Thank you.
@rose005 (254)
• India
27 Jul 10
I think you are not wrong because after having kids both parents should be there to guide them. You ask him to find one house their and if he can't find then tell him to find job where you stays. Ask him when he come next weekend and hopefully he comes.
