He Calls ME DUMB!!!

I think calling somebody dumb is rude thing itself. Calling your wife dumb is not only rude but it shows your mentality. That man needs to get educated, and needs to know how to respect a woman. Men like him are responsible for making the women think that all the men out there in the world are mean and rude. As you have mentioned, that woman is doing everything she can to keep him happy, and he stills calls her names, is the meanest thing ever! If I was there, I'd have punched the freaking loser!

Hi eureka! It is really sorry state of affairs if a husband calls his wife dumb or stupid. He should have some understanding and should see to it that his wife cannot handle two jobs i.e. washing clothes and handling the baby simultaneously. This proves that the husband is not only inhuman, insensitive but a selfish person. I think, in this case, ignoring his unwanted comments would be the best option.

eurekafemme, In all fairness, I am sure you would agree that people will react differently when they are depressed or stressed and there's no exemption for this man as per say in this discussion. Please do not take that I am condoning or supporting what the man did, but I am sure you are wary of how people will react at the spur of the moment. It is always a challenging challenge when there's a new arrival into the family and no matter how many one would have before, each new member would pose new problems. What's more for the first baby, where all it can do is cry to signal its hunger, discomfort, agitation and fright, where everything at the first onslaught is equivalent to buying a local lottery ticket - guessing for the right action. I think instead of having ill feeling on the man here, I hope that we can spare a thought for the woman here. I am sure she needs our credit and support for what she has done, taking everything into stride. Her man may be in the wrong but I am sure he will learn his lessons one day. If I am in any position here, I would really love to pull him aside and him an earful about being a good husband and father. Since I am not and unable to, I just have to draw some comfort from another logical perspective where it says that it takes a dumber person not to know a smart person. Take care and have a nice day.

It's just abuse plain and simple. I wouldnt put up with much of it at all. It is not a loving way to speak to someone, and I would tell him to shape up or ship out.

That man is abusive. If he goes on with that, I think the woman should do something to stop the abuse from getting worse. She is getting no help from him in the work at home, so that in itself is a form of abuse. Then he verbally abuses her. I think the woman should start thinking if she would like to live that kind of life for the rest of her married life.

be sure that if it was me even im not married i know that if my hubby did that and treat me that way like im his slave i would end that marriage and take care of my baby on my own. im doing that already in that case right? those men are stupid and have no value. they just see his wife as someone to make his wishes. unfortunately there are still men like that that dont respect women. so sad :( anyway all women to whom their husbands talk like that should get divorced bcs no one needs someone near them that just makes them feel more unhappy. we need someone that makes us feel happy not one that treat us like trash. poor women that are on that situation :(

I often wonder. If women didn't put up with such bad behavior from their men would the men climb up to a higher standard for themselves?

That man is stupid! I think he is dumb for calling his wife that bad name. If he is smart enough then he wont be allowing his wife to do all those house work and take care of their kids. He has insecurities and its so serious the wife is suffering because of that.

Ya, it is hard and cruel when someone call u dumb especially if that person is close relationship.Sometime it is during a heat of argument or under duress like baby crying.It takes a man to remain calm and objective. Refusing to argue with him is a good way to reduce the tension.It takes one to know one especially those people are hot tempered and easy lash out.

well you got a point thee, how can you explain to someone think that you are a dumb he will never trust your answer... if someone calls me that I will rebuke him in Jesus name! Not only because I'm mad that he calls me that but because I'm not giving his words a chance to penetrate me! The reason why he called his wife stupid it is simply because He does not have any responsibility and commitment to himself to be good, and simply because he is the real stupid. Pity him... God bless.

Sometimes we are doing things that are not intentional maybe but for some reason we are doing so but on the case of calling dumb her wife or saying stupid is showing of disrespect it is not manly.You married this woman because you love her and not calling her in anyway but he should be careful with words he is saying for It might get hurt maybe he got problem or not knowing what to do but he should asked in a rightful manner.

Definitely a form of abuse Mental and Verbal abuse to be exact but any kind of abuse is never good. What I don't understand, is why some men feel like they can talk to their wives that way.I boyfriend would never talk to me that way, I wouldnt talk to him like that either.Its something we call respect. We have respect for each other. I dont know about that man problem but it seems like he lack self confidence. Sounds like a coward to me. And he's quite controlling. I wouldnt stay to long or long at all w/ a man like that. I'm heated. Subjects like this really gets to me! I'm not sure if that poor woman is even safe in this relationship. But either way. Happy Mylotting

I think it is a common word which is used to abuse a person and should be taken littlely.. I would have done nothing and taken dumb for nothing..

when your in a relation, you gotta have ''relation problems'' Dont act like you all are the perfect couple and never have any disagreement.

If I had a boyfriend that called me dumb or stupid I would dump his butt. I deserve detter than that as does every woman. I couldnt stand to be in a relationship where I would be treated like dirt.

It is a confidence issue, I know alot of guys who are like this, they put up this defense mechanism so they attack befroe you can see the weakness in their armour, so the best way to look big is by bellittling those around them all you can do is keep loving them and showing them they are worth more, as this stems from how their dad or even mother broke them down.

It is pure verbal and mental abuse. In addition, it will only get worse. Abuse should not be tolerated. I would think of leaving for a peace of mind for the wife and child!

The dumb person out here is not he wife but her husband. What kind of a man is he if he cannot help her out with the household work. Forget about the household work, he is not even able to pacify a child. She must have lot of trouble staying with him but then I guess it's the love for him that she has in her heart makes her normal. For me it depends on who calls you 'DUMB' and in what situation. We have friends with whom teasing and small pranks are played. During these times it's okay for me as I would be taking it lightly. If the same prank or teasing goes on when the situation is serious and I am then called a 'DUMB', I am sure I will be having a huge argument. My reaction would depend, on the situation and the people who are around me.